Feeling very, very sad

mandi

Kitty Babe ..

Post this In DT.. I know its not exactly the place you would think .. But you WILL get so many more responses.

I have so much sympathy for you , wish I could do more ..........


Good luck Hunnie .. thinking of you


Mandi xx

mandi

Bump .............................

chardonnay_2

kittykate it sounds like you are going through a terrible time (hugs). if you go to your doctor i am sure they will sign you off with stress / anxiety due to circumstances. your parents are more important than any job

mandi

and bump

belfastgirl23

Hi Kittykate

I think I've read posts by you before where you've been worried but now you sound completely distraught.

I know you might feel that taking sick time isn't fair as you aren't sick. But honestly from an outside perspective you are definitely not well. Personally I think if you don't take some time out soon you are really going to become ill and not be able to do anything for the people you love or be able to work. I do think you should see your GP as soon as possible and see what their recommendation is.

You're in the position we all dread right now!! hope it all goes ok for you over Christmas

kate1976

Hugs kittykate, you've been through a lot and it's only natural to feel like it's taking it's toll! Your parents must be so glad to have you as a daughter, take care of them but take care of you too!

Love & wishes to you.
xxxxx

haylibo

But honestly from an outside perspective you are definitely not well. Personally I think if you don't take some time out soon you are really going to become ill

Have followed this thread and have to agree with Belfastgirl. It sounds very much like the early stages of depression and it's time to start helping yourself too. You need to look around at what help and support you can get and to push (I know, not enough push left in you) for more help for your Dad. Shout louder and go to your GP, he/she may give advice on your parents situations too if it is apparent you are overstretched and they are sympathetic. You need to put what remaining energy you have into longer term help otherwise you won't sustain this. You sound like a dream of a daughter and very thoughtful but sometimes we have to be a little more calculating than simply nice.

Wishing you the very best and a speedy recovery for both your parents. I'm not sure whether I can suggest this on here but lots of women with breast cancer have had good results following the Plant Programme, Plant is the name of the author and you can probably get it on Amazon etc.

All the best,

Hayles
x

Never_Enough_Money

Hi Kittykate


After reading your post I felt sad for you, I have to say, what a lovely daughter you must be. It must be really hard for you, but your parents have one good thing, they have a loving and supportive daughter.

Hope things get better for you.

elona

Kittykate

Ask for a MacMillans nurse - they are fantastic and will help you get what help there is.

I agree with the others that you need sick leave and that the unequal treatment your boss is giving is not helping.

Sometimes you need to go backwards to go forward - if that makes any sense.

Big hug and you are a fantastic daughter.

pavlovs_dog

just to echo advice already given really, but i would definately look into statuatory sick pay and being signed off, and see what benefits you can claim for yourself and your parenst respectively. failing that, put your case in writing to a higer human reources section of the company or your area manager, or your union if you belong to one and see if that will have an effect.

remember that you need to take care of yourself in order to be able to help your parents. we're here if you need us, even if all we can do is offer an ear, a shoulder to cry on and friendly advice xx