We'd like to remind Forumites to please avoid political debate on the Forum... Read More »
This is to keep it a safe and useful space for MoneySaving discussions. Threads that are - or become - political in nature may be removed in line with the Forum’s rules. Thank you for your understanding.
We're aware that some users are experiencing technical issues which the team are working to resolve. See the Community Noticeboard for more info. Thank you for your patience.
📨 Have you signed up to the Forum's new Email Digest yet? Get a selection of trending threads sent straight to your inbox daily, weekly or monthly!
There's nothing wrong with venting, please don't delete for our sake. Those things are part of the picture and your anger is valid: hiding the reality from us doesn't change it. I know PMT doesn't help at all but it's also a real part of the pressures you have to bear.
If your husband really feels guilty, he'll get a job, even if it's a few hours a week to pay for his smokes. Cleaning and cooking is nice, but only if it lasts.
I think a bit of sunshine is good for frugal living. (Cranky40)
The sun's been out and I think I’m solar powered (Onebrokelady)
Fashion on the Ration 2025: Fabric 2, men's socks 3, Duvet 7.5, 2 t-shirts 10, men's socks 3, uniform top 0, hat 0, shoes 5 = 30.5/68
2024: Trainers 5, dress 7, slippers 5, 2 prs socks (gift) 2, 3 prs white socks 3, t-shirts x 2 10, 6 prs socks: mostly gifts 6, duvet set 7.5 = 45.5/68 coupons
20.5 coupons used in 2020. 62.5 used in 2021. 94.5 remaining as of 21/3/22
There's nothing wrong with venting, please don't delete for our sake. Those things are part of the picture and your anger is valid: hiding the reality from us doesn't change it. I know PMT doesn't help at all but it's also a real part of the pressures you have to bear.
If your husband really feels guilty, he'll get a job, even if it's a few hours a week to pay for his smokes. Cleaning and cooking is nice, but only if it lasts.
Exactly this ☝🏻 - pls keep posting Fox - congrats to stepson on the new job and hope it guilts Mr Fox into gainful employment of his own.
suggestion to work out what stepson will be paying for keep on monthly basis before he gets used to the extra money
Lancashire PV 5.04kWp SW facing Solar Battery 6.5 kWh 🐙 Intelligent Go
Mortgage freedom January 2024 - paid off 7 years early by making overpayments where we could.
Pleased to hear that you came back yesterday to a clean kitchen & a meal cooked for you. A much better homecoming than the previous day. Please do keep posting, vent if you want to, as much as you like, you need to get things off your chest & not bottle them up.
Agree with dawnybabes re working dog food - it is very economical compared to most other brands. The one I'm thinking of is W@gg. As it's aimed at working dogs, it might satisfy your dog's appetite. KA
some agency placements pay weekly. i'd ask for a weekly contribution
Mortgage at 01.01.14 £119,481.83:eek: today £0 Emergency fund £5.5/5.5k & £200/200 cash.:jWeight 24/02/19 14st 7lb now 12st determined to stop defining myself by my mistakes. Progress not perfection.:T100%through my 1% mortgage challenge. 100% through my pb challenge.
Weekly contribution is currently set at £40 a week. He has to get himself through driving lessons etc. It's £160 more a month than I had before, so I shan't complain. If he is out 5 days a week working he will have less time to sit around and eat and use electricity.
I will put my foot down at his ex girlfriend and baby coming to stay for more than 2 nights though. I cannot keep feeding this many people, and if he is going to be in work, then it will be just Mr Fox and ex-GF at home with the baby for a week. And there is limited point in the baby being there, if not to interact with its father.... I think a lot of the people in my life are opening their mouths without engaging their brains.
Mr Fox went to buy dinner earlier as he said he wanted to cook for when I get home. He got a 2 person lasagna and thought it would be enough for the four of us. Suppose he was rather shocked by the price, bless him.
❀ total
debt at LBM 01/2023: £47,178.76 ❀ debt at highest point: £51,062.14❀
£1600+ made on vinted since 2023 ⚜ we could get better, because we're not dead yet - frank turner. ❧ ------------------------------------------------------------------------
Fox, why is his EX girlfriend coming to stay at all, can’t he have the baby one or evenings without her? And why are you expected to feed them all, it sounds like stepson has learnt from his dad that you will do everything for everyone with little in return. You are worth so much more than this.
Fox, glad you’re feeling better today and please use this to vent. I’m going to ignore the stepson/hubby stuff, as you can probably imagine my view and they should be blessing you!
What I will say is please look after yourself if you’re feeling fed up with life. Speak to your GP about talking therapy’s, chat to your friends or speak to the mental health first aiders at work. I really think you could benefit so much from some counselling, does your work provide a hotline for these things? I think lots of councils do.
I do think you’ll have a better relationship with money if you have some counselling about the rest of your life and how you are feeling. I don’t know you but I think I’d feel completely overwhelmed in your situation with so many people leaning on you. You need some support.
14.05.2014 Total unsecured debt £15,360.99 20.06.2024 Total unsecured debt £15,087.29 29.07.24 Total - £15,681 12.09.24 - £16,187 oops….. Oct 24 - £18,325 Nov 24 - £18,185 Dec 24 - £18,131 Jan 25 -£18,347
You have so much going on you must be exhausted. I was unaware the stepson had an ex and baby coming to stay as well. It’s just too much for one person to take on all this responsibility. If you worked yesterday at the election no doubt that was a long and tiring day so you should be using today to rest and relax not listing items on Vinted and Facebook to raise a few extra pounds to pay the electrician.
What shines through in your posts are your own wants and needs are not anywhere in the list of priorities. If you always put yourself last by trying to please everyone else then sadly over time it will take a toll on you leaving you feeling burnt out and low. At the end of the day the only responsibilities you have are for you and your daughter. I really think you could benefit from some therapy to explore the reasons for doing this and develop some strategies so that you are more comfortable in a conflict situation and are able to assert your own wants and needs.
