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He told you to "eff off" !!!!! Why on earth are you taking this.
What are you getting from this marriage. He doesn't love you. You don't treat people you love like this. And his son isn't a nice boy, he's just as cunning and as manipulative as his layabout father. The apple hasn't fallen far from the tree.
Time to ditch this man and his brood. This is abuse pure and simple. They are treating you like a slave. When they have drained your money and your very life force, they will move on to their next victim.
Don't get cross, get yourself a good lawyer. No matter how much it costs it will be worth every penny.
I truly feel sorry for you but you must wake up, before it's too late because you are sleepwalking your way to disaster. If not for you, then do it for your daughter.
Made me so sad to read your earlier comments fox You honestly need to stand up for yourself and put you and little fox first There is no money for tobacco or other members of the family leaching off you; if they want those things they need to go and earn the money for it!
Don’t let them continue to treat you like this; you’re worth so much more x
I missed your earlier comments Fox but that sounds !!!!!!! Please chat to your friends or any mental health first aiders etc at work as from what I can interpret being treated like this is abusive and probably verging on Modern Day Slavery if he wasn’t your husband!!! Also please read “Block Delete Move On” or follow Lalalaletmeexplain or Mama_Wilder on Instagram!!!! This sounds like you are subject to coercive control etc
14.05.2014 Total unsecured debt £15,360.99 20.06.2024 Total unsecured debt £15,087.29 29.07.24 Total - £15,681 12.09.24 - £16,187 oops….. Oct 24 - £18,325 Nov 24 - £18,185 Dec 24 - £18,131 Jan 25 -£18,347
But whatever you do please keep posting honestly about your life if that helps you process things. As it’s your life and your choices xx
14.05.2014 Total unsecured debt £15,360.99 20.06.2024 Total unsecured debt £15,087.29 29.07.24 Total - £15,681 12.09.24 - £16,187 oops….. Oct 24 - £18,325 Nov 24 - £18,185 Dec 24 - £18,131 Jan 25 -£18,347
i think you need to ask yourself what you would say to a friend living your life.
take care
Mortgage at 01.01.14 £119,481.83:eek: today £0 Emergency fund £5.5/5.5k & £200/200 cash.:jWeight 24/02/19 14st 7lb now 12st determined to stop defining myself by my mistakes. Progress not perfection.:T100%through my 1% mortgage challenge. 100% through my pb challenge.
I know you’re on the spectrum and sometimes it’s hard to understand what’s right and wrong in a relationship. Have you any friend in RL you can talk to about this ?
Although I have missed your previous post, I am getting the general feel of it. He has shown his true colours again. Like you, I have seen it all before from my XH. Making him leave will initially be hard and you would wonder if you are doing the right thing. He will say things that will sound like you will not cope without him, but you already are. You are bringing in all of the money, looking after your child plus him and his children, you look after the house and the dog. You don't have to put up with it. I promise you that life with just you and your DD will be so much easier and money will be better.
Me, DD1 19, DS 17, DD2 14, Debt Free 04/18, Single Mum since 11/19
Debt £2547.60 / £2547.60
Came home yesterday to a v guilty Mr Fox and stepson. Stepson had taken himself to a job agency and now has a job starting next week. Mr Fox had cleaned kitchen and cooked dinner. I went to bed early after listing more things on Vinted, none of which have sold yet. Grrr.
I deleted because I don't want you all worrying about me! I just needed to vent, and then I realised that that was not a great idea. I am approaching burn out, and I can feel it coming, so will take adequate steps to prevent it hitting as badly as it did last summer. I am pretty sick of being alive currently. Never mind, I just got my period.
I'm working the election tomorrow and I have the day off on Friday, so that will do me some good. I can burn through my listing piles, and put stuff up on FB Marketplace, and generally try and get extra pennies together. Electrician coming Saturday morning, so shed needs to be emptied, so we can then take it down this weekend, do some tip runs and reclaim some more of the garden.
I think we are going to switch the dog onto raw food instead of Butternut, as the Butternut is costing an absolute fortune and he is still hungry after he's eaten. Should save about £90 a month.
❀ total
debt at LBM 01/2023: £47,178.76 ❀ debt at highest point: £51,062.14❀
£1600+ made on vinted since 2023 ⚜ we could get better, because we're not dead yet - frank turner. ❧ ------------------------------------------------------------------------
My dog loves raw meat (as I’m cooking tea) but would not eat raw food at all - she’s a fussy !!!!!! but when I looked after my friends dogs she loved their food and raced to get to it over her own. It’s a cheap sack of working dog food so she’s now on that 🤣🤣
