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Money Moral Dilemma: Should I ask my friend for money after he sold the car we gave him?
edited 11 October 2022 at 2:08PM in Marriage, relationships & families
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BUT it sounds like he told you a downright lie when he said he'd scrapped the car but in fact had sold it. That to me would be completely unacceptable..instead of being straight up and honest with you, he told you a fib.
It's as if he's flinging your generosity back in your face and sticking two fingers up to you in the process.
So my advice would be, forget about the money he got from selling the car and put it down to experience. But ditch this guy as a friend - it will be his loss. Nobody needs friends like him.
One of the elements here is the conviction of the givers that the car had no problems. That doesn't mean that it had no problems, and even more so, it doesn't mean that it didn't develop problems after you gave it away. That's always an awkward situation... and giving someone a car is a gift that comes with strings not of your making anyway as there are costs for the recipient which he may not have been able to manage (road tax, insurance). (Perhaps he didn't do due diligence before accepting the gift)
Being in financial difficulties doesn't bring out the best in people and panic decisions get made that don't seem to make sense to those in less difficult circumstances - the priority is day to day. I reckon there are some possible flags in this story that he may be in more trouble than it seems.
My mate passed his driving test, couldnt afford a car and i was getting a newer one so said he could have mine to use .
Only two things i asked for at the end is he sells it and gives me the cash. Of course i think id have sold it for a little more. But he sold it and gave me the cash. Helps it was a friend of 25+ years