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Money Moral Dilemma: Should I ask my friend for money after he sold the car we gave him?
edited 11 October 2022 at 2:08PM in Marriage, relationships & families
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Your friend was made redundant and was obviously desperate for cash so he sold the car you gave him. You have helped your friend enormously, even if it's not the way you intended.
Please don't turn your exceptionally generous gesture into something horrible. Your friend still hasn't found work so how is he going to repay you anyway? If you had wanted to sell the car then maybe that's what you should have done in the first place.
Running a car is not cheap - tax, insurance, petrol, MOT, etc. Older cars just do need more work doing that many of us can't afford either because they don't last forever, sadly. You didn't even want your wife's old car.
Let it go, your friend needs your empathy and help more than demands for money he doesn't have. That isn't what friends do to each other.
It seems fairly obvious that the intention behind the gift was "here is a car to get you get around and find a job" and not "here's an item you can sell for cash". Otherwise they could have just given him the cash...
You obviously cannot demand the money back as they've done nothing wrong legally, but the fact so many of you think that's an acceptable way to treat a friend is depressing.
Unfortunately some people think and act very differently than others. Your friend obviously has a completely different way of thinking.
Turn the tables and ask yourself what this friend would do, then maybe reprioritise what you deem to be a "friend " x
It's a MSE Dilemma, you don't get to ask questions to get more information - but in the case of no job, can't pay bills, can't eat, then any friend asking for the money back is depressing. Not the person trying to live.
I think it's only going to get worse, but people really shouldn't feel bad in saying they have no money, especially if unemployed in this financial climate. Friends would understand.
It later transpired that the donated car was immediately sold.
Yes the car was a gift - but the need was presented to us as a requirement for getting around. I'm not massively flush myself. and I could have sold the car, so a small part of me feels a bit let down.