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  • Willowtree222
    Willowtree222 Posts: 8,283 Forumite
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    What a lovely post, Alt. Sounds like your wife has been on her own journey as well and is also seeing things differently. 

    It's a shame some of her relatives have to mention the past. I wonder if it makes them feel superior somehow. Their actions say more about their own personality and behaviour though. It only takes one wrong turn for any one of us to end up in difficult positions. Financially or personally. 

    I love Christmas so I am in my element at the minute! 
    September 2017 Debt = £25330

    Starting afresh.

    You can do anything if you put your mind to it. x
  • katsu
    katsu Posts: 5,029 Forumite
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    Consider them to be suffering from foot and mouth @alt80. It's either being nosey or thoughtless.  They don't need to speak about the past and who you used to be.  You and your wife have changed so much. 

    I think they are the people for the Mel Robins "let them" where you recognise they are just what they are and you focus on how you feel and making the best decisions for you. 

    There are lots of people whose opinions add no value to my life I find 🤭  They aren't in my heart and I can't change what they think and feel. 

    I'm really proud of Mrs Alt for recognising the limitations of her decisions and behaviours, and changing her ways in response.  Memories are the most valuable "thing".  
    Debt at highest: £8k. Debt Free 31/12/2009. Original MFD May 2036, MF Dec 2018.
  • daisy_1571
    daisy_1571 Posts: 2,236 Forumite
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    Wow thats a sincere apology from Mrs alt there.  Glad she recognised her part in the whole sorry mess, hopefully over time you will be more understanding that EVERYONE  has regrets and they deserve not to be thumped over the head with them every day, you too will hopefully have more and more time between episodes of self reproach. 

    I hope these awful rude people didn't spoil the day for you all.  Your inlaws and their wider family do seem incredibly outspoken and boorish (they maybe aren't and its just the tiny bits we hear about them, apologies if I offend).  I couldn't imagine ever bringing stuff like that up, especially in company,  if the person themselves didn't quietly bring it up themselves and want to talk.

    I'm very glad to read so much positive in your news.  I hope you are also able to start to move on from keeping your son young and start to enjoy the growth towards his young adulthood and spending time with the person he will eventually become.  

    Daisy xxx 
    22: 3🏅 4⭐ 23: 5🏅 6 ⭐ 24 1🏅 2⭐ 25 🏅 🥈⭐ Never save something for a special occasion. Every day is a special occasion. The diff between what you were yesterday and what you will be tomorrow is what you do today Well organised clutter is still clutter - Joshua Becker If you aren't already using something you won't start using it more by shoving it in a cupboard- AJMoney The barrier standing between you & what youre truly capable of isnt lack of info, ideas or techniques. The secret is 'do it'
  • Humdinger1
    Humdinger1 Posts: 2,389 Forumite
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    @alt80 you and your family are utterly magnificent!  Pay no attention to negative wider family.  They seem stuck in the past.  Maybe it's worth slipping in that old saying 'Drop old grievances, if only to pick up new ones'. Made me laugh like a drain when I first heard it and it did help me to let go.  Love Humdinger x
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