Weekly Flylady Thread 22nd August 2022

YORKSHIRELASS

Hi all

I have spent most of the day at our annual village fair.  You would be proud of me, I chatted to lots of people.  When DS was very little I was friendly with another Mum in the village who had a son the same age.  Anyway she moved house, the kids got older, and we havent seen each other for years.  Bumped into her today and she invited me for coffee some time.  I dont do popping to other people's houses for coffee, in fact with the exception of you lot I keep most people firmly at arms length these days, but I am sort of wondering if I should go ..

Flying has been limited to putting some clean washing away.  No idea what the plan is for tomorrow.

pigpen

Next time I mention we are going to the inlaws will someone please remind me what an absolute shower of.. sh... faeces today was???

Dot was absolutely horrendous.. mil insisted we went out to eat.. 9 people, Dot in sensory overload, on the verge of meltdown and behaving like a baboon.. ordered food.. uneventful.. food came.. sil's gravy blobbed onto her chicken like 2 brown loogies.. Dot pizza was incinerated (cue meltdown) and my 'scampi' was in fact garlic breaded mushrooms.. I am allergic to garlic, it makes my tummy incredibly poorly, very quickly.. hence 3 of 9 meals being returned.. sil says 'I'm going to sit with OH so we can chat' .. Dot wants sil to stay so says 'why? He doesn't even like you' .. cue sil hystrionics and Dot going into full meltdown because she doesn't understand why sil is bawling.. in the pub..

Dot sat outside flinging her shoes and chewing her big toe.. sil came outside and her OH and they kept trying to talk to Dot in crisis.. 5 times I asked them to not talk to her and leave her alone.. in the end she calmed down a bit and I took her back inside to finish her dinner.. and blow me.. sil's OH came over to talk at her again.. I may have raised my voice and dished out a few choice words.. but for fluff sake.. the child is a child.. sil is a 40 year old woman..

mil says ' why does she behave like this?' ... 'Because this is how autism makes people behave!!' How the heck do they think this effects people.. 'will she grow out of it?' ... seriously?.... and.. 'is she the only one like this?' ...  I give up..

Sil was eventually taken home having not eaten, Dot was left alone to eat her pizza and play on her ipad and not wear shoes like a feral beast and I managed not to kill anyone..

I am really angry that they blamed a child for sil's carry on.. she is utterly unaware of other people having feelings.. she says what is in her head and will say anything to make people do what she wants.. sil totally over-reacted, which she did admit to.

I did speak to Dot and say she must apologise to her aunt because that was a mean thing to say and hurt her heart and made her sad. That it was not a kind thing to say to someone she loves.

In the end Dot did not apologise but she let her aunt hold her dinosaur.. then hugged her a bit later.. but I honestly never want to leave the house with Dot again.

As for flying.. I de-iced MIL's freezer and tidied it all up so she has a whole empty drawer and I removed the mini rolls..

ionafan

Pigpen, I'm sure the mini rolls would have gone bad if left in the freezer!
Seriously, I went from this thread onto FB and the first thing I read reminded me so much of Dot.  It ended with a quote from Friedrich Nietzsche:
"And those who were seen dancing, were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music."
Follow this link and scroll down to 24 Aug at 20:49 if you want to read the full story.

I have just hung out the last load of washing from yesterday.  The rest has dried overnight.

Hope everyone has a peaceful Sunday xx

roundtuit

Good morning ladies xx

👋 to early bird iona ❤ xx

I'm up, because my brain doesn't know the difference between a non working and a working day ...sigh. I've made my bed, made a brew, knotted the kitchen bin liner and hung it on the door handle ready to go out, put a clean bin liner in the bin (where else?) and towel & tea towels are swishing. Clean towels in the bathroom. 

piggers - Dot is so lucky to have you for a mum. I remember being told that other people have feelings too too. I was astounded. But it made sense. I was in my mid-twenties! And it was the manager where I worked at the time who enlightened me. Growing up I used to think that everyone had a book of rules and I didn't have one. And later I remember saying that everyone was marching to a drum that I can't hear. iona - I do wish someone had explained to me that I was hearing my own music and it was OK to dance to it. Heyho. I worked it out eventually....and to be honest I think we all hear our own music to some degree. It just looks odd when your dancing to Meatloaf and everyone around you can hear Mozart. 
(Sorry. Sometimes I need reminding that it's OK not to be everyone's cup of tea..... because I'm coffee! )

I want to work out a bit of a plan for the week to make sure I don't fritter it away. It'll have to be on paper though. 📃.  I'm a tad old fashioned 😊

Have a lovely weekend. Thinking about you HB - hope all goes well.
Hugs
Rxx

Valli

Morning all

in bed with a coffee as per.
no washing to peg out because there’s not enough to justify running the WM.
DW not run because it too hasn’t enough to do.
Valance repaired, ironed and back on the bed.  Bed made.

Meeting my friends at the Artisan market later.  Tea at the Aged Ps.  I have promised to make Lemon Drizzle Cake for the breast cancer afternoon tea fundraiser so must buy lemons.  Easy recipe and bakes in a loaf tin.

And you lot need a thread.

erm, Round… just a question…just a thought…I was kind of wondering, because Flyladies don’t normally do such things as far as I know…but why were you googling Voodoo dolls in the first place? Now if it were Pigpen I probably wouldn’t even have asked, given the visit to the in-laws.

YORKSHIRELASS

Oh Pigpen I want to give Dot a cuddle - well she would probably hate that but, you know.  Many years ago when DS1 (somewhere on the spectrum but not officially diagnosed because that was his choice) was suffering with really bad anxiety and just could not deal with being in a restaurant my SIL said "do you think he plays on it a bit"  I also regularly got the "maybe its a phase, he might grow out of it".  This is why I cut myself off from everyone close to me.

In the car the other day DS said "do you think I am autistic Mum, I googled it and I think I am".  I said, dont know, and dont care, you are you and I wouldnt change you for the world.

Round I write a plan for every week in my journal, with my favourite coloured pens, when I am going to work, when I am going to exercise, what flying I am going to do, what we are having for tea, any special jobs.  It makes me vary happy.

I most definitely dance to my own tune these days.

So, today, well I feel a tiny bit groggy after the wine yesterday.  DS1 is at work - he is driving a horsebox today (with half a tonne of highly strung horse in it) which worries me endlessly so we will just put that thought away somewhere.  His GF is with us after they stayed last night, DH is still in bed.

I want to go for a walk across the moors and see the heather, but not sure if DH will be keen.  I am under a blanket on the sofa with the dog.  Might look at my finance spreadsheets and drink more coffee.

Have a lovely Sunday all xx

roundtuit

Towels and tea towels pegged out. I wore my fleece over my nightie to protect any overlooking children. Far twot  for that  really🥵 Then my knickers fell down. In the middle of the lawn. I just stepped out of them and put them in my pocket. And carried on. As I thought that was more decorous than putting them back on in the middle of the lawn. Still thinking of overlooking childers you see. Such a nice caring flylady me. 😇

Sooo thoughtful, and sympathetic,  and empathetic and all those other -pathetics. HONEST. Smiling (what I think is) winningly at Valli. 😁. Will you let me stay if I promise not to Google voodoo dolls again? Pleeeaaassseee. I was reaching the end of my tether with a colleague. A supremely annoying colleague. The harder I try, the more annoying she is sort of colleague. And I'm pretty sure that her annoying is going to outdo my trying. And pinning a colleague to the wall isn't allowed at work....my Team Lead said it would lead to disciplinary measures. I asked. You never know if there's a loophole if you don't ask. (Before you ban me for life - I wouldn't actually do it! I find that just mentioning it is enough to make people wary tbh. 😊 ) so that's why I came home one evening and Googled voodoo dolls. And sent a picture to the Team Lead in case she wanted to buy one. 

Moving on..... whistling nonchalantly....


YL - good for you xx  I'm sure my mum just thought she'd spawned an alien. But, with hindsight, I believe that she was on the spectrum too. Well I know we all are, but ykwim. I'm not diagnosed. Don't need to be. I try to work with my strengths and acknowledge my weaknesses. And, touch wood, I haven't had a meltdown for months. (Not even while pushed to the limits and not strangling people) Shhhh. Don't want to tempt fate. 

YL - I can feel a use for all my coloured pens and unused notebooks developing. I really do want to be organised, decluttered and erm not have to pretend it's Halloween in August. 

I may be a while....

I really do love you ladies
Rxx
 

Goodintentions

Good morning 😁
I'm sorry I have been quiet, but I have been following along. Hugs, sticks & spoons to those that need them. 
I have been awake for a while, and have my 2nd cuppa. DH has been for a run & had a bath. I really, REALLY need him to finish building the shed today. It was delivered on 5th July - nearly 8 weeks ago!! We have stopped putting the bikes (4 adult sized) in the DR every night, so they are sitting on the patio. The summerhouse is full of "shed" stuff, and I haven't been able to use the garden for the children during the summer holidays 😢 It is soooo frustrating!! He has had a week off during that time, and had an extra "day off" on Friday (he is a postie). 
Anyhoo.....
I now have a week off! 😁 My plan was to crack on and get sorted. I have toys to sort, paperwork to catch up on and of course some flying! I also need to put in a few hours at the allotment. Round, maybe we should buddy up to keep each other going! 😂 I may pop up to DD1's at the end of the week to see DGS 🥰
I had better get moving!
Round 1
Breakfast
Hang out washing 
Decide where to start!!

Have a good day all 😘

Goodintentions

Round you do make me smile 😃 

Goodintentions

Round 1 almost complete....I am still trying to decide where to start!
DH has been in the garden and looked at the shed...he is now inside with a cuppa. DS is talking - incessantly! He is relentless when he gets going - always has been!! He is now 24, not 4 so I am less patient with it!! He needs to get dressed and help his flipping dad, before I murder one of them (or both!!)

Ahh! That feels better!! 😂😂