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Our little cat is now 20.  I’ve never had one that age before and am struggling.

she was diagnosed with kidney problems 2 years ago and has been doing well with the special diet.  She managed to run up the stairs and was eating well.  However she is now getting ragged and thin, struggles to walk upstairs and cries a lot.  The last few days she doesn’t seem to be eating.  I know in my heart it is time to let her go but my husband is not convinced.  I’m an experienced cat owner and have never really not known before.  

I can’t talk about it without crying.  Part of the problem is that now we’re getting older we probably won’t get another cat (we’re 69/73) as we don’t want to be too old to look after one when we get older.

I’m going to ring the vet tomorrow for a chat

Thank you for reading, I know many of you will have been in the same boat.  
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  • donnac2558donnac2558 Forumite
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    I am sorry, but you really need to do the best for your cat.   She sounds as if she has come to the end, and you do not want her suffering. 

    Make an appointment and bring her to the vet, let him check and go with him advice.
  • Marmaduke123Marmaduke123 Forumite
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    You're not too old to have another cat in due course. I'm older than you and planning to have one in a couple of months, following the euthanasia of my last cat a month or so ago. A neighbour and family members have offered to take on any new cat if it outlives me, which really helped me to make up my mind.

    It's a tough decision to put a beloved pet to sleep but you mustn't let your cat suffer. Euthanasia is very gentle and quick.
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    Claddagh_NoirCladdagh_Noir Forumite
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    edited 3 May at 12:45PM
    Our little cat is now 20.  I’ve never had one that age before and am struggling.

    she was diagnosed with kidney problems 2 years ago and has been doing well with the special diet.  She managed to run up the stairs and was eating well.  However she is now getting ragged and thin, struggles to walk upstairs and cries a lot.  The last few days she doesn’t seem to be eating.  I know in my heart it is time to let her go but my husband is not convinced.  I’m an experienced cat owner and have never really not known before.  

    I can’t talk about it without crying.  Part of the problem is that now we’re getting older we probably won’t get another cat (we’re 69/73) as we don’t want to be too old to look after one when we get older.

    I’m going to ring the vet tomorrow for a chat

    Thank you for reading, I know many of you will have been in the same boat.  
    Hi Murphybear. 

    I am so sorry you are going through this.  I have been there.  

    I hope no one bites my head off but I do not agree with telling someone to get another cat / dog  while their are grieving or about to grieve the loss of the present pet.  I have had it said to me once when our cat passed away suddenly some years ago. 

    A pet owner knows when it is time, we do not want to think about it or face it.  I agree with the other posters where they say this is the last loving thing you can do for them.  It's such a shame they cannot verbalise that they are not well, but we can just tell in their eyes and behaviour.  It's also a shame that pets do not live as long as we do.

    In regards to having the vet come to you, I hear it can be very expensive but would probably be for the best if the pet gets stressed in the carrier.  Cats always seem to do a deep and lingering meow when they are in their carrier. 

    I hope your vet is supportive and talks everything through with you.   I cannot fault my vet. We knew for some time that the inevitable was coming but one day we just knew and luckily the vet saw us the same day. 

    Hopefully, you can make a colleage or picture book spanning all the years of Murphybear.  She looks gorgeous in the avatar by the way. 

    You are in my thoughts. 
  • TripleHTripleH Forumite
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    I'm so sorry 😞
    We have had a few wobbles with our 17 year old over the last 3 years but the way she's going, she'll probably outlive our middle 2.
    My wife's aunt has got a new cat. He is a 10 year old who sadly lost his owner. According to SIL, he's nice and calm and just wants a warm lap to see out his years.
    This suits the aunt as she is mid 70's and husband is late 70's.
    Wherever you go, whatever you do Richard Marx is right there waiting for you.

    Sweet dreams!
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