Big life decision

elsien

My family are from Stoke. It went rapidly downhill when the potteries all went to the wall, and there’s not much taken their place. It’s also a series of smaller towns linked together, some better than others. 

Although you obviously have a budget, I would have a serious think about what’s important to you in a move and get a list of priorities for the area you want to live in. Do that before you start looking at houses. Sometimes they’re cheap for a reason. 

enthusiasticsaver

Try reading a diary of @another_casualty He moved from London on his own to Poole a few years back although he did know one person in the area. 

Sncjw

I find it concerning your deciding to move to Stoke when you haven't heard of it until yesterday. 

When you say private places won't take you on unless you live there have you tried applying for jobs yet. I would personally wait until you secured a job first before moving even if It means moving to rented place before hand. 

Have you told your boyfriend you don't want to move to Germany? You also say it can't carry on for long doing long distance. So what do you think will happen there. 

I think you need to take a deep breath because sounds like your making too tash discions. Look at your soa you mention you took out a phone contract during a high episode and regret it. You  need to take time to work out your best plan of action. 

Also even of your a cash buyer when you have sold your home you may still be part of a chain. It can take months to complete a sale onl your house when you have found a buyer and obtain the money..plus it's stressful process. How will you cope during this if your have highs and lows. 
Even then it could take months for a buyer to put in an offer. 

It's not a quick fix.

PM22

Thank you all for your replies. 

For now, I am going to do nothing. I will pay my bills as best I can and go from there.
My boyfriend knows I am not coming to Germany, he cannot leave his son there so that's us done. 
He's the only man I've ever trusted and loved so it's a great shame. 

I am such a recluse, moving to Stoke makes sense to me. It doesn't matter what is or what is not going on outside the front door - I don't go out much so it really doesn't affect me. I would need to work though so I will need to think more carefully about that. I'm good at my job at least so less worried than I should perhaps be.

My licence is up for renewal with DVLA in November and I am not compliant with my treatment plan so I must hold on until then as I may lose my licence again. 

I'm off to bed, give my weary head a rest. Thanks for all the excellent advice and support. No one shot me down in flames!
- Appreciated!

moving_forward

Not compliant with treatment plan has just jumped out at me.
This could be why your having a bad episode. 
As for being a loner it's called being introverted. Nothing wrong with that but you still need to be somewhere safe. 

PM22

Thank you. I cannot tolerate the side effects of antipsychotics and am having my first episode since last year so not bad going. 

I have a new drug but am waiting until I have a few days off at Easter so I can try it and not be affected at work 

Safety is really important, I agree. Everyone deserves somewhere safe to live

moving_forward

I hope the new drug is the one for you x Its horrid that you have to try different things at a time you need less stress in your life isn't it. Keep fighting 💪

Andyjflet

Good luck with your decisions and try not to make them on the spur of the moment, in your situation. These things need to be planned and worked out.
Plenty of nicer places than stoke, for cheap rates, merseyside gives you a fantastic city, close to the beaches of Southport and Formby, great people and IMO nicer than Stoke.

PM22

Thank you. I need some suggestions like this

RosaBernicia

PM22 said:

Thank you. I need some suggestions like this

Maybe you could have a think about what you want in your new area, and then ask for suggestions to match?  There are lots of options but it will e easier for people to help if we have an idea what you're looking for.  For example, would you like to be near the sea, the hills, a decent coffee shop... ?