Break up I don't want

steveouk

It feels terrible to see a solicitor.  I just want to be able to make up. I said last night to her why can't we work things out and find a way. She said I just yo need to get a car and somewhere to live and move out. 
I cannot do both I don't have much money of my own. 

steveouk

Can't get legal advice in a Saturday? 

MovingForwards

Stop hassling your wife, she's made herself perfectly clear.

Sign up to wikivorce and you'll get guidance about entitlement to assets.

steveouk

Just found wikivorce they have a number I can call later.  

BrassicWoman

steveouk said:

  I just want to be able to make up. I said last night to her why can't we work things out and find a way. 

We've covered this before. Actually loving someone includes respecting their wishes.
Get a solicitor. They will see it without emotion.

steveouk

Spoke with solicitor admin they will book in for Tuesday. 
Wife wants the house keys off me when I move to a flat 

MalMonroe

steveouk said:

Spoke with solicitor admin they will book in for Tuesday. 
Wife wants the house keys off me when I move to a flat 

Hello again. As I said before, I've been through similar and it really is very difficult when you aren't the partner who wants the split. But also when you are upset it's difficult to focus on anything other than your emotions. It really is one of those grieving processes.

But after you have spoken to a solicitor things should be clearer, as BrassicWoman says above, solicitors can help since they are not emotionally involved.

Once you have moved out, yes you should hand the keys to your wife. That doesn't mean that you will lose out but it makes her feel better. Which is what you want for someone when you love them, even when they've decided the relationship is over.

I wish you all the very best, it is a horrible time but you will get through it. I thought I never would but I did. Just be kind to yourself. 

BrassicWoman

I'd say she gets the keys back when you reach a financial settlement, Until that point it is as much your property as hers, no? And she wants to pay you half the equity.

Once that is settled, and it is no longer yours, she is due the keys back. 

Emmia

BrassicWoman said:

I'd say she gets the keys back when you reach a financial settlement, Until that point it is as much your property as hers, no? And she wants to pay you half the equity.

Once that is settled, and it is no longer yours, she is due the keys back. 

If the keys aren't handed over, she'll probably just change the locks* when he's moved out - so no real difference from handing the keys over...

*she may change the locks anyway

sallysaver

Emmia said:

BrassicWoman said:

I'd say she gets the keys back when you reach a financial settlement, Until that point it is as much your property as hers, no? And she wants to pay you half the equity.

Once that is settled, and it is no longer yours, she is due the keys back. 

If the keys aren't handed over, she'll probably just change the locks* when he's moved out - so no real difference from handing the keys over...

*she may change the locks anyway

 I agree with BW's first statement but if she does change the locks, 1) she is doing herself no favours and 2) she's actually breaking the law.  Remember it's your house as well as hers.  Hard as it maybe and difficult, accept the situation (easier said than done) but you have as much right to be in that property as her, certainly at this stage.