Alchemausterity II

Alchemilla

We broke up. It's not the money situation so much as the being asked if there are any issues and point-blank denying it.

I don't think we can come back from the lies as he has already had at least one last chance.

redofromstart

I am sorry to read that, hope you are ok.

greenbee

Sorry to hear your news - after everything you've been through you really don't need to be dealing with lying and deceit. 

Watty1

Sorry to hear the news. You really dont need that.  Sending hugs whatever way this unfolds.

Alchemilla

Thanks all. I am really not ok but you being here means a lot.

I have the kids but I feel very alone. I mean I was alone anyway really.

edinburgher

Sorry to hear your news Al but trust your instincts 🤗

greent

Sorry to hear that, Al. However, you don't need 'undisclosed financial issues' in your life now )(or at any time, really) Sending hugs xx

Alchemilla

Thanks @edinburgher and @greent.

He (finally) told me he was on a DMP (happens I know, but it's the deceit).

Is that going to affect my credit rating?

Watty1

you were not married so it should not do so but i get the deceit part.  I presume at some point your attitude to money (being on an MSE board means you are probably watchful) must have been discussed so to propose and think marriage on the cards without sharing a fundamental like that is, well, surprising to say the least.

earthgirl2

Great that you got the all clear, sorry to hear about the lies. Pleased your trusted your instincts- on a forum we only see a teeny tiny part of life, it's what you see and feel that matters. Hope you are ok x