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KajiKita

Thanks @ladybird1106, @maggiem 😊

I still can’t get used to these early Friday finishes … Just marvellous 😊❤️

Went to the plant centre on my way home and bought lots of ‘useful’ plants, yes, yes … useful … honest! 😉

I made a huge list before leaving work today of all the things I wanted to get done this weekend …
So far I have: 
- Changed both duvet covers, put the summer weight duvet back on the bed with a more breathable, thin, wool blanket and packed up the winter duvet to take for cleaning. 

- Cleaned the TV stand, mantelpiece and both windowsills in the lounge and associated ornaments as far as I could. Three plants in that area tidied up and well watered. 

- Unpacked the cat food delivery box, stored the food, flattened the box and removed all labels and tape so I can use it in the garden 
- Cleaned the water filter jug and refilled the filter, recorded on the calendar when it is next due. 

- Emptied the recycling bin
- Cleaned both litter trays. Madam seems to be using these during the day even through she has free rein through the flap of cat … 🤷‍♀️🙄😉

- Emptied and disassembled cutlery drawer inner, knocked out the crumbs and given it a good scrub. Took the dimensions of the inner and had a look online at a replacement as the backs of the dividers are breaking down and some the cultlery, knives especially, are making bids for escape! 😉 Did some basic repairs with black packing tape and reassembled it. Will wait to discuss possible options with Mr KK before I order. 

- Watered all the pots and some other sections of the garden that seem to be struggling due to lack of rain  … 😢
- Checked my mortgage balance after this month’s payment went out and updated my signature. 

Not a bad start 😊👏

KK

KajiKita

Y’know that thing when you wake up on the wrong side of the bed and just ‘don’t want to!’. Tir3d, frustrated, fed up, impatient, clumsy, the whole works. 

I’m there …

Sigh ….

KK

PennysIntoPounds

Well listen to yourself then! You've had a busy old time of it lately. Get a cuppa and a book and sit in the garden 😊

f0xh0les

Maybe if you think of it as 'evaluating' time.  Keep a notebook by your side and see what thoughts and ideas pop up while you are having some 'me time'.
 As long as the plants get watered and Her Highness 👑 Princess Chloe-cat gets her fusses, who says you have to do a thing else?
It is your weekend too, and if you don't want to do it today, it will still be there tomorrow.
Sounds like you need to factor in some fun to the schedule.
After all the bonus jobs achieved last night, you are still ahead of yourself . 
Have the day off.

Cheery_Daff

On days like that I often rejuvenate myself by spending time on my own just sitting, maybe with a notebook, or a book to read, or some crochet. Not talking to anyone else (or listening to them 😂) is often key to restoring sanity for me! Hope you find your way x

Sallyforth

Agree with others that some days you simply need to sign yourself off - a “sickie” but in your own time. When I was working full time I very rarely took sick leave but just once in a blue moon I did take a day off because things simply weren’t right. I’d make some feeble excuse and nine times out of ten that day to myself put me right.

Just loving your sweet peas - something I’ve tried but the pesky slugs always chomp so given up.

KajiKita

Thanks @PennysIntoPounds, @f0xh0les, @Cheery_Daff, @Sallyforth ❤️
I think I know what the root cause is - the garden is overwhelming me again and it’s made me feel such a failure …

Anyway… I have come here to ask for help on something specific. 

Mr KK’s niece, A was expecting her first child about now. The placenta was in the wrong position, down low towards the cervix I think and the plan was to do a Caesarian at 8.5 months. At 8 months the placenta ruptured, the baby died, the hospital made her do a vaginal delivery and then A got sepsis and had to be in intensive care for 4 days. Utterly awful. 

Mr KK’s sister has advised that the funeral for the baby is on the 4th June. I will go, mainly to help Mr KK wrangle MiL, who is being a bit self absorbed about it all. But I also want to do something to support A. We are not close and I suspect the intensity of the event will not make for coherent communication for either of us, so I want to write her a letter. I have some rough ideas on what I want to say (and will craft it very carefully) but wondered if you had any recommendations for late pregnancy loss support groups or charities I could share with her? I’m planning to give it to her partner, in a card to both of them (the father so often gets forgotten in these things), at the funeral for them / her to read afterwards.

KK

beanielou

Can’t advise but blimey that’s dreadful. So sad. 

skint_spice

That’s so sad KK, no words from me sorry.

i hope you took it easy yesterday.

Watty1

That is tragic.  So sad.  The only charity I know of Is SANDS but in another life I worked for the National Childbirth Trust and I feel sure they will have a great list of resources and you might be able to come up with some better ideas.

My heart goes out to her and the father, the sense of loss must be overwhelming.