Mortgage free in Forever Home :-)

Cheery_Daff

Good luck! We are all standing right there in the room with you glaring ominously at him and cheering you on xx

carolbee

Hard stares winging their way from deepest darkest Kent 

f0xh0les

With you in spirit!!

maggiem

Thinking of you and hope HR will contribute helpfully. 

KajiKita

Thanks all ….

Boss opened the conversation by stating that HR had told him that I was upset on Thursday. His response:- To say that he had concerns about whether I was the right person for the role. 

I disagreed with this and said that I felt that I was and could deliver the role. 

HR joined us then (late) and after summarising what happened on Thursday and whether I had achieved what I wanted to do before going home that day, asked whether I wanted to have a protected conversation. I said no, i wanted to make the job work. I think that rather took the wind out of her sails. 

I asked for priorities, what my boss thought my days to day performance should look like. HR said when I got these from my boss I needed to review them and let my boss know what was actually achievable.
I mentioned the lack of positive feedback - boss said it was hard to find anything to be positive about. I said I didn’t think that could really be possible if I was only getting this negative feedback recently. 

I mentioned that it was disheartening and tiring that every time I went into his office that his face dropped into a frown - this finally got an honest reaction from him. He said he didn’t know if he could change that. (He made much more effort to be welcoming as I entered his office in the afternoon however.)
He commented that I still wasn’t working enough hours. (🙄😳)
Apparently my team aren’t working hard enough - HR is observing them and feeding back to my boss - their hours, what they are doing etc etc. 

After I got back to my desk I found an email from the global function manager (two levels above my boss) offering to mentor me if it would be helpful. I was a bit suspicious initially but he explained that I had seemed more stressed when he had been on site a few weeks ago so was reaching out to see if he could help. I explained what was going on with my boss - senior guy was shocked - and said that I would really appreciate the help, and after I get the priorities and expectations from my boss that might be a good time to start. 

I did lots of work. Achieved lots and started recording it at HR’s suggestion so that i start feeling like I am achieving something (with no positive feedback from my boss) and to share with boss … 

I am angry. Cold, resolutely, dangerously angry. I will NOT let this idiot strip me of a role I have fought hard on for two and half years with diddly support and make so much progress in. I will play this game. And I will win. 

I will call the union on Thursday (my day off) to understand what any offer should be in a protected conversation. 

KK

KajiKita

And in other, more positive news ….

The statement for our joint account arrived today and we had £209.14 excess in there. After a conversation with Mr KK I have:
- moved £75 to the links joint savings which took it over £500, which feels a bit more secure (it got depleted due to the work on the bathroom)
- sent £75 off as an OP ❤️

New mattress topper arrived today - 3 days early, yaay! 😊 I have it on the bed and remade it. Looking forward to my bed tonight 🤩

KK

Cheery_Daff

First of all, well done for putting up with that ridiculous ordeal. Can't believe HR was late, or that your boss still sounds like a *$^#. Very glad someone more senior has offered to mentor you - hopefully they already know what a (%;#& boss is being and there may be other processes behind the scenes with him that you don't know about I suppose... I hope he is being performance managed himself 😠 either way, I am glad for your sake that things are down on record, and that you are determined not to be beaten. 

Enjoy your very well deserved new bed! 😊😊

KajiKita

Thanks @Cheery_Daff. There was something about yesterday and how I was made ‘the problem’ that broke something between boss and I. He made no effort to understand or Care (supposedly one of the corporate values) - his answer is to get rid of me …? Not impressed. 

KK

skint_spice

Sorry it went that way but just you show them! The record keeping is a good idea but it is sad it has come to this.

Watty1

What an absolute pillock he is.  Getting rid of someone rarely resolves any problems anyway.   Being mentored by someone a few grades above him might help on a few levels, and, rather take the wind out of his sails (if you want to be mentored by someone that is).

I like the cold hard  "I will win" attitude. Go you!  You will win with that approach.