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The Challenges Of Finding Solitary Refinement ..
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So the careers adviser never phoned back 📞. Not bothered for now, as it wasn't an appointment and it wasn't the job coach . I treat it as him pestering / putting pressure on me to find interviews etc when I'm not ready , or tell me that computer course is back on.
Or..he may have seen feedback I left and not be impresssed.Either way, I have to expect another call any time .
Speaking of the above , coincidentally I received a call on my mobile 📱 on Saturday from ipsos ( formerly ipsos Mori ) . Ironically I was doing surveys with them for a few months.
When I accepted this "action plan " from careers adviser I accepted surveys etc just to be seen as proactive . I can change my mind when I want to .
When I spoke to careers adviser while he was box ticking away he said " you are mister?"
That got me thinking . While I was talking to the ipsos lady on Saturday , they asked obviously about sexual preferences which I didn't have to answer . I did however ask to be identified as a lion 🦁. So that would be "Lion Mr Casualty ". For some reason this was not possible . Ipsos will contact me in 5 months for another phone survey .I ordered a tefal frying pan from the Amazon . It looks used, so I'm taking it back to post office probably tomorrow . Refund requested .I'm having boiler serviced sometime today . Hopefully morning . Hopefully I can go for walk🐾 at usual time . We'll see
I had to post on the broadband forum regarding Vodafone and my compensation.
It was onky after posting that I checked the app which isn't very good imho
My bill is listed , but upon further investigation the payment has been ticked as paid on the 29th. This means I have to check on 20th of may and June to make sure I don't pay in those months . Unnecesssry complications .I'll leave it there. 🌥4 -
Glad you sent the pan back. I had a similar happen a while back with something from JL but I was too tired/lazy to send it back...
All sounding good with walking/exercisingIf you have built castles in the air, your work should not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them
Emergency fund 100/1000
Buffer fund 0/100
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Thanks @doingitanyway😼 I know what you mean .I'm kicking myself at the moment . Me and my big mouth..
While chatting to the nice lady from Worcester Bosch that serviced my boiler , I mentioned the people upstairs had their parties etc.
She lives up the road , and moved here a few months ago . I told her the good and bad bits of the area that I know . She lives too near and I'm hoping that she forgets what I mentioned about the people upstairs . I have to let it go , as they have calmed down a lot .
Obviously I have been anxious for some time , but I have to move on .
Hoping that there are no repercussions . I must keep my mouth shut !That's the thing about being on your own .. A closed mouth catches no flies . Something I should remember !Next time someone comments on the flat, I'll just say nothing or thank you and move on !Other than that , things are ok ..3 -
Lovely sunny day 🌞
Today my walk 🐾was to the post office to return pan 🍳
Have bad news regarding family member .Had a great session with mr trainer 🏋️♂️. As I've said on many occasions, he is worth his weight in gold and I'd be lost without him .He convinced me I'm over worrying about my previous post above , which is good to know . Regarding the tenants , I treat it like frozen 🥶 and have to let it go !I have a new motto which I have to stick by " keep quiet and carry on " .I will be seeing local friend for coffee ☕️This week . I think it's coffee 🤔Crisps have disappeared from the cupboards. Will have to get more green and blacks soon tho' 🍫
mr trainer 🏋️♂️ Is happy with the full weeks workout and my performance today .I need to keep the crisps away now .
I'll leave it there ...☀️4 -
Sorry to hear you have had bad news regarding family AC.Debt free and Keeping on Track3
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Sorry about your family member.
Good luck with avoiding the crisps!"Good financial planning is about not spending money on things that add no value to your life in order to have more money for the things that do". Eoin McGee2 -
Thanks mrs p @jwil😼 Nothing too serious as yet and I can only weigh things up as and when I hear any updates but not as dramatic as it may sound for now .Anyway , enough of that 😺
The last couple of days have been the usual run / walk 🐾 of the mill stuff.. morning walks🐾 / sleeping patterns / sticking more rigidly to mr trainers workouts etc 🏋️♂️🥵Regarding universal credit , the action plan for national careers and my own health / wellbeing etc random things are happening .
For example , since I ticked boxes to be contacted possibly , ( yeah right 😺) by market research companies when I had to sign up to the action plan I have answered 2 random calls on mobile and landline .📱📞
Obviously , if it's a scammer then they politely get told where to go . One of the things about being on uc, being in receipt of pip and claiming LCW I think it's best to answer the phone incase I'm to be reassessed again .
Anyway , yesterdays call was from Yonder about BCP council. My name wasn't asked for and apparently I was chosen at random . I enjoyed the chat and participation . From what I gather the researcher got a lot of miserable moany people while I enjoyed chatting to him.
Plus it gives genuine feedback to the Coincil on questions asked . Plus I can list their research and the one previous to the job coach when I meet her in June .
I also looked at the action plan which is dated up to 29th of March . There is one attachment I couldn't open but will mention to careers coach and job coach showing I'm proactive .What I also did randomly ( it's been on my mind ) is to phone surgery for appointment .
My latest fit note expires in May , and with the ever changing policies of seeing a dr 🩺 I thought it best to let them know I'm still struggling and anxiety is increasing etc
Anyway , the outcome is that I have a phone appointment 📞 with " a doctor" 🩺) )
Bizarrely enough it's on the day after the current fit note expires so hopefully I can renew and put on UC Journal . 🤞As I've mentioned previously , my memory has been shot at times since 2nd jab 🥊
A few days ago I cooked something for dinner 🍽..and forgot to put vinegar on it.
I only noticed this after eating halfway through . Then there was the time I put the kettle on while having my coffee ☕️And toast . I forgot to push the lever Down for the toast 🤦♂️There's too much to ramble on about , but I will be meeting local friend for coffee ☕️anytime between today and sat .
I'll leave it there...🌥3 -
Hello AC, just catching up on your diary. Things do sound positive for you. I get the anxiety though and the over thinking. One thing with living alone and not leaving the house to go to work is that we do get caught in our own heads and so when we get chatting to someone it's quite easy to mention things you later wish you hadn't. I do the same thing, but then I try to create that scenario in my head that I'm concerned about and I often realise that it's not a realistic concern (ie. it's highly unlikely those people would meet up and start chatting, and even if they did, it would probably be a standard "these machines never work" type chat. Also the nice person you spoke with is very unlikely to know who they are or mention that the Lion known as Mr Casualty mentioned them unfavourably).
Well done on keeping up with the exercise. It does sound like you and Mr Trainer have a very nice training relationship going.5 -
Another one who understands the overthinking that can go on. Sometimes I think it happens whether you live alone or not. Some of us just overthink. Although I'm probably worse when I have been alone more...
Well done with getting a phone call with your GP
Hope you enjoyed coffee with your friend.If you have built castles in the air, your work should not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put the foundations under them
Emergency fund 100/1000
Buffer fund 0/100
Debt Free (again) 25/0720253 -
I'm also a great over-thinker. I lived on my own for 10 years in my twenties and that was definitely the worse time for my over-thinking and worrying about "silly" stuff. Now I'm older I find I don't over-think as much, but definitely still have bouts of it. I think its just the way we are.Debt free and Keeping on Track2
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