Simple living in the country - back to basics

slm6002

I am going to put in on my list of things to do for this weekend.  I will also be bringing it up with mum, dad and uncle to make sure they have theirs in place

Karmacat

That's it, once my sister's back from America, I'll be raising it.  

You've started an amazing movement on here, Cheery    

Enjoy @ldi, anyway  

VintageHistorian

Also make sure you tell family your wishes for organ donation, as otherwise there's a risk that someone will go "actually I don't think they would want that" and sow doubt during a difficult time. My Mum has made it clear repeatedly that if asked we're to agree to organ donation for her, and she would have done the same for us when we were minors (now we're all grown up we've all agreed to be donors).

My uncle keeled over with a brain haemorrhage 20-odd years ago and my Dad recently mentioned that because no one was entirely sure what his donor wishes were my aunt insisted it not go ahead, as she felt he had suffered enough and had never given a definitive answer in life.

Cheery_Daff

That's a good call too Vintage Historian. I'm on the organ donor register so hopefully that's enough, but I'll certainly be incorporating it into conversations. Mr Cheery definitely knows what I want, we've talked many times, but not sure family do. I know my mum will donate everything except her eyes - I'm generally of the view that I won't be needing them by that point so I'd rather someone else made use if they could!

beanielou

Enjoy your cafe trip 

I have a will & both financial & health POA.
My DS & my cousin are joint people on everything & DS knows not to keep me alive if anything happens to me.
Not very cheery but that's life.

scandimore

Important subject cheery, something we need to sort out here. Got as far as finding out will-wise about trusts as we have a child with disabilities and don't know how the future will work out there without us. Have a bit of a panic/ mental block about it whenever I try to go further down that road, need to just grit my teeth and focus on the practical I think. Have also tried to poke parents into sorting theirs out (as I procrastinate with my own) as they have a bit of a complex home situation looking after one of my adult siblings who doesn't have any diagnosis as won't engage with any services but definitely can't manage alone, and it would just be really difficult to sort out if anything happened. My dad seems to think I would just swoop in and sort everything out without the authority or knowledge of what their wishes would be. 
But myself and Mr Scandi can do our poa at least. 
Glad you're feeling better about the other situation. I hate the thought of upsetting anyone with my actions to the point I'd probably fixate on it every night for a while. But then I also notice some people just aren't as forgiving as they should or could be. We all are human and imperfect and need to be given and give a bit of grace. Doesn't always happen in practice though does it!

Cheery_Daff

That must be a really hard situation to deal with scandimore. I suppose, in the longer term, NOT dealing with it is a more difficult prospect than actually dealing with it... but shorter term I can see how it would just feel impossible to contemplate. I know you're not the only one in that situation xx

Beanie, you are leading us all with your excellent example!

Cheery_Daff

Hmm, let's see how that list's going... 🙄

* more scything - NOPE, RAINING

* hoover, including study and upstairs, which usually get missed out - NOT YET, BUT I MIGHT DO THAT NOW

* meal plan -YES!

* food shopping - YES! SPENT £103 😱 BUT THAT DID INCLUDE BOOZE & SOME STOCKING UP

* get petrol for the strimmer! Been on the list for weeks! - YES!!

* batch cooking - YES, MADE 2 PIZZAS (ONE EATEN) AND A BATCH OF FALAFELS. NOT DOING ANY MORE TIL I'VE GOT SPACE IN THE FREEZER...

* flute practice - rehearsals start again on Sunday and my summer of playing did NOT materialise 😂 - EEK, NOT YET, MIGHT DO HALF AN HOUR NOW

* maybe some strimming, depending on the weather later - NOPE, WEATHER

* return Natural England survey letter (apparently we're within one of their random areas for their natural capital and ecosystem assessment programme) - YEP, REMEMBERED TO BOTH TAKE AND POST! 

* dig out POA notification forms to take to my mum tomorrow - NO, WILL DO THAT NOW

* ring mum at some point and tell her we'll be near her tomorrow 😂 - NO NEED, SHE RANG ME EARLIER ANYWAY 😂

So not as bad as I thought actually! 😂 Going to hoover the bedroom and study now, do half an hour of flute practice, and dig out those forms, and then calling it a nice. Mr Cheery is still feeling rough so I'll offer to sleep in the spare room tonight i think.

Can't call off tomorrow's visit - it's structured round him going to pick up something he bought on ebay 😂 I could collect i suppose, but I imagine he'll want to check it's as described. Might be a fairly swift family visit though, we'll see.

themadvix

It sounds like you were fairly productive there Cheery! I hope Mr C is feeling better today and your mum takes the hint re POA 😊 Definitely don’t blame you wanting them all to get it sorted - dealing with my Nan’s life admin/care a was a lot of work for mum and uncle, even with a poa. Potentially dealing with three at once would be tough.

Cheery_Daff

Thanks Vix. Even if just one of them sorts it, it's a start! I think my mum's the most likely,  so going to sit and talk her through it tomorrow,  and Mr Cheery will be with me so he can listen too without it feeling like I'm going on about it... Can't imagine I'll have the conversation with my dad anytime soon, but it may come up - his long term partner had a brain tumor for many years so he may well surprise me and have already done it! I would be VERY surprised though...

Anyway,  one at a time. Can't be too zealous when it's taken forever to get round to my own 😂