Is it my fault?

Savvy_Sue

Pixie5740 said:

If you want to leave your husband then leave him. You don’t need to have another man waiting in the wings. 

The wealthy American gentleman has set my spider senses off. 

Mine too ... 

tooldle

Savvy_Sue said:

Pixie5740 said:

If you want to leave your husband then leave him. You don’t need to have another man waiting in the wings. 

The wealthy American gentleman has set my spider senses off. 

Mine too ... 

My first thought also.

Pollycat

paigesand said:

I have been thinking about meeting someone else.
I don't really like my husband anymore tbh.
When he gets home it's a two hour bath eat then out to the pub home gone midnight.
He has even said he doesn't want me to meet anyone if he dies doesn't want his property going to me and another man.
I have been exchanging messages online with a wealthy American gentleman who is divorced and a few years younger than me.
He lives mainly in York but has a home in Boston USA.
He just wants someone who appreciates him and love and has said marriage and  one child.
His ex sounds a right drama queen and cold and selfish like my husband.
He wasn't really there for me when my mum died 6 years ago. 
But when his mum died in her nineties a year after mine he wanted all the sympathy in the world.
He even wants me to go to his daughters again on boxing Day again with his ex wife going I don't see why I should always do  what he wants.

He wants a child?
How does that sit with you?
Will you put it off and off and off like you did with your current husband?
I really can't understand how someone can be in a long term relationship, start to exchange messages with someone and then be at the stage of discussing marriage and children with them.
Maybe I'm just old-fashioned.

For your own sake - and safety - just make sure your 'wealthy American gentleman' is who he says he is.

NBLondon

paigesand said:

I'm also looking forward to a fresh start at the university.
This sounds callous but if he died in an accident I would be upset but soon get over it.
I'm not physically attracted to him anymore.
I just hope if I do decide to leave he won't refuse  a diviorce  so I have to wait three years.

Murder your husband and use the life insurance to fund your studies 

String the "wealthy American" along by asking him to fund your studies


Or seriously, leave him if you can work out a plan.  Maybe you will have to wait if he won't agree to a divorce.  Use that time to decide where you really want to go in life.  Don't focus on finding somebody new - you may find a new you first.

74jax

You both have faults, but to me adultery just means you need an excuse to leave him. 

If you don't want to be with him, leave. Why do you need to leave him for someone else. 

Either stop with the sideline affair, or carry it on and move out. 

elsien

Wealthy American? Go for it. What could possibly go wrong?


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Apintplease

Pixie5740 said:

paigesand said:

I have been thinking about meeting someone else.
I don't really like my husband anymore tbh.
When he gets home it's a two hour bath eat then out to the pub home gone midnight.
He has even said he doesn't want me to meet anyone if he dies doesn't want his property going to me and another man.
I have been exchanging messages online with a wealthy American gentleman who is divorced and a few years younger than me.
He lives mainly in York but has a home in Boston USA.
He just wants someone who appreciates him and love and has said marriage and  one child.
His ex sounds a right drama queen and cold and selfish like my husband.
He wasn't really there for me when my mum died 6 years ago. 
But when his mum died in her nineties a year after mine he wanted all the sympathy in the world.
He even wants me to go to his daughters again on boxing Day again with his ex wife going I don't see why I should always do  what he wants.

If you want to leave your husband then leave him. You don’t need to have another man waiting in the wings. 

The wealthy American gentleman has set my spider senses off. 

Oh damm, you called it too soon. I was looking forward to how this was going to pan out