Is it my fault?

paigesand

is it me or does he sound controlling?.

paigesand

is it me or do others think he is controlling?.

74jax

Not really on what has been said, it's one sided, his version would probably read she has kept him all these years but promising to start a family but never does. 

elsien

paigesand said:

is it me or do others think he is controlling?.

It doesn’t really matter what we think - we’re only getting a very brief one-sided  picture with lots of important gaps in the telling. 

Why is it so important to you to have Internet strangers agree that he dies indeed sound controlling?
You said in your first post you don’t know why you’ve stated with him.
What is it that you do want? 

kezzygirl

Did you never broach the subject with him?seems as though he has tried numerous times over the years but you haven't followed it up?

Maskface

paigesand said:

Oops I meant to say 18 years blooming predictive text

Thank Christ for that 12 years old?? Lol

london21

It does not matter whose fault it is now. Focus on the now and move on. 
You both need to communicate with each other.

paigesand

I have been thinking about meeting someone else.
I don't really like my husband anymore tbh.
When he gets home it's a two hour bath eat then out to the pub home gone midnight.
He has even said he doesn't want me to meet anyone if he dies doesn't want his property going to me and another man.
I have been exchanging messages online with a wealthy American gentleman who is divorced and a few years younger than me.
He lives mainly in York but has a home in Boston USA.
He just wants someone who appreciates him and love and has said marriage and  one child.
His ex sounds a right drama queen and cold and selfish like my husband.
He wasn't really there for me when my mum died 6 years ago. 
But when his mum died in her nineties a year after mine he wanted all the sympathy in the world.
He even wants me to go to his daughters again on boxing Day again with his ex wife going I don't see why I should always do  what he wants.

paigesand

I'm also looking forward to a fresh start at the university.
This sounds callous but if he died in an accident I would be upset but soon get over it.
I'm not physically attracted to him anymore.
I just hope if I do decide to leave he won't refuse  a diviorce  so I have to wait three years.

Pixie5740

paigesand said:

I have been thinking about meeting someone else.
I don't really like my husband anymore tbh.
When he gets home it's a two hour bath eat then out to the pub home gone midnight.
He has even said he doesn't want me to meet anyone if he dies doesn't want his property going to me and another man.
I have been exchanging messages online with a wealthy American gentleman who is divorced and a few years younger than me.
He lives mainly in York but has a home in Boston USA.
He just wants someone who appreciates him and love and has said marriage and  one child.
His ex sounds a right drama queen and cold and selfish like my husband.
He wasn't really there for me when my mum died 6 years ago. 
But when his mum died in her nineties a year after mine he wanted all the sympathy in the world.
He even wants me to go to his daughters again on boxing Day again with his ex wife going I don't see why I should always do  what he wants.

If you want to leave your husband then leave him. You don’t need to have another man waiting in the wings. 

The wealthy American gentleman has set my spider senses off.