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Sharing one-time maternity allowance payment with partner?
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Some people are strange though. I had some maternity money for my first baby (paid based on my working history). I used the money to buy a 2nd hand car to get me, baby and toddler around. Lost count of the amount of people including close in-laws that said that my husband was buying me a car! No he wasn't. WE were buying a car that would be in my name in order to get OUR children around, using the maternity money to pay for it.
We largely manage our own finances and keep them separate, paying a fixed amount into a joint account every month for the bills etc to go out. This includes a credit card in my name that is used for household spending, but not any other credit cards we hold. In this case I'd argue it's reasonable for you to keep the money unless he has incurred significant expense too.
If both salaries etc were to be paid into a joint account, I equally could understand his logic that this should be the case with the maternity payment too.
Ultimately, the 'right thing' comes down to your relationship.
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Was that the whole reason behind it? Or was that just used as a stick to beat men with?
Was it designed maybe to give women a compensation for their work in the household and independence? Yes.
2 different things.