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Noisy neighbour - sense check
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I'm very sensitive to noise and have no problem with confrontation, but while I would also find this annoying it's not something I would cause issue with as once a month is reasonable in my opinion, if it was weekly or a daily occurrence then it'd be different. I would consider it a me problem rather than causing problems for anyone else. At most I would politely ask them if they wouldn't mind giving notice of a party, I find when you can at least prepare for things and feel like you've been given some consideration it makes it a lot easier to deal with. They probably just don't realise how much of an effect they have.0
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Could just turning the speakers in a different direction / positioning them on different material help? (Soften vibrations/lessen the distance they travel).If they are quiet normally and no-one say anything they may be unaware of the distress they are causing you.Try a polite word and suggestions that could help you but not detract from their fun seems a reasonable proposal?At least they don't blare heavy base from 2pm to 2am on a Sunday or throw parties in a block of flats and run round smearing cake on the walls..May you find your sister soon Helli.
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It's only once a month.If there were screaming kids next door, dogs barking, engines revving, every day, that's different.
what about hedge strumming, garden mowing, drums beating.
most people make some kind of noise.0 -
It's irrelevant whether you have a right to be annoyed or not - you are annoyed. I would absolutely hate this and couldn't live with it. What is your relationship with your neighbours like? I doubt you will be able to stop it but you could politely ask for 24 hours notice so that you can plan round it. Invest in some noise cancelling headphones - they are a godsend if you don't like noise. But first you need to deal with your annoyance, otherwise you won't be able to approach your neighbours politely, nor will you be able to accept the noise and plan round it. A good starting place would be to ask yourself - what annoys you about it so much?1
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I think you could first explore how to mitigate this within your own four walls, be it sleeping in a different bedroom, noise cancelling headphones or similar.
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Once a month, but 25% of your precious Saturday evenings....lookstraightahead said:It's only once a month.If there were screaming kids next door, dogs barking, engines revving, every day, that's different.
what about hedge strumming, garden mowing, drums beating.
most people make some kind of noise.1 -
I wouldn't be able to stand this. I would have to move or tell them exactly what I thought of their noise. Excess noise causes stress. No one should be subjected to it for long periods of time. Also if it so loud that you can hear it in your house they are almost certainly damaging their hearing by being close to the source of it.The problem of damaging your hearing with noise when you are in your 30s is that when you are older you will have to turn the sound up on your TV because of significant deafness. Then the noise of the TV will annoy the neighbours.......1
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It's the heavy base that would get to me - headphones would reduce the actual noise but the base you can feel.
I'd have to go and stay somewhere else on their party nights.1 -
I think asking them for a heads up is a way to alert them it's a problem and gauge their reaction without it being a confrontation. Not like banging on the door at 1am0
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Agree with the majority on here - I couldn’t cope with it. Being kept up till 2am wrecks me for days. I would also ask, as gently as I could, if they could turn off the outdoors music at 11pm.If it’s a one-off, or big annual get together or something, then I’d just makes plans to go away that weekend. But monthly is too much.I would definitely try face to face though - letters are really passive aggressive and more likely to rile people up, no matter how you word it.If you can’t face them, could you ask other neighbours if they’re bothered by it?1
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