Future Proofing my life: Deposit saving then MFW journey in under 13 years

LadyWithAPlan

skint_spice said:

I am much the same LWAP, I have friends that I have known since I was a teenager and even my newer friends are probably a couple of decades old. I sometimes contemplate moving further north but I would miss them.

Yes  you would and once cant really replace that. Friends are such an important part of life and having people who know you and see what we go thru - the ups and the downs..
I am now supporting a friend going thru a bad divorce and we have really seen each other go thru everything (birth, death, relationship breakdowns...family and money dramas). plus we have danced and celebrated too. We always know we will drop everything and help.

When I lost a friend 2 years ago as she dropped me cos her boyfriend kept hitting on me  which i ignored then he grabbed me in public against my will .... and somehow he twisted it that it was my fault (you have to admire the PHD level of gaslighting given his hands were on me in an v uninvited place ) so she is 'angry' at me   .. I am over it now but thats 25 years of partying, life, laughter, conversations. adventures, great vacations, drama you also lose. Of course she didnt just lose me but a large friendship group as everyone knows me and my morals  - Sad thing is she  herself  is losing her supportive group  becos of him and that can be very dangerous.

Suffolk_lass

In my experience, if/when a friend comes back and makes contact, if you can forgive them, you do pick up where you always were before the contact was lost

skint_spice

I hope your friend sees the light soon, it sounds like he deliberately isolating her. Not a good sign.

Watty1

That is a really sad story about your friend.     PPH caused me to lose a lot of friends and when the dirt hit I was so alone  I did reach out to some past people and shall we just say their reaction was to think it could all be patched over and when I left they dropped me anyway.  So those people are gone from my life.

Saw the BJ film last night and it really is a celebration of friendship.  That with the discussions on my diary made me realise how much I have to be grateful for.

savingholmes

Lovely to read Watty. 

You sound very skilled LWAP. Good luck with all the juggling. 

LadyWithAPlan

Suffolk_lass said:

In my experience, if/when a friend comes back and makes contact, if you can forgive them, you do pick up where you always were before the contact was lost

Good to know - I will let her be but if she did need to go on the run I would still assist  
Not speaking to people doesn’t mean you no longer care 

@skint_spice yes it is worrying but she has always been a woman who drops everything for the man 

LadyWithAPlan

Watty1 said:

That is a really sad story about your friend.     PPH caused me to lose a lot of friends and when the dirt hit I was so alone  I did reach out to some past people and shall we just say their reaction was to think it could all be patched over and when I left they dropped me anyway.  So those people are gone from my life.

Saw the BJ film last night and it really is a celebration of friendship.  That with the discussions on my diary made me realise how much I have to be grateful for.

That does make me angry to read Watty and so pleased you made it through and are happy and healing 

I just finally watched Why Women Kill ( u can watch for free on u tv ) season 1 - black comedy by the guy who created Desperate Housewives 

it’s such a brilliant series and funny too - but the 60s wife story line was brilliant and funny as she so outwardly ‘perfect’ - the neighbour was genius and Lucy Lui’s character was super fun too - can highly recommend 

debtfreewannabe321

I watched the new Bridget jones with DD and i thought it was great to see her actually looking her age in it. - on the hormone talk I'm waiting for a blood test to see where I'm at...I eat so well for around 90% of the time and yet I have hardly any energy these days. I've made it through meno with no hrt but I am at the point of wanting to give in now and get something just to help my energy.

Glad you enjoyed that book...enjoyed probably the wrong word there....got some useful things out of it probably better way to describe it. I've stuck tabs on that book on nearly every chapter and had read it twice through now getting something new each time. I can be go go go like you and not know how to stop and it is exhausting as you get older. I need my 30 year old energy back 🤣.

Ps I am very sorry to hear about your friend passing. What an awful way to go 😔❤️

LadyWithAPlan

savingholmes said:

Lovely to read Watty. 

You sound very skilled LWAP. Good luck with all the juggling. 

Not sure how skilled I am at juggling I will be working one day this weekend to be ready for Monday..  

@debtfreewannabe321 the main reason I am trying the TST (after also now being on Ostregen and progesterone which has stopped the hot flushes and helping me sleep  ) is for energy levels and I am  now a week in and feel really good, getting a lot more done, and feel happy.
I am feeling its working and I have quite large boobs anyway so any man boobage wont be noticed I have also started singing around the house again
I will note to have your bloods taken - take the HRT then have a check up a few months later on the bloods as I waited a year thinking ot was all solved where my body did not take up the Ost gel and i was still low on levels . The first OST I had i puffed up a bit, then Ostegel was better but i was still low
 Now I am on a higher dose and its the Lenzetto one now. 

debtfreewannabe321 said:

Glad you enjoyed that book...enjoyed probably the wrong word there....got some useful things out of it probably better way to describe it. I've stuck tabs on that book on nearly every chapter and had read it twice through now getting something new each time. I can be go go go like you and not know how to stop and it is exhausting as you get older. I need my 30 year old energy back 🤣.

Ps I am very sorry to hear about your friend passing. What an awful way to go 😔❤️

Have stalled on reading the book as busy (will complete it) but that 'go go go' is very flight it turns out  


Tx re my friend - I think we all in shock at how quick a life can vanish. I dont think (and want to think) that  he felt a thing, he just fell down stairs inebriated and  banged his head and instantly he was brain dead.  Its the shock of his kids (one of whom found him)  and those left behind, he was a good nice intelligent charming man. Not perfect but tried his best.

Despite a long work day yesterday I then visited a friend in hospital who has pnuemonia - she looked so fragile and looked as if she had aged decades. She is apparently on the mend but I think it will take weeks for her to get her energy back. She is very slim anyway.
I know from when another  friend was in a coma during covid for a long time that as he had a lot of muscle before he went in it can really help survival  - as muscle does not waste away so quickly - it takes a while to build up and break down   - as research has proven. 
'according to research, having more muscle mass is generally associated with higher rates of surviving a hospital stay, as low muscle mass is linked to poorer clinical outcomes, longer hospital stays, and increased risk of complications, especially in critically ill patients; meaning individuals with greater muscle mass tend to have better chances of survival when hospitalized. ' 
So I am feeling grateful that the ems training over the last 7 months is building my muscle my core and legs feel strong, I feel physically strong.

London fashion week now so going to some shows over the next two days. Of course going to a fashion show you have to think about what one is wearing .... so will need some shuffling thru my wardrobes -  yes there is more than one... I am not about brads or labels but creativity so lets see what I can rustle up - I am feeling with the ems though pretty great and my core feels rock solid

Alchemilla

LadyWithAPlan said:

skint_spice said:

I am much the same LWAP, I have friends that I have known since I was a teenager and even my newer friends are probably a couple of decades old. I sometimes contemplate moving further north but I would miss them.

Yes  you would and once cant really replace that. Friends are such an important part of life and having people who know you and see what we go thru - the ups and the downs..
I am now supporting a friend going thru a bad divorce and we have really seen each other go thru everything (birth, death, relationship breakdowns...family and money dramas). plus we have danced and celebrated too. We always know we will drop everything and help.

When I lost a friend 2 years ago as she dropped me cos her boyfriend kept hitting on me  which i ignored then he grabbed me in public against my will .... and somehow he twisted it that it was my fault (you have to admire the PHD level of gaslighting given his hands were on me in an v uninvited place ) so she is 'angry' at me   .. I am over it now but thats 25 years of partying, life, laughter, conversations. adventures, great vacations, drama you also lose. Of course she didnt just lose me but a large friendship group as everyone knows me and my morals  - Sad thing is she  herself  is losing her supportive group  becos of him and that can be very dangerous.

This is so sad and so wrong!