Dog dilemma

squirrelchops2

Say sure the dogs can come but can you bring their crates as they will have to stay in there after they have used my garden for a toilet stop! Lots of people use crates in their home to stop dogs just feely wandering where they want.

Vegastare

I hope I am seen as a good dog owner and yes this time of the year in the heat in a parked car would be my main concern - but there is a big however, I would never impose on anyone who is not 100% happy with my dog entering there house of garden, I would simply stay in car with dog and left hubby visit sister and then he could dog sit and I could say hi, this anyway is how we conduct ourselves.

We have an aunt who hates dogs and has mentioned the reason they don't pop in is because of the dog....utter load of twaddle - she is just blessed with being awkward and accepts her daughters pooch, personally I am only to glad to know she makes this excuse because I  am delighted they don't pop in - sad as it is that the uncle isn't seen as he is a love.

Me I would just phone on the early onexpected day and say the weather doesn't look to good and would they like to pop in another time when the dogs can stay safely in the garden.

CookieMonster

Your home your rules.
Discuss with your brother.

sheramber

I own a dog- have owned multiple ones over the years- and  always ask before taking my dog to a person's house .

I keep them on the lead and only take the lead off if appropriate and once they settle down.

Fortunately, all my family are dog lovers although none own a dog. My friends tend to be from dog circles .


My dogs goes on my sofa with a cover on it. She went on my son's sofa with a cover on it. Last month they got a new sofa and I do not allow my dog to go on the new one.

If you don't want the dogs in the house and are prepared for any fall out, then make it quite clear now that the dogs will not be coming into the house. You do not have to accept them. How they deal with that is their problem.

If they want to see your house they can come in one at a time.

But you have to accept the consequences of your  decision, which might be no visit and ongoing bad feeling.

You can only beat bullies by standing up to them.

downshifted

Can I ask why you don’t want them in the house? If it’s because they’re racing around, can’t you ask your brother to ensure they’re on a lead and well behaved? Any reasonable owner would do that anyway. 

Of course you can say “no dogs”, but in the limited circumstances you describe it sounds a bit as though you mean “ no horrid sister in law”

zagfles

It's not a dilemma, it's quite simple - your house, your rules. Tell them the dogs won't be coming in. As above, don't be bullied.

FBaby

Surely the solution if they are stopping on their way to somewhere else is to meet for a walk or lunch at a dog friendly place. 

I'm assuming the meeting is mainly to catch up rather than showing off your house.

gettingtheresometime

Mistral001 said:

I would certaily not say that they should leave their dogs outside.  Even the most pleasant of dog owners, would just leave altogether and a large proportion of those would probably not want to come back again.   If you definitely do not want their dogs in the house, then you should tell your brother before they come.  

Similarly I would never take my dog to a house without checking first that it was ok. And if it wasn't then I wouldn't take them - I'd  either leave it at home or if it was going to be an all day affair consider doggy day care or kennels

clearancer

Tell them "no dogs in my house". Arrange at your expense for a dog walker to have them for the visit. Every problem can be solved if you throw money at it. Depends how much you value your relationship with your brother and s-i-l. 

zaxdog

I feel your pain. I'm the same except with children. Don't like them so when I meet up with friends who have them it's at a pub with a play area to keep them out of the way.

If you don't want to let the dogs in then don't, it's your house.