Vendor is insistent on visiting after completion

Josiea

*UPDATE* 

ok, the update everyone has clearly been waiting for… we have told him that he needs to get a redirection now. We have blocked his number and told him that we are no longer keeping his post. We still see him hanging around, but there’s not much we can do about that. He randomly text my boyfriend the last time I spoke to him saying “you have a good girl there”… luckily I think he seems to be getting the hint that we don’t want to be bothered now. But it doesn’t stop him from sneaking around probably snooping on the changes we’re making to the house. It literally feels like we’re in the intruder!!!!

We have had lots of very good answers, so thanks for that. But, I have been using this as a bit of an outlet for my frustration and I just thought that people may find the situation entertaining, therefore I kept the thread going. 

Josiea

Maskface said:

Why on earth are you still entertaining this man? People only take advantage if you allow them to. Stop allowing him. Stop responding to his texts and calls. Stop answering the door. If he persists report him for harassment. Job done. Sorry OP but you need to stop pandering to him and faffing about. 

I agree to an extent, but I thought before that it was possible that he was genuinely a needy old man. But I notice now that he is taking advantage. We live and we learn. 

Swasterix

Josiea said:

*UPDATE* 

ok, the update everyone has clearly been waiting for… we have told him that he needs to get a redirection now. We have blocked his number and told him that we are no longer keeping his post. We still see him hanging around, but there’s not much we can do about that. He randomly text my boyfriend the last time I spoke to him saying “you have a good girl there”… luckily I think he seems to be getting the hint that we don’t want to be bothered now. But it doesn’t stop him from sneaking around probably snooping on the changes we’re making to the house. It literally feels like we’re in the intruder!!!!

We have had lots of very good answers, so thanks for that. But, I have been using this as a bit of an outlet for my frustration and I just thought that people may find the situation entertaining, therefore I kept the thread going. 

Good for you Josie, hopefully he gets the message and you can get on with enjoying your new home!

I know that sometimes it can be difficult being confrontational when it’s not in your nature, but unfortunately it’s can be a necessary evil. 

Good luck!

74jax

Josiea said:

*UPDATE* 

ok, the update everyone has clearly been waiting for… we have told him that he needs to get a redirection now. We have blocked his number and told him that we are no longer keeping his post. We still see him hanging around, but there’s not much we can do about that. He randomly text my boyfriend the last time I spoke to him saying “you have a good girl there”… luckily I think he seems to be getting the hint that we don’t want to be bothered now. But it doesn’t stop him from sneaking around probably snooping on the changes we’re making to the house. It literally feels like we’re in the intruder!!!!

We have had lots of very good answers, so thanks for that. But, I have been using this as a bit of an outlet for my frustration and I just thought that people may find the situation entertaining, therefore I kept the thread going. 

Thank you SO much and moving can be so mentally challenging. If you need to vent, then vent.  It helps. And really does give a good perspective.

Fingers crossed all OK.

Be prepared for the 'can I just have a look at changes' and have done stock answers - unfortunately I'm not comfortable showing stranger round my home. Etc 

teachfast

Sounds like he might be attracted to you. When combined with his already odd behaviour and his 'hanging around' I have some concerns about this.

Please keep a log and if his hanging around escalates please contact the police. 

elsien

Or to their partner. Or both. Maybe he’s into threesomes?  

2+2 does not always equal 5. 

Titus_Wadd

teachfast said:

Sounds like he might be attracted to you. When combined with his already odd behaviour and his 'hanging around' I have some concerns about this.

Please keep a log and if his hanging around escalates please contact the police. 

Josie you deserve to enjoy your new home in peace and I think you were right to draw a line having been friendly and accommodating.  As teachfast says there may be further interaction with this chap because he is finding it difficult to let go.

I'm not trying to alarm you but just jot a note of the dates he pops back to walk past his old house.  Our neighbour-from-hell situation stems from the NFH's dad not accepting that he sold part of his garden that now has our house built on it; he still treats it as part of his fiefdom!  For any help, if it were to escalate into anti-social behaviour or harassment, a record of incidents really helps.  Hopefully his visits to the neighbourhood will fizzle out once the weather turns colder and wetter.

Davesnave

elsien said:

Or to their partner. Or both. Maybe he’s into threesomes?  

2+2 does not always equal 5.

Gosh!  Are you angling for a job with the BBC?

Skiddaw1

Thanks for the update OP. Good for you for taking an assertive approach. Hopefully, things will settle down now.

teachfast

elsien said:

Or to their partner. Or both. Maybe he’s into threesomes?  

2+2 does not always equal 5. 

He made the comment about her