Three years to get debt free

stymied

Sorry to hear that @Willowtree222 Is it worth getting the payments automatically collected to stop this happening?

Willowtree222

stymied said:

Sorry to hear that @Willowtree222 Is it worth getting the payments automatically collected to stop this happening?

It goes on how many nights they stay over. Last year DD stayed once in the whole year so in terms of that, yes, but I'm not sure how it works with him being a Ltd company and prob not earning much wages wise. I don't know for sure. He told me about his new cleaner though, so that's obviously a bigger priority. 

I need to think about it. Ultimately, it will be DD that loses out somewhere along the line. 

For this month, I'm just trying to sort stuff out, as I've already overpaid and booked in some ski lessons for DD and paid the residential off with the expectation it would be there. 

sashybo

Sorry to hear your ex is being a pain (much milder name than I want to use!). I hope he starts paying you the money again. As you say, it’s for DD not you!

It’s not on that he just decides not to pay towards his child’s expenses. 😡 Why is punishing you (in his mind) by withholding money more important to him than his daughter?! 

Willowtree222

sashybo said:

Sorry to hear your ex is being a pain (much milder name than I want to use!). I hope he starts paying you the money again. As you say, it’s for DD not you!

It’s not on that he just decides not to pay towards his child’s expenses. 😡 Why is punishing you (in his mind) by withholding money more important to him than his daughter?! 

Thanks Sashy, I've no idea. 
I'm just making sure I'm OK now and doi g what I need to do x

Willowtree222

I've had a lovely day today. DD is with her dad and I've had a uni study day with some taught sessions.

The people who did the sessions were great and explained things so well.

The setback I had has been rectified as I made all the changes and it's moved forward.

I've done a new SOA for my own peace of mind based on my worst month for expenditure like a Christmas month or a birthday month. If I can manage on my worst month, then I should be OK. I know what I need to do, and I'll make it work. 

Tomorrow I had already booked in a crafting course. I would lose my money if I cancelled so I'm going ahead with it. I'm looking forward to it. 
X

Onebrokelady

Just caught up on your diary😊well done for paying off the debt 🎉🎉  I am sorry but not surprised your ex is still being a pain. Why do they realise that not paying impacts their child directly. When my friends ex moved out he took their free standing oven with him and she couldn't cook anything for weeks until she got another one. This is why I stayed single 😀

Willowtree222

Onebrokelady said:

Just caught up on your diary😊well done for paying off the debt 🎉🎉  I am sorry but not surprised your ex is still being a pain. Why do they realise that not paying impacts their child directly. When my friends ex moved out he took their free standing oven with him and she couldn't cook anything for weeks until she got another one. This is why I stayed single 😀

Thanks OBL. 
That debt was a huge relief and I know where I am now so can move forward. You've just reminded me that you have a new diary. I read the first part but must not have bookmarked it. I've still got your old.ine bookmarked. X

Onebrokelady

I've still got my old one book marked too and keep clicking on it by mistake 😀

Willowtree222

Onebrokelady said:

I've still got my old one book marked too and keep clicking on it by mistake 😀

I thought it had gone quiet again! 

Onebrokelady

Willowtree222 said:

Onebrokelady said:

I've still got my old one book marked too and keep clicking on it by mistake 😀

I thought it had gone quiet again! 

Oops sorry 😊