Buyer Bizarrely Threatening To Withdraw???.

Techyteacher

You’re not our vendor, however you could’ve been.

We feel like we’ve been led down the garden path if I’m honest. They aren’t mortgaged at the moment so are probably happy to stay! 

We were very clear on our need to move before September or not at all. This is the difference between finding the correct school and being homeless. If we are fobbed off and don’t officially ask for a post service lease. Court proceedings for eviction begin, potentially scuppering our mortgage to boot.

We are being told one thing, with all the signs pointing to another. “Oh yeah, July looks fine,” when it seems September was the plan all along. The EA doesn’t even bother to respond when it gets awkward. This new delay came to light and they didn’t seem bothered about getting back to us. Which again, points to the assumption they are saying one thing and something else is going on.

We were ready, no messing for a straightforward purchase which hasn’t come to fruition because we feel we are getting half a story. We will be pulling out if dates aren’t considered soon, so we can extend our lease with our house. Buyers market or not, this house took nearly 3 months to sell and we are in a location where the searches are 12 weeks. So, they won’t even make the September cut off. Do we want to do that? Absolutely not. If it’s the difference between my children having a roof over their head or not, it’s not my issue. Not when we were clear from the start.

jimbog

suziebear1985 said:

By emailing absolutely everyone today including the buyers solicitors I've managed to get hold of the enquiries and respond. 

Maybe this is what they had hoped you would have done earlier?

eidand

Techyteacher said:

You’re not our vendor, however you could’ve been.

We feel like we’ve been led down the garden path if I’m honest. They aren’t mortgaged at the moment so are probably happy to stay! 

We were very clear on our need to move before September or not at all. This is the difference between finding the correct school and being homeless. If we are fobbed off and don’t officially ask for a post service lease. Court proceedings for eviction begin, potentially scuppering our mortgage to boot.

We are being told one thing, with all the signs pointing to another. “Oh yeah, July looks fine,” when it seems September was the plan all along. The EA doesn’t even bother to respond when it gets awkward. This new delay came to light and they didn’t seem bothered about getting back to us. Which again, points to the assumption they are saying one thing and something else is going on.

We were ready, no messing for a straightforward purchase which hasn’t come to fruition because we feel we are getting half a story. We will be pulling out if dates aren’t considered soon, so we can extend our lease with our house. Buyers market or not, this house took nearly 3 months to sell and we are in a location where the searches are 12 weeks. So, they won’t even make the September cut off. Do we want to do that? Absolutely not. If it’s the difference between my children having a roof over their head or not, it’s not my issue. Not when we were clear from the start.

When you're buying a house the onus is mostly on you. You're doing the mortgage application, you're booking the survey, you're doing the searches. How quickly the purchase completes is mostly down to those things. All the vendor has to do is send the MOS and answer enquiries. 

You can be as "clear" as you want, at the end of the day a house transaction takes as long as it takes.  If you want to move on a specific date, make sure you buy early enough to allow for that to happen and even then nothing is guaranteed. The vendor cannot rush things along.

eidand

OP, why don't you ask your buyer if they want to continue as things stands and if they don't or keep giving you ultimatums simply put the house back on the market asap. Better do it now than wait a few more weeks for nothing and then have to re-market anyway

Techyteacher

eidand said:

Techyteacher said:

You’re not our vendor, however you could’ve been.

We feel like we’ve been led down the garden path if I’m honest. They aren’t mortgaged at the moment so are probably happy to stay! 

We were very clear on our need to move before September or not at all. This is the difference between finding the correct school and being homeless. If we are fobbed off and don’t officially ask for a post service lease. Court proceedings for eviction begin, potentially scuppering our mortgage to boot.

We are being told one thing, with all the signs pointing to another. “Oh yeah, July looks fine,” when it seems September was the plan all along. The EA doesn’t even bother to respond when it gets awkward. This new delay came to light and they didn’t seem bothered about getting back to us. Which again, points to the assumption they are saying one thing and something else is going on.

We were ready, no messing for a straightforward purchase which hasn’t come to fruition because we feel we are getting half a story. We will be pulling out if dates aren’t considered soon, so we can extend our lease with our house. Buyers market or not, this house took nearly 3 months to sell and we are in a location where the searches are 12 weeks. So, they won’t even make the September cut off. Do we want to do that? Absolutely not. If it’s the difference between my children having a roof over their head or not, it’s not my issue. Not when we were clear from the start.

When you're buying a house the onus is mostly on you. You're doing the mortgage application, you're booking the survey, you're doing the searches. How quickly the purchase completes is mostly down to those things. All the vendor has to do is send the MOS and answer enquiries. 

You can be as "clear" as you want, at the end of the day a house transaction takes as long as it takes.  If you want to move on a specific date, make sure you buy early enough to allow for that to happen and even then nothing is guaranteed. The vendor cannot rush things along.

What’s your point? We’re ready thanks. We have all of our searches back (expedited in fact). Our mortgage offer in three days. We are ready to go. Did our bit considering the memo of sale stated ASAP. Lots of promises that the vendor would break the chain, get cracking, etc, etc. We did exactly that.

We in fact, moved too fast and have clearly caught the seller’s solicitor off guard. That’s not our problem. We were very clear, we were very upfront, we were told to get cracking. We did just that, the vendor doesn’t even have a homebuying survey booked until next month. Two and a half months into the process.

If the sale falls through, it’s no fault on our part. 

eidand

Techyteacher said:

eidand said:

Techyteacher said:

You’re not our vendor, however you could’ve been.

We feel like we’ve been led down the garden path if I’m honest. They aren’t mortgaged at the moment so are probably happy to stay! 

We were very clear on our need to move before September or not at all. This is the difference between finding the correct school and being homeless. If we are fobbed off and don’t officially ask for a post service lease. Court proceedings for eviction begin, potentially scuppering our mortgage to boot.

We are being told one thing, with all the signs pointing to another. “Oh yeah, July looks fine,” when it seems September was the plan all along. The EA doesn’t even bother to respond when it gets awkward. This new delay came to light and they didn’t seem bothered about getting back to us. Which again, points to the assumption they are saying one thing and something else is going on.

We were ready, no messing for a straightforward purchase which hasn’t come to fruition because we feel we are getting half a story. We will be pulling out if dates aren’t considered soon, so we can extend our lease with our house. Buyers market or not, this house took nearly 3 months to sell and we are in a location where the searches are 12 weeks. So, they won’t even make the September cut off. Do we want to do that? Absolutely not. If it’s the difference between my children having a roof over their head or not, it’s not my issue. Not when we were clear from the start.

When you're buying a house the onus is mostly on you. You're doing the mortgage application, you're booking the survey, you're doing the searches. How quickly the purchase completes is mostly down to those things. All the vendor has to do is send the MOS and answer enquiries. 

You can be as "clear" as you want, at the end of the day a house transaction takes as long as it takes.  If you want to move on a specific date, make sure you buy early enough to allow for that to happen and even then nothing is guaranteed. The vendor cannot rush things along.

What’s your point? We’re ready thanks. We have all of our searches back (expedited in fact). Our mortgage offer in three days. We are ready to go. Did our bit considering the memo of sale stated ASAP. Lots of promises that the vendor would break the chain, get cracking, etc, etc. We did exactly that.

We in fact, moved too fast and have clearly caught the seller’s solicitor off guard. That’s not our problem. We were very clear, we were very upfront, we were told to get cracking. We did just that, the vendor doesn’t even have a homebuying survey booked until next month. Two and a half months into the process.

If the sale falls through, it’s no fault on our part. 

My point is that people also move at their own speed. Your date limitations don't matter to a vendor, that's literally your problem. 
The vendor has their own plans as well and their plans / needs matter more to them than you do.

You have a choice, you either wait or find something else. Pick one.

Techyteacher

eidand said:

Techyteacher said:

eidand said:

Techyteacher said:

You’re not our vendor, however you could’ve been.

We feel like we’ve been led down the garden path if I’m honest. They aren’t mortgaged at the moment so are probably happy to stay! 

We were very clear on our need to move before September or not at all. This is the difference between finding the correct school and being homeless. If we are fobbed off and don’t officially ask for a post service lease. Court proceedings for eviction begin, potentially scuppering our mortgage to boot.

We are being told one thing, with all the signs pointing to another. “Oh yeah, July looks fine,” when it seems September was the plan all along. The EA doesn’t even bother to respond when it gets awkward. This new delay came to light and they didn’t seem bothered about getting back to us. Which again, points to the assumption they are saying one thing and something else is going on.

We were ready, no messing for a straightforward purchase which hasn’t come to fruition because we feel we are getting half a story. We will be pulling out if dates aren’t considered soon, so we can extend our lease with our house. Buyers market or not, this house took nearly 3 months to sell and we are in a location where the searches are 12 weeks. So, they won’t even make the September cut off. Do we want to do that? Absolutely not. If it’s the difference between my children having a roof over their head or not, it’s not my issue. Not when we were clear from the start.

When you're buying a house the onus is mostly on you. You're doing the mortgage application, you're booking the survey, you're doing the searches. How quickly the purchase completes is mostly down to those things. All the vendor has to do is send the MOS and answer enquiries. 

You can be as "clear" as you want, at the end of the day a house transaction takes as long as it takes.  If you want to move on a specific date, make sure you buy early enough to allow for that to happen and even then nothing is guaranteed. The vendor cannot rush things along.

What’s your point? We’re ready thanks. We have all of our searches back (expedited in fact). Our mortgage offer in three days. We are ready to go. Did our bit considering the memo of sale stated ASAP. Lots of promises that the vendor would break the chain, get cracking, etc, etc. We did exactly that.

We in fact, moved too fast and have clearly caught the seller’s solicitor off guard. That’s not our problem. We were very clear, we were very upfront, we were told to get cracking. We did just that, the vendor doesn’t even have a homebuying survey booked until next month. Two and a half months into the process.

If the sale falls through, it’s no fault on our part. 

My point is that people also move at their own speed. Your date limitations don't matter to a vendor, that's literally your problem. 
The vendor has their own plans as well and their plans / needs matter more to them than you do.

You have a choice, you either wait or find something else. Pick one.

Well the vendor should’ve thought about that before saying they’d break the chain/move ASAP etc. Alongside the EA. My needs matter to me, more than those of the vendor. Maybe everyone involved should’ve thought about what they said before accepting our offer. We aren’t in the wrong here, we were clear and we were told that’s fine. We proceeded on that basis and are now not happy to proceed on the new dates.

I’m not picking anything, if we don’t have dates soon, we will be pulling out, the seller will miss the September stamp duty. We’ve made our intentions absolutely clear. We kept our side, therefore it’s really not our fault or problem. Its now down to what the vendor decides. We’ve done our bit.

elsien

Techyteacher said:

You’re not our vendor, however you could’ve been.

We feel like we’ve been led down the garden path if I’m honest. They aren’t mortgaged at the moment so are probably happy to stay! 

We were very clear on our need to move before September or not at all. This is the difference between finding the correct school and being homeless. If we are fobbed off and don’t officially ask for a post service lease. Court proceedings for eviction begin, potentially scuppering our mortgage to boot.

We are being told one thing, with all the signs pointing to another. “Oh yeah, July looks fine,” when it seems September was the plan all along. The EA doesn’t even bother to respond when it gets awkward. This new delay came to light and they didn’t seem bothered about getting back to us. Which again, points to the assumption they are saying one thing and something else is going on.

We were ready, no messing for a straightforward purchase which hasn’t come to fruition because we feel we are getting half a story. We will be pulling out if dates aren’t considered soon, so we can extend our lease with our house. Buyers market or not, this house took nearly 3 months to sell and we are in a location where the searches are 12 weeks. So, they won’t even make the September cut off. Do we want to do that? Absolutely not. If it’s the difference between my children having a roof over their head or not, it’s not my issue. Not when we were clear from the start.

Doesn't sound anything like what the OP is saying, to me. They are clearly doing their best to move things on but at this stage the OP is limited in what they can do. 

Thrugelmir

Techyteacher said:

eidand said:

Techyteacher said:

eidand said:

Techyteacher said:

You’re not our vendor, however you could’ve been.

We feel like we’ve been led down the garden path if I’m honest. They aren’t mortgaged at the moment so are probably happy to stay! 

We were very clear on our need to move before September or not at all. This is the difference between finding the correct school and being homeless. If we are fobbed off and don’t officially ask for a post service lease. Court proceedings for eviction begin, potentially scuppering our mortgage to boot.

We are being told one thing, with all the signs pointing to another. “Oh yeah, July looks fine,” when it seems September was the plan all along. The EA doesn’t even bother to respond when it gets awkward. This new delay came to light and they didn’t seem bothered about getting back to us. Which again, points to the assumption they are saying one thing and something else is going on.

We were ready, no messing for a straightforward purchase which hasn’t come to fruition because we feel we are getting half a story. We will be pulling out if dates aren’t considered soon, so we can extend our lease with our house. Buyers market or not, this house took nearly 3 months to sell and we are in a location where the searches are 12 weeks. So, they won’t even make the September cut off. Do we want to do that? Absolutely not. If it’s the difference between my children having a roof over their head or not, it’s not my issue. Not when we were clear from the start.

When you're buying a house the onus is mostly on you. You're doing the mortgage application, you're booking the survey, you're doing the searches. How quickly the purchase completes is mostly down to those things. All the vendor has to do is send the MOS and answer enquiries. 

You can be as "clear" as you want, at the end of the day a house transaction takes as long as it takes.  If you want to move on a specific date, make sure you buy early enough to allow for that to happen and even then nothing is guaranteed. The vendor cannot rush things along.

What’s your point? We’re ready thanks. We have all of our searches back (expedited in fact). Our mortgage offer in three days. We are ready to go. Did our bit considering the memo of sale stated ASAP. Lots of promises that the vendor would break the chain, get cracking, etc, etc. We did exactly that.

We in fact, moved too fast and have clearly caught the seller’s solicitor off guard. That’s not our problem. We were very clear, we were very upfront, we were told to get cracking. We did just that, the vendor doesn’t even have a homebuying survey booked until next month. Two and a half months into the process.

If the sale falls through, it’s no fault on our part. 

My point is that people also move at their own speed. Your date limitations don't matter to a vendor, that's literally your problem. 
The vendor has their own plans as well and their plans / needs matter more to them than you do.

You have a choice, you either wait or find something else. Pick one.

Well the vendor should’ve thought about that before saying they’d break the chain/move ASAP etc. Alongside the EA. My needs matter to me, more than those of the vendor. Maybe everyone involved should’ve thought about what they said before accepting our offer. We aren’t in the wrong here, we were clear and we were told that’s fine. We proceeded on that basis and are now not happy to proceed on the new dates.

I’m not picking anything, if we don’t have dates soon, we will be pulling out, the seller will miss the September stamp duty. We’ve made our intentions absolutely clear. We kept our side, therefore it’s really not our fault or problem. Its now down to what the vendor decides. We’ve done our bit.

The net result is that you start the entire process again looking for a property. Writing off a considerable amount of money.  If I was the vendor I'd prefer to know now. Rather than waste my time further. Setting dates for a September deadline is nonsensical and totally meaningless. 

Techyteacher

Thrugelmir said:

Techyteacher said:

eidand said:

Techyteacher said:

eidand said:

Techyteacher said:

You’re not our vendor, however you could’ve been.

We feel like we’ve been led down the garden path if I’m honest. They aren’t mortgaged at the moment so are probably happy to stay! 

We were very clear on our need to move before September or not at all. This is the difference between finding the correct school and being homeless. If we are fobbed off and don’t officially ask for a post service lease. Court proceedings for eviction begin, potentially scuppering our mortgage to boot.

We are being told one thing, with all the signs pointing to another. “Oh yeah, July looks fine,” when it seems September was the plan all along. The EA doesn’t even bother to respond when it gets awkward. This new delay came to light and they didn’t seem bothered about getting back to us. Which again, points to the assumption they are saying one thing and something else is going on.

We were ready, no messing for a straightforward purchase which hasn’t come to fruition because we feel we are getting half a story. We will be pulling out if dates aren’t considered soon, so we can extend our lease with our house. Buyers market or not, this house took nearly 3 months to sell and we are in a location where the searches are 12 weeks. So, they won’t even make the September cut off. Do we want to do that? Absolutely not. If it’s the difference between my children having a roof over their head or not, it’s not my issue. Not when we were clear from the start.

When you're buying a house the onus is mostly on you. You're doing the mortgage application, you're booking the survey, you're doing the searches. How quickly the purchase completes is mostly down to those things. All the vendor has to do is send the MOS and answer enquiries. 

You can be as "clear" as you want, at the end of the day a house transaction takes as long as it takes.  If you want to move on a specific date, make sure you buy early enough to allow for that to happen and even then nothing is guaranteed. The vendor cannot rush things along.

What’s your point? We’re ready thanks. We have all of our searches back (expedited in fact). Our mortgage offer in three days. We are ready to go. Did our bit considering the memo of sale stated ASAP. Lots of promises that the vendor would break the chain, get cracking, etc, etc. We did exactly that.

We in fact, moved too fast and have clearly caught the seller’s solicitor off guard. That’s not our problem. We were very clear, we were very upfront, we were told to get cracking. We did just that, the vendor doesn’t even have a homebuying survey booked until next month. Two and a half months into the process.

If the sale falls through, it’s no fault on our part. 

My point is that people also move at their own speed. Your date limitations don't matter to a vendor, that's literally your problem. 
The vendor has their own plans as well and their plans / needs matter more to them than you do.

You have a choice, you either wait or find something else. Pick one.

Well the vendor should’ve thought about that before saying they’d break the chain/move ASAP etc. Alongside the EA. My needs matter to me, more than those of the vendor. Maybe everyone involved should’ve thought about what they said before accepting our offer. We aren’t in the wrong here, we were clear and we were told that’s fine. We proceeded on that basis and are now not happy to proceed on the new dates.

I’m not picking anything, if we don’t have dates soon, we will be pulling out, the seller will miss the September stamp duty. We’ve made our intentions absolutely clear. We kept our side, therefore it’s really not our fault or problem. Its now down to what the vendor decides. We’ve done our bit.

The net result is that you start the entire process again looking for a property. Writing off a considerable amount of money.  If I was the vendor I'd prefer to know now. Rather than waste my time further. Setting dates for a September deadline is nonsensical and totally meaningless. 

You’re missing the point. We are fine to proceed, in fact we want to. We do not want to cost the vendor money or break their chain. As the buyer, I’d rather know if the vendor has no intention of completing before September (which wasn’t the plan). Therefore we can extend our lease. The ball is in their court, it’s their solicitor suddenly throwing around later dates than discussed. After nearly 8 weeks, we are ready.