Weekly Flylady Thread 10th May 2021

Fayolle

Hmmm, YL. Definitely hide the keys. Hopefully you can get a cycle ride in early, then sort the camping bits out. Heavy rain forecast here in the next hour or so. I’m not sure that DH checked the forecast before he decided to go to the allotment…with no coat…
Thank you, Iona. DD slept until 6am. Oh happy days. Mind you, I was awake for much of the night, after having some really weird dreams.
I’m holding off switching on the wm, as I’d like to do the towels, but they can wait until tomorrow if it really does rain for the rest of the day.  All of my plants in the gh appear to be sulking. I don’t think that any of them have grown since they moved out there or were transplanted.  I currently have the world’s smallest tomato plants, and a tray of sulking geraniums. 

I don’t have a plan for the day, apart from HHI. I really need a stiff kick with a fluffy mule to get flying properly again. Mr M delivery yesterday evening, with loads of missing items. Not this bad since last year. Nothing we can’t live without, just not what I ordered, which is annoying.  Meal plan will be revisited.
Have a lovely day all. Hugs, sticks and spoons all round, as needed x

roundtuit

Morning xx
YL - chuck him out and get a budgie! (Standard Round relationship advice  ) 

I'm up, made my bed, supped a brew and played tetris ...for ages...I'd stopped playing that. now I'm going to have to stop again iyswim. Drat!

There was a small pile of 'stuff belonging to DS' accumulating on the kitchen worktop so I've co-opted a charity bag to load up ready for his next visit....there's a batman cape and mask can go in there too. And the first item to be REMOVED (as in 'not shoved IN and shut the door quick) from the RoD will be a sleeping mat for camping which is going into the bag. 

I wonder if he wants the mint condition Mr Men Annual 1998? Or the Nursey Rhyme book?  - I expect that will need a new battery. DS is 28 ....did I mention that I'm a hoarder? I wasn't kidding. There's a plastic trunk in there somewhere containing toddler toys (complete with dust from the flat we moved out of in 2003) I'm keeping the cuckoo clock that plays 'My Grandfather's Clock' when I unearth it. I may have a grandchild one day  Bu there has definitely been a shift in my mindset - one day I will unearth my hairdryer and my secateurs - although I think they are buried in the Cupboard of Doom. I'll find my lovely sewing basket too - and who knows what other treasure that I actually want to keep and use. Other 'rammel' (as my Mum used to call it) will have to be flung to make room for it. Little by little I'm moving forward - I'm actually excited at the thought of making a start on the hidden hoard (as opposed to the hoard in full view which is shrinking already). And that's all down to your support and guidance over the years ladies - I thank you all xx

And HB I love you  You are the light in my tunnel xx

Right another brew, get dressed, and when I come down I'm bringing that sleeping mat.

Hugs
Rxx

Jazee

Morning all. I like Rounds advice, but generally DHs do good stuff too, so I'll keep mine a bit longer.
This morning DH is at work and I have done the dailies, changed the sofa covers and washed the others, dyed my hair (I will not become a grandmother this week looking all grey!), and hoovered through the house.  

Next I am going to start on a knitting project.  Craft club starts again tomorrow and I want to be seen to be working on something although we will probably just sit and chat.

pigpen

YL.. I'm all for Rounds advice.. but then I get vertigo changing a lightbulb so need mine.. Maybe just send a rage filled text so he gets it the second there is a flash of signal and he can fear your wrath the whole day and it will spoil his trip. Could you stick to main routes for your cycling? Or meet a cycley friend?

My painter hands are killing me.. BUT DS2 couldn't sleep with his bedroom all shuffled about so he is up already so I can crack on as soon as I've slurped my cuppa!

Honey_Bear

Having had the conversation with him I'd expect your DH to be more considerate, YL.  However, the standard reason for self-centered behaviour here is, 'I forgot', so may I suggest the kind of reminder you've found that works during the course of your long and (mostly) happy marriage might be in order.  I no longer tolerate, 'I forgot' as a reason, and communicated my feelings by pointing out to my Belovéd that he never forgets when his team is playing footie - if his memory is good enough for that, it's good enough to remember what I tell him something is important to me.  That soon put a stop to what had been consistent selfishness here.  

Thank you Round for your kind words, but I absolutely have to say that it's being a Flylady and part of this amazing community that made what I've done so far this year possible.  DKW's approach and techniques have been amazingly helpful, but what really tipped me into starting with the photographs was Ionafan's post years and years ago the 1p a Day Saving Challenge and the constant knowledge that you are all here for each and every one of us, and that on this subject at least we have all Been There, Done That, Bought the Postcard and Caught the Disease. 

I can let one of a collection of hundreds or thousands go, and if I can let go of one, I can let go of two, and so on.  I knew when I started that the cumulative affect would be the fantastic number of 496 a month if I restarted it every month, or 6500 if I did it cumulatively a year.  I also knew i didn't need to do it for a year, just until I found a simpler way of telling my life story in photographs, so I always knew I'd know when to stop. 

It's taken me literally years to actually *fling* what I needed to let go of, because I've finally realised, learned and accepted that hanging on to 'stuff' and its attendent emotional baggage doesn't make my life better - letting go of it does.  I could have made that cork noticeboard I wanted to make and collected all those corks for, but I haven't done so for 10 years, have nowhere to hang it, and we don't actually want a noticeboard in the house.  The Scrapstore, however, was positively jubilent about a carrier bag full of corks.  Knowing that almost everything is going somewhere it will be used and valued is important to me; I don't save rubbish but I can't foresee a time when I'll make the cork noticeboard, or finish those patchwork quilts, although I am absolutely determined to get to grips with my Overlocker - so it didn't all go!

You're on the journey with all of the rest of us, and that's what makes it possible, and what matters.

Fayolle

Not sure that I can follow onto HB’s post with any semblance of coherence or meaningfulness…but I can echo that it is being part of this amazing Flylady community that makes me get up to fight another day. 

So…the clean towels are hanging outside, pending the promised rain, the ensuite and cloakroom have been and the bathroom has had a s&s. HHI has been seen off. Heated debate had with DD on why we are not getting a ferret, a goldfish, a chinchilla or a golden retriever (alright, I would have the last one if one presented itself at my door). I am going to make a Swiss roll while the oven is on baking a camembert, which is stinking out the fridge, and have prepped the buttercream filling. Sometimes I don’t know what gets into me 🤣.
As for having a budgie, I have a fear of all things with wings, from planes to moths.  Yes I am ridiculous, but feathered wings scare me the most. My budgie would have to be a stuffed parrot.  Not a bad thought, actually…
My new NDN has taken his chainsaw to everything in his previously lovingly tended back garden, including the amazing clematis that scrambled over the bushes in both our gardens.  I now have a very dead looking back hedge which I am none too pleased about, apart from the fact that I hate to see beautiful gardens hacked away. Not a happy flylady, but he hasn’t touched anything that wasn’t on his side, so nothing I can do or say, just need to get out there and repair the damage. I would have loved to have taken some cuttings before clematis went.

YORKSHIRELASS

Thanks Valli I will do, its the fact that he did it without saying anything that has annoyed me x

Anyhow I am not dwelling on it, nice 23 mile bike ride done, roads were muddy so bike is filthy and needs washing.  Cycling kit chucked in washer which is a bit wasteful because there was nothing else to go in with it but it was sweaty and muddy.

Mushroom omelette, bacon, beans and toast eaten.  Still hungry!

Going to sort the cupboard where we keep a muddle of cooking ingredients like oils, sauces, cornflour etc but might need another brew first.

roundtuit

Thank you HB xx

I'm dressed, the birds are fed, and the rubbish and recycling are out. 

DS messaged me to ask if I'll be in this afternoon? The batman cape and mask, and the sleeping mat are now in the bag for DS. As is a pair of trainers and a giant pencil - that's a bit less rammel under the kitchen table. 

I've brought down a carrier bag of single socks that has been sat in my bedroom. Task for today is to match what I can with the carrier bag full of single socks that I recently found and washed ready for this momentous moment. I do hope DS has a large sock drawer 

Now that I can open the drawers on the chest of drawers in my bedroom I've started to put away my clean clothes as I take them up. Folded a la MarieKon or my approximation of it.

Coffee now. 
Rxx

roundtuit

Fayolle  I'm short of nowt 🤣
One very dusty parrot!
Rxx

Jazee

Small knitting project started, forgot to mention that I s&sd bathrooms earlier, lunch scoffed and I'm about to wash the dishes.  It's raining so just pottering inside again really.