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How do you handle insubordination in kids?
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bouicca21 said:I’m having difficulty with the concept of punishing a 2 year old. That sounds like a parent who has totally unrealistic expectations of age appropriate behaviour.
i hadn’t noticed that my counting to three technique had turned my children into foul mouthed, work shy, feral adults. I shall have to pay more attention next time I see them.Naughty step was always just a giggle or scream the house down!But yes punishment for most kids isn't going to work. They are being taught rights & wrongs not punished.1 -
bouicca21 said:I’m having difficulty with the concept of punishing a 2 year old. That sounds like a parent who has totally unrealistic expectations of age appropriate behaviour.
i hadn’t noticed that my counting to three technique had turned my children into foul mouthed, work shy, feral adults. I shall have to pay more attention next time I see them.
Its not about 'punishing', we dont have children to punish them. But, we are failing our children if we dont instill a sense of whats right and what is not.2 -
I think the word 'chastising' was used rather than punishing but that's semantics. But how?🤔 It's hardly useful to criticise current methods without offering an alternative.1
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maman said:I think the word 'chastising' was used rather than punishing but that's semantics. But how?🤔 It's hardly useful to criticise current methods without offering an alternative.
Its not for me to tell someone else what to do. Each parent must find what works best for them.1 -
As the OP is American I think we are wasting time answering anyway.
Its not that we have more patience as we grow older, its just that we're too tired to care about all the pointless drama3 -
swingaloo2 said:maman said:I think the word 'chastising' was used rather than punishing but that's semantics. But how?🤔 It's hardly useful to criticise current methods without offering an alternative.
Its not for me to tell someone else what to do. Each parent must find what works best for them.1 -
In cases of repeated insubordination you may have to resort to a court martial.
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NaughtiusMaximus said:In cases of repeated insubordination you may have to resort to a court martial.0
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Can't believe we are taking advice on how to handle insubordination from Naughtius Maximus.1
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Naughty step never worked for me but following through on consequences did. So if they didn't do as I asked (repeatedly) and I'd said they would have no sweets/tv time etc then I carried out my actions.
However it really depends on the child. My two are chalk & cheese. My 15yo is a sweetheart and do anything for you, whereas my 11yo will not do anything unless it benefits her. At the moment, my power lies in withholding pocket money and trips to the park.
I have however had lots of comments on how polite and lovely they are from other parents so I must be doing something right 👍Credit Cards NOV 2019 £33,220.42 Sept 2023 £19,951.00 Tilly Tidy 20223/COLOR] Sept £43.71 Here's my diary: A Ditherer's Diary Again1
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