Pillows 5 April 2021 at 9:24AM in Marriage, relationships & families 36 replies 3.3K views

pinkshoes

I have insomnia. Getting to sleep and staying asleep are not my thing. But even worse I seem to do battle with my pillow most nights because it never feels comfy.

Can anyone recommend a DECENT pillow? Mine is just a cheapish Silent Night one. Are the "posh" ones really worth the money?

I'm seeing the Emma pillow, Simba, and various others. I've had a reaction to feather pillows before so it will probably have to be a synthetic one. 

Has anyone bought any of these and either loved or hated them?

£100 seemed a lot for a pillow but probably not if it is comfy given I spend 8 hours a day in bed!

wannabe_a_saver

There's so much variety, and everybody has such different preferences, I think the only thing to do is try them out until you find what suits! 

Why not wait until shops are open and go to one where you can touch and try the pililows?

[Deleted User]

Before you start blowing all your readies on expensive pillows, have you considered everything else...

Is your matters proving good support without 'bony bits' or sagging?

Are you too warm/too cold/is ventilation just right?

Are you getting enough fresh air through the day?

Often overlooked, and easy to blame on bad pillows, mattress etc, are you unknowingly developing postural problems, leading to tension in your neck and/or shoulders? Many of us do. I notice these things because of certain aspects of my background. It's amazing how many people you see with one shoulder slightly higher than the other, or arched shoulders etc, and if I know them personally well enough to say something, they all deny it at first, then think about it, then make a conscious effort to relax, then report all sorts of magical but obvious benefits like more energy and fewer headaches etc. It happens so easily because it sneaks up over time without you noticing. Most observers won't even notice because it tends to be very subtle.

coffeehound

Similar pillow trouble here, pinkshoes.  I'm planning on getting another Dunlopillo latex pillow.  Had one for about 15 years(!) in the past and only got rid of it then because it seemed wrong to use a pillow for that long.  It was still fine though, no smell or loss of support.  They give a nice combination of comfort and support with no 'hard bits' like you might get with structural pillows.  Also there should be no allergy problems if one is not sensitive to latex.

KxMx

I go through pillows quickly due to how much time I spend in bed. Cheap or expensive hollowfibre nothing ever lasted long before going flat. 

In January I got a £20 memory foam pillow and it's still as plump as when I opened it. Soft and so comfortable yet firm which is just how I like them, the firmer the better. It's truly amazing and I wish I'd tried it sooner.

Unavailable currently but gives you an idea:
https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B00TPBI9DA

pinkshoes

Beardybaldy said:

Before you start blowing all your readies on expensive pillows, have you considered everything else...

Is your matters proving good support without 'bony bits' or sagging?

Are you too warm/too cold/is ventilation just right?

Are you getting enough fresh air through the day?

Mattress is fine and definitely not sagging. Sprung with memory foam top layer. I quite like it.

I have blankets over duvet that I throw off if too warm.

Loads of fresh air (I tend to do 15k to 20k steps a day) and I teach so on my feet most the day at work.

I think the lack of sleep is my inability to switch brain off properly which then makes me realise my pillow is annoying me! I think I probably have ADHD!!

So just trying to establish if anyone has swapped to a "posh" pillow and been really pleased they did. 

Sea_Shell

pinkshoes said:

Beardybaldy said:

Before you start blowing all your readies on expensive pillows, have you considered everything else...

Is your matters proving good support without 'bony bits' or sagging?

Are you too warm/too cold/is ventilation just right?

Are you getting enough fresh air through the day?

Mattress is fine and definitely not sagging. Sprung with memory foam top layer. I quite like it.

I have blankets over duvet that I throw off if too warm.

Loads of fresh air (I tend to do 15k to 20k steps a day) and I teach so on my feet most the day at work.

I think the lack of sleep is my inability to switch brain off properly which then makes me realise my pillow is annoying me! I think I probably have ADHD!!

So just trying to establish if anyone has swapped to a "posh" pillow and been really pleased they did. 

I totally get that.  Why does the brain decide to go at a million miles an hour, when you're trying to sleep!!!

It's easy to fall into the trap thinking that it's your pillow.   I can be perfectly comfortable, but still find myself fidgeting because I'm awake.

With me I like the cool side of the pillow, so keep turning it!!   It's not the pillows fault! 😉

wannabe_a_saver

pinkshoes said:

Beardybaldy said:

Before you start blowing all your readies on expensive pillows, have you considered everything else...

Is your matters proving good support without 'bony bits' or sagging?

Are you too warm/too cold/is ventilation just right?

Are you getting enough fresh air through the day?

Mattress is fine and definitely not sagging. Sprung with memory foam top layer. I quite like it.

I have blankets over duvet that I throw off if too warm.

Loads of fresh air (I tend to do 15k to 20k steps a day) and I teach so on my feet most the day at work.

I think the lack of sleep is my inability to switch brain off properly which then makes me realise my pillow is annoying me! I think I probably have ADHD!!

So just trying to establish if anyone has swapped to a "posh" pillow and been really pleased they did. 

pinkshoes said:

Beardybaldy said:

Before you start blowing all your readies on expensive pillows, have you considered everything else...

Is your matters proving good support without 'bony bits' or sagging?

Are you too warm/too cold/is ventilation just right?

Are you getting enough fresh air through the day?

So just trying to establish if anyone has swapped to a "posh" pillow and been really pleased they did. 

Personally I like a firmer pillow underneath with a thinner soft pillow on top, so I have 'forever full' pillows which I think are by Dorma, got them from Dunelm, with dirt cheap thin ones from TK Maxx on top.  The combo works well for me. 

ellie99

At Christmas I bought an Emma mattress and pillow. I like the mattress but wish I hadn't wasted money on the pillow. It feels like lying on a brick. It has sections you can take out to make it thinner but I didn't find that any help. After trying it on 2 nights I had such bad neck pain it took 2 weeks to recover. I'm a side sleeper btw.

Waunakee

We have the Tempur Cloud pillows....husband and son love them but I have never been able to get on with mine (like sleeping with your head on a rock) and reverted to cheap supermarket ones which suit me just fine.

Have you tried any of the sleep sprays? I use the This Works brand and have to say it’s totally transformed my sleeping pattern.Expensive but a little goes a long way.

AskAsk

shame you had reaction to feather pillows.  hubby got me a feather pillow and i won't switch back to anything else now as it is so comfy.  i take it with me when we go on holiday as i won't sleep on anything else 

i have 2 feather pillows, which i put one on top of the other as they are soft so they sink low when your head rests on them and i need to have my head high up when i sleep so i put a hard pillow underneath the two feather ones