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Help with cat in leasehold flat - Director with passive/aggressive behaviour

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  • Tokmon said:
    Tokmon said:

    I also agree you should have read the paperwork before signing, but you have acknowledged that and there's nothing you can do about that now.


    Well they have two options: 1. Get rid of the Cat 2. Move house I would say option 2 is the best option here because they obviously don't want to get rid of the cat and they don't like the terms of the lease or the people who manage it.
    @tokmon
    I never said we don't like the terms of the lease or the people who manage it.
    Do you have a reply instead for what I did say:
    I made a mistake not reading the lease fully; I wrote back apologising, admitting and asking for permission.
    Initially when I wrote my post here, I just wanted advice on how to keep our indoor cat when several others without permits keep dogs that have to inevitably take our for a walk 2 or 3 times a day.
    It's the same Directors and Managing company for the whole Estate. 
    That's what I don't like.

    So you like the term of the lease that means you aren't allowed pets without permission and you like the person who you said this about: "I do feel she exhibits passive-agressive and bully behaviour".

    If i had pets i wouldn't like the terms of the lease and i certainly don't like people who exhibit bullying behavior so it seems strange to me that you don't dislike both!.

    From what i have read on here the other people who have dogs are from different building or houses? So i don't see the problem with that myself because everyone's lease can be different and houses certainly aren't likely to have a no pets policy. So if your comparing to people who live in houses on the same estate that's an entirely different situation because they don't have shared communal areas.
    I neither like nor dislike the terms of the lease. I find that a lease that doesn't have an outright prohibition to have pets and instead asks to seek permission but doesn't give them is inefficient when in reality some people either don't ask for it or if denied, keep the pet. 
    It's like informal economy (defeats the purpose).
    I dislike her behaviour in this situation; not the person. I don't know her in other areas to judge her. She may be a wonderful friend, mother and overall person.
    My views of her are subjective and personal based on the situation. 
    More important, being on this forum and comparing views with made me realise that we just have different ways of doing things. For me an outright letter is shocking because the way we did it when I was a Director was -as I said before- have a couple of informal conversations; a letter reporting sth was only sent after verbal comms.
    Also, you could liaise directly with the neighbours.
    This chat has been great in helping me understand that the opposite is also common practice.
    Finally, the lease is the same for all the buildings around. Estate belongs to a group; lease specifies buildings.
    Of course, I understand that rules don't apply to houses (I've mentioned before we have some lovely neighbours who have a dog and told us they are freehold, hence no probs). The other people with dogs live in other blocks.

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