Money Moral Dilemma: Should I give my friend the cash I made selling her unwanted clutter?

gloriouslyhappy

juliaw said:

 A neighbour never forgave me for buying from her a table she was throwing away. I spent weeks refinishing it. When she saw the very nice result, she was furious.

How sad to be so unhappy you got a great result for all your hard work, the neighbour could have done the same but chose not to. Well done you for salvaging a useful item and making it better, we throw away far too much stuff that's perfectly useable.

paulk3

er no ! she could not be bothered.It is best to say nothing.
I asked for a chair from next door neighbour,who was throwing it out.
I cleaned it up and then decided I would sell it,I did, but just kept my mouth shut,after all ,it was mine now.

richytay1

Tbh If you (the OP)  have to ask this question then you’d be better off giving her the 30 quid and it’d be worth that to make you feel good, but next time, just let her take her own rubbish to the tip. 

meknowalot-51

You should keep it.

primrose_penguin

I would give her all the money and if she is a good friend hopefully she would suggest you kept half yourself or suggested a treat for both of you.

Fitzmichael

What the ...? I'm 80 years old and grew up with the idea that honesty is a prime virtue, but I see no reason/obligation to give her the money that she herself couldn't be bothered to 'earn'. If you feel like spending it on her, fine, but you don't need to tell her.
Anyway, this is probably another MSE fable. 

JayD

There are a lot of mixed opinions here but I think it depends on whether £30 is a lot of money to you or your friend or not. It all seems relative to me. So I would tell your friend what you have done with her discarded items and either offer all of the money to her - and bask in her gratitude - or suggest you use the proceeds to both go out for a drink together (when lockdown permits) or put it towards a delivered shared takeaway.

Either way, I would not just pocket it and stay silent. That seems to me to be a tad deceitful.

Koda19

This really interested me so joined just to answer!

You yourself said that she had given you the stuff to throw out, thus she is giving up ownership of the item/s and they're no longer hers. When I throw clothes out my sister goes through them and picks out stuff she likes - if she sells that for money I wouldn't care less as without her intervention I would be £0 better off and she would be £0 better off, just like you and your mate.

crmism

Your friend implied that she had no further interest in the goods and, as the old saying goes, possession is nine points of the law. Treating what she evidently didn't want as your property seems perfectly reasonable, so keep the money as payment for your expenses selling them on.

Marvel1

Keep it, she didn't want to sell them.