Money Moral Dilemma: Should I give my friend the cash I made selling her unwanted clutter?

CapeTown

When I moved, one of my friends asked for an ornamental stone bird bowl that was in the garden we were moving from. Of course I gave it to her. Several years later, she too was moving and she sold quite a bit of stuff on EBay including the bird bath. She actually made quite a bit of money on it and didn't give me a penny. Still rankles to this day.  So OP share the money you made. You did a good thing. Share

dom_london

By all means keep the money. If your friend is one of those people who feel they have a God-given right to pollute our planet by discarding perfectly usable items, without even thinking of the environment and/or others who would be happy to have them at a reduced price, then she doesn't deserve the proceeds. 

dibby15

Yes, deffo give all the money to your friend.  This is for their benefit not yours!

Gervais3232

Fantastic for keeping the items out of landfill. I appreciate your dilemma with what to do with the proceeds from the sale of the two items. We all need positive things to feel good about so I’d donate the money to charity as they need all the support they can get at the moment.  

Sheepster

Ooooh this sort of thing always reminds me of the toddlers story of “The Little Red Hen”. Do the work in taking things, listing... not I
Who wants to help me spend the proceeds of all my work?.........

silvercar

The time to mention this to your friend was at the start. As you were identifying items that could be sold, you should have said that these are worth something, I can sell for you 50/50 or you can sell them yourself. Then “friend” has the option to say that you should keep all the proceeds if you want to try and sell or agree to 50/50. The only true dilemma would be if friend told you not to bother selling and dump the lot - but that would be a different dilemma.

MrsH3

You did the deals, so you EARNED the money - and thanks for recycling not throwing

maddie67

A_Lert said:

Depends on what the friend's like. If they're reasonable, give half, I think that's fair. But if they're known to be grabby, keep quiet; an offer of half will prompt a greedy drama-causer to demand it all.

If they were greedy or grabby then they probably wouldnt have given the items away in the first place.

Katecooks

Absolutely not! She "couldn't be bothered". My Mum died last year and my sister just wanted a few 'choice' items and leaving me all the work of clearing the rest (her argument was that she works full-time and 'has her own life'). I'm self-employed so don't have set hours but I work hard including weekends. I refused to take everything to the tip. I've sorted, taken bits to the charity shop/given away on freecycle and sold lots of stuff in my 'free time' so am not prepared to share the proceeds! You helped your friend out, so that's her payment AND you kept items out of landfill so you deserve to keep the profits. When I went to the tip (with broken junk) I couldn't believe what lazy people chuck away. PLEASE offer unwanted items on freecycle sites - you can leave outside for contact-free collection!! Most items will be wanted by someone and you can save yourself a trip to the tip.

Clarity2

I don't think you have any moral or legal obligation to give any of the money to your friend, because she parted with the stuff when she sent it to the dump, and said she didn't want to sell it, and at that point it became nobody's stuff. It became your stuff when you saved it from the dump.
On the other hand, if you want to be a nice friend, and/or encourage your friend to declutter more often, it would be a nice idea to share it with her, so she associates decluttering with good results.