Money Moral Dilemma: Should my brother share his lottery winnings?

Quiqueg

It is up to him if he shares his good fortune or not. However, if he does not it says a lot about his character, and I would suggest that the girl gets a new boyfriend. She is not onto a good relationship with this one.

RogerWS

She shouldn't ask him for a share although she could think it. It all depends how deep their relationship is or is likely to become. He could for instance buy a couple of tyres for the car and then treat her to something, and then they could have a treat together. As I said, it all depends on the depth of their relationship. I wonder what would happen if he won £500,000? Just asking!

Pithaggy

'The love of money is the root of all evil'

What he does with it should not matter to his partner. She should just be happy that he won and take pleasure in the fact that she instigated it.

In a good relationship he would enjoy lavishing some of it on her anyway.

Of course, money is completely illusionary. Even more so as we move away from physically handling its cash representation.

Once more people understand that and its true purpose, they will be far less stressed about it.

Mind you, someone famous once said: ‘Money does not make you happy, but at least you can be miserable in comfort’

tindella

I think you should stay out of it - it's none of your business - it's between the two of them!

whydoineedone

Of course she shouldn’t ask for a share. It’s his property now whether she gave it or not. She should be pleased for him, if not, she’s not for him! 

6000_a_year_is_plenty

I'd give her half. Over the next few years I'd seek to recoup the £250 by making household savings, suggesting we eat more healthy meals, cut down on meat, biscuits, chocolate, and crisps, buy cheaper toilet roll, turn the heating down, take cold showers (for the environment). Buy her a slightly cheaper bunch of flowers for Valentines, smaller size or cheaper brand of perfume for her birthday, fewer presents at Christmas, hand-made cards, because nothing says I love you like giving time rather than money. I'd create a new sheet in my budgeting spreadsheet to record and take pleasure in each of my savings.

After all, a parsimonious man can afford to be generous. ;-)

fizzking

An opportunity either to ditch her or to keep her. 

lynn_russell

No! It was her gift to him. If she'd given him aftershave would she expect to share it???

gamblek

This is a sad read. A gift is a gift. What is the intention of a lottery card gift, is it not for the recipient to hopefully win? Otherwise, it is just a piece of paper...

primrose_penguin

I think firstly the sister should stay out of it. Secondly, if you buy someone a scratch card as a gift you buy it hoping they will win something, otherwise why would you give it in the first place, it is HIS winnings and HIS choice what to spend it on. If his girlfriend is putting pressure on him to share the money maybe he should think about their relationship, if she had been pleased for him she may have got a nice surprise without asking.