Money Moral Dilemma: Should my brother share his lottery winnings?

busiscoming2

The card was a gift. He won. His money. 

74jax

StrugglingNurse said:

Surely when she bought it the gift she knew there would be a chance of him winning something.

I’m guessing if he won £10 she wouldn’t want any of it?

I’m glad the brother is seeing sense and not agreeing with his gf!

We don't know he doesn't?  We have no idea 🤭 it's an MSE dilemma remember..... 😂. 
He might have offered to take them both away and the gf agreed, meaning she is happy to take half. 
We have zero idea what the person who won the money thinks or did. Or even if the gf made a fuss, laughed 'is half mine' or didn't say anything at all to her BF. 
And we never will.

Didi62

If it was a gift, the prize money belongs to him 

NoodleDoodleMan

Morrigan_2020 said:

I have no idea why a disagreement between a boyfriend and girlfriend over a scratch card is anything at all to do with the boyfriend's sister. 

Perhaps the sister wanted a slice of the cake ?

Sounds like a somewhat mercenary relationship if the boyfriend is reluctant to give the partner a cut of the winnings.

Slyme

But girlfriend a really nice gift to say thank you and pocket the rest of the money. She should be pleased for you. If all she is interested in is money do some serious thinking! If my boyfriend won on a gift I had given him I would be so pleased for him.

magspots

She definitely isn’t entitled to anything. He may feel he would like to share a little but he definitely doesn’t have to. How selfish is she?

Tim11111000111

I don't see how there can be more than one opinion on this. She gifted him the scratch card - literally the only value in that present is the possibility that he might win something. He has won, so that is his present for him to do with as he pleases.
Maybe he could choose to share some of the winnings with his girlfriend. My girlfriend gave me a box of chocolates for Christmas, and I've been sharing those with her. However, the difference is choice versus obligation - the money is his and his alone, to do with as he wishes.

Bribar1949

That dilemma wouldn’t have come up when I was courting, I would have instantly booked a romantic weekend away. As a thank you of course!

74jax

Tim11111000111 said:

I don't see how there can be more than one opinion on this. She gifted him the scratch card - literally the only value in that present is the possibility that he might win something. He has won, so that is his present for him to do with as he pleases.
Maybe he could choose to share some of the winnings with his girlfriend. My girlfriend gave me a box of chocolates for Christmas, and I've been sharing those with her. However, the difference is choice versus obligation - the money is his and his alone, to do with as he wishes.

Exactly. We have no idea he doesn't feel that same as the gf and is happy to treat them to a weekend away, a dinner, etc.
It's the most random MSE dilemma as it's about someone who we don't even know the opinion of..... 

Quiqueg

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 My brother's girlfriend gave him a National Lottery scratchcard as a Christmas gift, and he won £500. She thinks he should give her some of the money as she gave him the card, but I think he should keep it as the card was a present. Should he share the money with her?

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