Money Moral Dilemma: Should my brother share his lottery winnings?

meknowalot-51 · 5 January 2021 at 11:49PM

If he see's the relationship with his girlfriend being long term then perhaps he could promise a weekend away when things get better.As it is he can't take her out for a meal or movie.Then you've got to ask yourself,why is she asking?This is my money,not yours.She should not be asking at all...................................keep things cool for the next 6 or 8 weeks of lockdown and if she persists you've got to let her go.This lockdown is going to do you both a big favour.

REJP · 5 January 2021 at 11:55PM

Presumably the girlfriend thinks she is entitled to a share of his wages as well?
Non dilemma here. Find another girlfriend.

MalMonroe · 5 January 2021 at 11:56PM

I think it's just something for them to decide. If it were me though and my partner had given me a winning ticket, I'd want to put the winning money towards something for us to share. I'd do that if I'd bought a ticket for myself too. If partners can't or don't want to share their good fortune, I think it's a real shame. Nobody else's business, though, really.

MalMonroe · 5 January 2021 at 11:57PM

dobbiesloan said:

What an idiot. Why did he tell her. He should have waited until she was not around. Buy her one.

Hmm. Deceit. Because everyone knows that relationships thrive on it.

ajk3 · 6 January 2021 at 12:00AM

She should've asked for nothing. Not because she doesn't morally deserve any, but to test his actions in that situation.

Now that she has asked (and you can't take that back) any hesitation on his part may be seen as negative.

One solution is to spend the money on something for both of them, such as a luxury hotel and restaurant but where he gets to choose. Alternatively, call her bluff and hand her £250 in cash to test her reactions - see how she spends that. Better to look out for any red flags now before getting married.

denem · 6 January 2021 at 12:01AM

She should not even have to suggest being given some of the money. If he doesn't hand her some then he is the one who isn't worth having. Maybe a way out for her from a bad deal.

Hadenoughofitall · 6 January 2021 at 1:00AM

Get rid of her

JaneHenery · 6 January 2021 at 1:21AM

Well, it would be a nice gesture if he gave her something, but it's his money, not hers. That said, I'd be far more worried what this 'debate' says about their relationship. She feels entitled to his prize money because she bought him the winning ticket and he grudges giving her anything (I assume, since you're his brother and you're taking this stance). I don't think they should consider marrying each other if this is the level of squabble going on over a £500 Xmas 'gift' - not exactly the season of goodwill.

Traficlady · 6 January 2021 at 6:44AM

No, it’s his money, he should keep it.

BlueSkyFool · 6 January 2021 at 7:03AM

My brother won £100k on a lottery scratchcard only last year and I would not even consider him obligated to give me anything and even if he offered I would graciously decline because that’s his money nothing to do with me and I am happy for him so he should enjoy it, my brother always had a tough time with finding work and struggling to pay bills so this win gave him a little financial freedom for once. Anyone that thinks they are entitled to a share are just vile human beings just be happy for your brother.