He’s got low self esteem

AnotherJoe

-taff said:

bebex said:

He does have low esteem, he constantly doubts himself and says he doesn’t feel he can be himself around our friends as he’s scared they won’t like him and he won’t act like himself. He’s told me multiple he doesn’t feel good enough and he worries that I won’t like him for various reasons 

He 'chased' you for three months until you felt brow beaten enough to say yes? This is not the action of someone who has low self esteem. This is the action, along with the constant 'I'm not good enough' chats that are bascially manipulating you itno seeing him.

Just tell him you don't think a relationship with you is good for his mental health, because it'll turn into a self fulfilling prophecy if you do leave him and then stop seeing him ina romantic way otherwise you're setting yourself for potentially years of  hand holding.

He's an adult, it's not your job to fix him.

^^^^ this

OP sounds to me as if you have got low esteem for putting up with this person.

As for his mental health, you cant be held hostage for the rest of your life by such threats (which might only continue until they find someone else to fix on) even if they are real.

 

moneyonmymindsam

Run like the gingerbread man... 
https://youtu.be/65dEHYsxTGc
  

kangoora

Dump the loser - move on with your own life

calleyw

Seems you are thinking about his feelings and the dynamics of the group of friends you are in. Think about what yourself.  Personally it does not sound healthy to have any contact with this person.  I was in a very unhealthy on/off again relationship and wasted 4 years of my life.  Which has left me with mental health issues.  So for your own mental health.  Block his number and move on.

All the best

Yours

Calley x

bebex

Well updated, he’s not going out with a girl he use to talk to everyday whilst we were together and never mentioned. He ended it the day she told him she’d split up with her boyfriend and has previously friend zoned him. I’ve removed myself from the group and blocked him 😂

Pollycat

bebex said:

Well updated, he’s not going out with a girl he use to talk to everyday whilst we were together and never mentioned. He ended it the day she told him she’d split up with her boyfriend and has previously friend zoned him. I’ve removed myself from the group and blocked him 😂

I guess you mean 'now going out with...' rather than 'not going out with...'

Class it as a bullet dodged.

bebex

Pollycat said:

bebex said:

Well updated, he’s not going out with a girl he use to talk to everyday whilst we were together and never mentioned. He ended it the day she told him she’d split up with her boyfriend and has previously friend zoned him. I’ve removed myself from the group and blocked him 😂

I guess you mean 'now going out with...' rather than 'not going out with...'

Class it as a bullet dodged.

Yes, sorry. Tell me about it 😅