He’s got low self esteem

bebex

I’ve been seeing my friend for 3 months after 3 months of him chasing me as I was dead set on not getting involved with anyone. He’s been struggling with confidence due to not getting over his ex cheating, we’ve discussed things and he’s opened up to me slowly, he has also problems in the bedroom where he can’t get it up due to feeling pressure to perform. Everything was going fine until I asked him to stop liking multiple girls pictures on Instagram and he now decided he has no feelings and has just been pretending and what’s to end it now whilst we can be friends. He also claims he doesn’t feel good enough, which is confusing in itself. We’re attempting to be friends but I’m finding him very hot and cold and now he nick picks at me constantly and I just feel like !!!!!! and I don’t know what to do.

AskAsk

he sounds difficult.  i would drop it and move on.  too much hard work for the future, so best not get involved.

Mojisola

bebex said:

We’re attempting to be friends but I’m finding him very hot and cold and now he nick picks at me constantly and I just feel like !!!!!! and I don’t know what to do.

This is the only bit that matters - why would you stay around someone who makes you feel like this?

pickledonionspaceraider

Walk away.
Fast.
This person is not worth your time

McKneff

One word
'Elbow'

68ComebackSpecial

So, he gets to boost his self esteem by lowering yours. Why would you want someone as a friend - let alone a boyfriend - who treats you in that way?

burner04

millenials!

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burner04 said:

millenials!

This is not a millennial issue, it's been happening since time immemorial.  @bebex, swerve him.

Robinette

Smacks of overcompensating for an inferiority complex - run for the hills!

74jax

Do you mean he was a friend beforehand? So you've known him longer than 3months?  Or is all you have known, is him how he is now? 

Smodlet

I think you need either to raise your standards, which would be my recommendation, or to lower them.  If that is too grammatical for you, either ditch him or put up with him... Seriously, is he all you are worth?  He sounds like somewhere you would be better putting a piece of furniture to me (waste of space, in case you did not get it)

If my post comes across as patronising, it was meant to.  Why do you need even to ask the question?  What do you do with rubbish?  I doubt you can even recycle him; maybe for organs..?  He won't get it up until he grows up and grows a pair.