Easier to raise Boys v Girls.

burlingtonfl6

Retireby40 said:

mark5 said:

Im closer to my daughter but boys are much easier and generally happier in my experience. 

What makes you say boys are easier? Is that at all ages or certain age ranges in their lives? 

I would also say boys aren't as impacted by social media.

Aranyani

annabanana82 said:

My view on boys being easier is that there tends to be less drama in their lives, some.gis.tend to thrive on it. I also think that girls can be nasty and vindictive, even if your child isn't you're more likely to come across such a child if you have Daughters rather than Sons. 

Do you think girls are more likely to take on those traits because they grow up in a culture that views girls that way perhaps?  Maybe they internalise these sexist attitudes and behave the way they are expected to?

burlingtonfl6

Aranyani said:

annabanana82 said:

My view on boys being easier is that there tends to be less drama in their lives, some.gis.tend to thrive on it. I also think that girls can be nasty and vindictive, even if your child isn't you're more likely to come across such a child if you have Daughters rather than Sons. 

Do you think girls are more likely to take on those traits because they grow up in a culture that views girls that way perhaps?  Maybe they internalise these sexist attitudes and behave the way they are expected to?

Regardless of what you're told in the world today, men and women are different biologically, emotionally, socially etc.
Millions of years of evolution can't change that....and we shouldn't try.

strawb_shortcake

Aranyani said:

annabanana82 said:

My view on boys being easier is that there tends to be less drama in their lives, some.gis.tend to thrive on it. I also think that girls can be nasty and vindictive, even if your child isn't you're more likely to come across such a child if you have Daughters rather than Sons. 

Do you think girls are more likely to take on those traits because they grow up in a culture that views girls that way perhaps?  Maybe they internalise these sexist attitudes and behave the way they are expected to?

I think there is a lot of that, I'd also say it offers a level of protection, in older girls/women they've been hurt or mistreated so put up quite a barrier that's often seen as others as being quite hard hearted or they've seen their Mothers treated badly and don't want to follow in their footsteps. 
I've also seen people from privileged positions that take on that persona from being spoilt or the other end of the spectrum where they have issues at home and lash out in an attempt to make themselves feel better. 
As an adult I can look back at different examples and understand why some people behave like they do, but not so easy to do for a child. 

Perhaps boys do have similar traits but having had more female friends than boys I haven't been quite as exposed to such traits. 

I also think that boys tend not to speak about their feelings so much (probably also linked to gender stereotypes), so the comment about boys not being as affected by social media as much may not be entirely true, online bullying affects both sexes and I believe there is an increase in eating disorders in boys.

Retireby40

annabanana82 said:

Aranyani said:

annabanana82 said:

My view on boys being easier is that there tends to be less drama in their lives, some.gis.tend to thrive on it. I also think that girls can be nasty and vindictive, even if your child isn't you're more likely to come across such a child if you have Daughters rather than Sons. 

Do you think girls are more likely to take on those traits because they grow up in a culture that views girls that way perhaps?  Maybe they internalise these sexist attitudes and behave the way they are expected to?

I think there is a lot of that, I'd also say it offers a level of protection, in older girls/women they've been hurt or mistreated so put up quite a barrier that's often seen as others as being quite hard hearted or they've seen their Mothers treated badly and don't want to follow in their footsteps. 
I've also seen people from privileged positions that take on that persona from being spoilt or the other end of the spectrum where they have issues at home and lash out in an attempt to make themselves feel better. 
As an adult I can look back at different examples and understand why some people behave like they do, but not so easy to do for a child. 

Perhaps boys do have similar traits but having had more female friends than boys I haven't been quite as exposed to such traits. 

I also think that boys tend not to speak about their feelings so much (probably also linked to gender stereotypes), so the comment about boys not being as affected by social media as much may not be entirely true, online bullying affects both sexes and I believe there is an increase in eating disorders in boys.

Girls are gossips. Is it a natural thing or nurture? No idea. But girls are gossips. Which may lead to the issues they have with each other within friendship groups. 

My other half is in her 30s and still has issues between friends. Multiple WhatsApp groups and secret intra groups. I often think....how can you be bothered with that. It leads to trouble. The same happens with teenage girls.

Boys on the other hands and men. The have all their friends in a group and often if they want to say something they just say it even if it offends. That can lead to more physical altercations in the playground or whatever but with boys issues tend to last 2 mins. With girls do they ever forget something bad said to them? I'm not so sure. 

Working with kids I see it very clear the girls are more likely to tell me when another student has failed an exam than the boys. They love to bring bad news or gossip.

Aranyani

Lots of generalisations and stereotypes there

Aranyani

burlingtonfl6 said:

Aranyani said:

annabanana82 said:

My view on boys being easier is that there tends to be less drama in their lives, some.gis.tend to thrive on it. I also think that girls can be nasty and vindictive, even if your child isn't you're more likely to come across such a child if you have Daughters rather than Sons. 

Do you think girls are more likely to take on those traits because they grow up in a culture that views girls that way perhaps?  Maybe they internalise these sexist attitudes and behave the way they are expected to?

Regardless of what you're told in the world today, men and women are different biologically, emotionally, socially etc.
Millions of years of evolution can't change that....and we shouldn't try.

If anyone’s been trying to tell you that men and women are the same biologically I know some books you could get them, nice simple ones with pictures.

Retireby40

Aranyani said:

Lots of generalisations and stereotypes there

So what I witness everyday is a figment of my imagination and gives me no indication on how females v males act?

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Retireby40 said:

Aranyani said:

Lots of generalisations and stereotypes there

So what I witness everyday is a figment of my imagination and gives me no indication on how females v males act?

I don’t recognise your view at all. My daughter is not a gossip neither are her friends, they are a lovely bunch of girls working hard at school to try to secure uni places next year. I also have 2 boys one of whom gave me minimal trouble, the other was a pain in the bum for many years causing us endless stress. Fortunately he’s grown up now but the years of absolute misery he caused all of us are still fresh in my mind.

Retireby40

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Retireby40 said:

Aranyani said:

Lots of generalisations and stereotypes there

So what I witness everyday is a figment of my imagination and gives me no indication on how females v males act?

I don’t recognise your view at all. My daughter is not a gossip neither are her friends, they are a lovely bunch of girls working hard at school to try to secure uni places next year. I also have 2 boys one of whom gave me minimal trouble, the other was a pain in the bum for many years causing us endless stress. Fortunately he’s grown up now but the years of absolute misery he caused all of us are still fresh in my mind.

We are getting off topic. What I see and what you see on a daily basis are 2 different things. Just because the girls I see are gossips doesnt mean every girl in the world is a gossip.

And just because the boys I see arent gossips doesnt mean there arent boys who are gossips.

I'm taking my sample size from around 100 kids varying in ages between 3 and 18. My experience will be different from yours. Although theres probably things that if you step away from your own small sample size and think back to your own school days theres clear differences in patterns of behaviour between girls and boys. 

You say one of your boys caused you nothing but trouble. What was the issue there in comparison to your other 2 kids? Obviously dont want to know any private information but what in general made him such a misery. Sounds horrible lol.