Easier to raise Boys v Girls.

MERFE

My daughter has been hard work her whole life. I think it's because she is the oldest, she always thought she was one of the parents and got to make the rules. She is very independent and determined. 15 now is not a good age. My youngest boy has a temper, not looking forward to his teenage years. The middle one though, he has been a breeze. In my opinion the easiest child in the world. Funnily though when he was younger we had some issues if anyone watched him they would moan about his energy, this includes comments from scout leaders, teachers as well as family members. We just made sure he did lots of activities, he was never naughty and is a huge people pleaser but he knows his own mind. His excessive energy disappeared when he hit teenage and he is turning into an amazing young person. My mother has warned the boys tend to have their teenage moments later than girls though so we'll see but I really can't see him being an issue. Oh and he is by no means perfect, still has to be reminded to shower more often and clean his room but he isn't hard work.

Retireby40

burlingtonfl6 said:

Boys are harder when their younger. Girls are more trouble from 13 to 35

35????? I'm sorry but theres no way I'm dealing with an adult child when I'm 70 lol. By the time they start they finish uni and start the big bad world of employment they are on their own to a degree. Not living with me or depending on me. For help always will be there but they need to work life out for themselves.

Aranyani

Retireby40 said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Boys are harder when their younger. Girls are more trouble from 13 to 35

35????? I'm sorry but theres no way I'm dealing with an adult child when I'm 70 lol. By the time they start they finish uni and start the big bad world of employment they are on their own to a degree. Not living with me or depending on me. For help always will be there but they need to work life out for themselves.

Good luck with that, the world has changed and adult children are having to live with parents for longer and longer.  The minimum wage and benefits system in this country is even set up around the assumption that they can. 

It’s wrong, but it’s the way it is at the moment sadly.  Hopefully your kids will be able to get good jobs and live independently from 18 or 21 but that’s not as easy as it used to be!

Retireby40

Aranyani said:

Retireby40 said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Boys are harder when their younger. Girls are more trouble from 13 to 35

35????? I'm sorry but theres no way I'm dealing with an adult child when I'm 70 lol. By the time they start they finish uni and start the big bad world of employment they are on their own to a degree. Not living with me or depending on me. For help always will be there but they need to work life out for themselves.

Good luck with that, the world has changed and adult children are having to live with parents for longer and longer.  The minimum wage and benefits system in this country is even set up around the assumption that they can. 

It’s wrong, but it’s the way it is at the moment sadly.  Hopefully your kids will be able to get good jobs and live independently from 18 or 21 but that’s not as easy as it used to be!

Yeah things are difficult but I'm not that old 31 and when I was 23-24-25 I wanted freedom but couldnt really afford my own place so i moved into a house share. Then met partner and moved in with them. Theres always a cheaper way to start gaining independence. 

Even on minimum wage house shares are more than affordable. What I dont want (and what happens more than not) is 20 something child living at home yet blowing money on drinking, holidays, smoking, shopping and then complaining it's too hard to get their own place. But all of this is a debate maybe for a different thread. 

burlingtonfl6

Retireby40 said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Boys are harder when their younger. Girls are more trouble from 13 to 35

35????? I'm sorry but theres no way I'm dealing with an adult child when I'm 70 lol. By the time they start they finish uni and start the big bad world of employment they are on their own to a degree. Not living with me or depending on me. For help always will be there but they need to work life out for themselves.

As said above, you're living in the wrong time.
The past couple of generations have never had it so good and the children they brought into this world are now baby adults until they're at least 25. We even have discussions on here about child payments being carried on until 21.
The young adults of today are soft, and previous generations are to blame.

Retireinten

Oldest is a girl, now 15, has had until very recently a 'just enough' attitude to school, always has an opinion, very focused and driven (but not necessarily with the things I think are important ), she was a very difficult baby, we've had some run ins over the last few years but she appears to be coming out the other side of it now. She's sitting her mocks this week and recently applied for college and the change in her has been astounding to be honest. I never thought I'd ever say 'you've studied enough, please take a break, you're going to make yourself poorly!' to my daughter but I have actually said that a few times recently (whilst pinching myself very hard in an attempt to wake myself up!). 

12 year old son, totally different character, more academic, very laid back, quite loving and caring, no violent mood swings... but not necessarily an easier child! He's had bouts of severe anxiety on and off over the years, although he seems to be 'self soothing' more now, he's taking change far more in his stride and appears more able to recognise when his emotional reactions do not fit the situation.


I personally find the occasional shouty hysterics from daughter far easier to manage than the distraught son who has built up a problem in his mind to such an extent he's worrying himself sick! 

KateBob

I have one of each and they have managed to hit all the preconcieved ideas about genders.

Daughter is 18 (and now away at uni), she was the easiest baby ever, so placid, happy to stay where put and play with what ever was in front of her. Then she got to secondary school and puberty hit, she had anxiety and friendship issues thoughout. It was an emotional rollercoaster, still is to a certain degree and she has had trouble settling in at uni because of it. She's a creative soul which is a complete shock to her me (accountant) and her dad (commercial manager) but also finds physical activities effortless, she did gymnastics and kayaks, she is also a trained lifeguard.

Son is 15 (year 11), you couldn't turn your back on him for a second as a young child, always into something he shouldn't be, was a pain in clubs/activities (to the point he was asked to leave the gymnastics club). Wasn't popular at primary school because he liked drama and climbing rather than football. In the summer between primary and secondary school he shot up to 6ft (now 6ft 2), went through puberty (very muscular). Suddenly became very popular but also very friendly to everyone. He's a cheeky chap who teachers tend to like anyway, will argue back is white (driving you nuts in the process), is sarcastic and fairly intelligent. Emotion wise he is so easy going (so far).

mark5

Im closer to my daughter but boys are much easier and generally happier in my experience. 

Retireby40

mark5 said:

Im closer to my daughter but boys are much easier and generally happier in my experience. 

What makes you say boys are easier? Is that at all ages or certain age ranges in their lives? 

strawb_shortcake

My view on boys being easier is that there tends to be less drama in their lives, some.gis.tend to thrive on it. I also think that girls can be nasty and vindictive, even if your child isn't you're more likely to come across such a child if you have Daughters rather than Sons. 
Girls seem to be far more hormonal and after a certain age there's always that spike once a month. 
My boys are very laid back, my Daughter is always spoilt in the fact the boys are more giving, she wants to watch something or use the laptop then the boys will happily let her have her way, simply because they are kind, my Daughter would see it more as a defeat if she didn't get her way.
Don't get me wrong, she is lovely but she does like to get her own way