Easier to raise Boys v Girls.

Aranyani

Retireby40 said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Aranyani said:

Retireby40 said:

Aranyani said:

Retireby40 said:

Aranyani said:

Retireby40 said:

Deleted_User said:

Retireby40 said:

Aranyani said:

Lots of generalisations and stereotypes there

So what I witness everyday is a figment of my imagination and gives me no indication on how females v males act?

I don’t recognise your view at all. My daughter is not a gossip neither are her friends, they are a lovely bunch of girls working hard at school to try to secure uni places next year. I also have 2 boys one of whom gave me minimal trouble, the other was a pain in the bum for many years causing us endless stress. Fortunately he’s grown up now but the years of absolute misery he caused all of us are still fresh in my mind.

We are getting off topic. What I see and what you see on a daily basis are 2 different things. Just because the girls I see are gossips doesnt mean every girl in the world is a gossip.

And just because the boys I see arent gossips doesnt mean there arent boys who are gossips.

I'm taking my sample size from around 100 kids varying in ages between 3 and 18.

All you said was ‘girls are gossips’.  That includes all of them.  I don’t think there’s anything that’s true of a whole 50% of the population.

If you dont have any kids or any input to the original question probably best taking yourself off to another thread 😀

There's no need to be rude because you don't like being challenged. 

That's not being rude. It's a simple comment. I have no issue with someone having a different opinion providing they can back it up with personal experience. 

So feel free to share your personal opinions regarding the differences between raising boys and girls. After all. That's that the topic is about. 

I prefer it when people can back up their opinions with evidence and logic.  After all your personal experience of a very small sample led you to declare that all girls are gossips and all boys are more likely to use physical violence, so that shows how useful experience can be!!

Don’t be embarrassed, generalisations like these are really common, but they are so so harmful to both genders.  People are individuals, you can’t classify them based on what their genitalia looks like.

I thought there was more than 2 now?

I think you've just "check mated" Aranyani. Bravo!!! 

I’m sorry, my bad, I didn’t realise we were playing a game. 

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Spendless said:

Deleted_User said:

Retireby40 said:

Aranyani said:

Lots of generalisations and stereotypes there

So what I witness everyday is a figment of my imagination and gives me no indication on how females v males act?

I don’t recognise your view at all. My daughter is not a gossip neither are her friends, they are a lovely bunch of girls working hard at school to try to secure uni places next year. I also have 2 boys one of whom gave me minimal trouble, the other was a pain in the bum for many years causing us endless stress. Fortunately he’s grown up now but the years of absolute misery he caused all of us are still fresh in my My 17yo daughter was recently assessed as having PTSD, severe anxiety and moderate-high depression.Caused by widespread verbal and psychological bullying of her at school, mostly done by girls. Is probably going to take many years and therapy sessions to overcome the damage done.

Count my blessings? I didn’t count them when I was sat in court watching my son get sent to prison for affray, nor did I count them when he stole from me, said the vilest things to me and punched holes in the walls at home and spat at me. Im sorry for what your daughter has experienced, but maybe count your blessings you didn’t have a son like mine.
@Retireby40 I do work with kids, 230 of the darlings ages 11 to 18 and I still think girls are easier lol

Spendless

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Spendless said:

Deleted_User said:

Retireby40 said:

Aranyani said:

Lots of generalisations and stereotypes there

So what I witness everyday is a figment of my imagination and gives me no indication on how females v males act?

I don’t recognise your view at all. My daughter is not a gossip neither are her friends, they are a lovely bunch of girls working hard at school to try to secure uni places next year. I also have 2 boys one of whom gave me minimal trouble, the other was a pain in the bum for many years causing us endless stress. Fortunately he’s grown up now but the years of absolute misery he caused all of us are still fresh in my My 17yo daughter was recently assessed as having PTSD, severe anxiety and moderate-high depression.Caused by widespread verbal and psychological bullying of her at school, mostly done by girls. Is probably going to take many years and therapy sessions to overcome the damage done.

Count my blessings? I didn’t count them when I was sat in court watching my son get sent to prison for affray, nor did I count them when he stole from me, said the vilest things to me and punched holes in the walls at home and spat at me. Im sorry for what your daughter has experienced, but maybe count your blessings you didn’t have a son like mine.
@Retireby40 I do work with kids, 230 of the darlings ages 11 to 18 and I still think girls are easier lol

Deleted_User said:

Spendless said:

Deleted_User said:

Retireby40 said:

Aranyani said:

Lots of generalisations and stereotypes there

So what I witness everyday is a figment of my imagination and gives me no indication on how females v males act?

I don’t recognise your view at all. My daughter is not a gossip neither are her friends, they are a lovely bunch of girls working hard at school to try to secure uni places next year. I also have 2 boys one of whom gave me minimal trouble, the other was a pain in the bum for many years causing us endless stress. Fortunately he’s grown up now but the years of absolute misery he caused all of us are still fresh in my My 17yo daughter was recently assessed as having PTSD, severe anxiety and moderate-high depression.Caused by widespread verbal and psychological bullying of her at school, mostly done by girls. Is probably going to take many years and therapy sessions to overcome the damage done.

Count my blessings? I didn’t count them when I was sat in court watching my son get sent to prison for affray, nor did I count them when he stole from me, said the vilest things to me and punched holes in the walls at home and spat at me. Im sorry for what your daughter has experienced, but maybe count your blessings you didn’t have a son like mine.
@Retireby40 I do work with kids, 230 of the darlings ages 11 to 18 and I still think girls are easier lol

I'm sorry for what you went through too. My own son was far from easy but not to the extent you describe. My comment though was about you saying you didn't recognise another poster's view of how girls can be, as in 'count your blessings your daughter and friends aren't like that'. IME girls are far more sneaky about it and it's harder to prove, in the same way that psychological abuse is harder to prove than physical. For example I see the Mum of one of the main instigators of my daughter's problems post on a local social media group about how her kids don't cause any bother due to how 'old school' she is if she found out, clearly oblivious to what one of her children has inflicted on another.

burlingtonfl6

Retireby40 said:

burlingtonfl6 said:

Aranyani said:

Retireby40 said:

Aranyani said:

Retireby40 said:

Aranyani said:

Retireby40 said:

Deleted_User said:

Retireby40 said:

Aranyani said:

Lots of generalisations and stereotypes there

So what I witness everyday is a figment of my imagination and gives me no indication on how females v males act?

I don’t recognise your view at all. My daughter is not a gossip neither are her friends, they are a lovely bunch of girls working hard at school to try to secure uni places next year. I also have 2 boys one of whom gave me minimal trouble, the other was a pain in the bum for many years causing us endless stress. Fortunately he’s grown up now but the years of absolute misery he caused all of us are still fresh in my mind.

We are getting off topic. What I see and what you see on a daily basis are 2 different things. Just because the girls I see are gossips doesnt mean every girl in the world is a gossip.

And just because the boys I see arent gossips doesnt mean there arent boys who are gossips.

I'm taking my sample size from around 100 kids varying in ages between 3 and 18.

All you said was ‘girls are gossips’.  That includes all of them.  I don’t think there’s anything that’s true of a whole 50% of the population.

If you dont have any kids or any input to the original question probably best taking yourself off to another thread 😀

There's no need to be rude because you don't like being challenged. 

That's not being rude. It's a simple comment. I have no issue with someone having a different opinion providing they can back it up with personal experience. 

So feel free to share your personal opinions regarding the differences between raising boys and girls. After all. That's that the topic is about. 

I prefer it when people can back up their opinions with evidence and logic.  After all your personal experience of a very small sample led you to declare that all girls are gossips and all boys are more likely to use physical violence, so that shows how useful experience can be!!

Don’t be embarrassed, generalisations like these are really common, but they are so so harmful to both genders.  People are individuals, you can’t classify them based on what their genitalia looks like.

I thought there was more than 2 now?

I think you've just "check mated" Aranyani. Bravo!!! 

Thanks.... it's not hard so a bit of a hollow victory

nanof7

I’ve got 1 boy and 3 girls my son was way way easier growing up and more loving my girls had me ripping my hair out 
but when they had left school and grown up my girls are more closer and more loving than my son

Naomim

I have a 15yo boy & 11yo girl. So far my boy has been much easier to deal with. He's much calmer and quietly confident.  He just gets on with things, generally does as he's asked and is kind and caring.  That's not to say he hasn't had his moments,  puberty can be a rollercoaster. 

My 11yo however has some very narcissistic traits! She wont do anything for anyone unless there's a benefit to her. She's not as confident as the 15yo but is extremely stubborn and highly competitive. 

I spend more time with the 11yo but I have a better relationship with the 15yo. He talks to me, will ask questions or tell me about his friends and gf 🙈. 

movinghelp

Not sure you realise but your daughter is likely picking up on the fact you have a favourite and it’s not her.

I have a 15yo boy & 11yo girl. So far my boy has been much easier to deal with. He's much calmer and quietly confident.  He just gets on with things, generally does as he's asked and is kind and caring.  That's not to say he hasn't had his moments,  puberty can be a rollercoaster. 

My 11yo however has some very narcissistic traits! She wont do anything for anyone unless there's a benefit to her. She's not as confident as the 15yo but is extremely stubborn and highly competitive. 

I spend more time with the 11yo but I have a better relationship with the 15yo. He talks to me, will ask questions or tell me about his friends and gf 🙈. 

Naomim

I don't have a favourite.  They are two very different characters and are treated the same. They are both shown lots of love and affection.

But even as a baby & toddler she was more demanding.  With the 15yo what you see is what you get. He's the same at school & home whereas 11yo is an angel at school but a madam at home.

Retireby40

Thanks for the replies folks. Interesting to see peoples different perspectives. Think the boys seem the winner in who is easier bar a few exceptions. 

facemask

This is like a throwback to the past lol

My sister often stayed at our grandma's house when we were young but i wasn't allowed to. As a child I remember asking my grandma why i wasn't allowed to stay and she told me it was because boys were more difficult lol