First Steps to Solvency

stymied

Massive well done!

Grumpelstiltskin

Alt   Great, lets hope things improve for both of you.  

I guess you have been watching Forest win, maybe you have heard the singing from your house.

Sun_Addict

I hope your wife can see she’s being very unrealistic. If it was you belittling her because you could “do better” it would be classed as a form of domestic abuse. Fingers crossed things will start to improve. 

@Grumpelstiltskin I can see the home ground floodlights from my back bedroom window. 

warby68

Looks like you knew and did what you had to do to keep on the right path @alt80

Glad you're feeling better and ready for work. A wobbly week really isn't all that long although I'm sure it feels like forever when you're fighting your own head

I hope things start to improve for both of you now Mrs Alt has agreed to get some help. Well done for fronting up.

alt80

Thanks all absolutely buzzing for work today haha not sure many of my staff will be after the Forest win though. Did managed to persuade the usual suspect to take today and tomorrow as holiday, today not too much persuading but tomorrow a bonus I can’t stand to be around the guy rn tbh hope he’ll see the !!!!!! lightbulb soon or move on. Didn’t think that day would come I’d think that but I just don’t want it around me and avoiding my own office is ridiculous but had to be done last week - I am certain I would’ve relapsed had I not. Tbh think the only reason my wife has agreed to what she has is because she knows I’m staying well away from the stuff. Not a bad feeling this morning waking up realising I’ve not !!!!!! my finances up further this week, almost certain I would have if I’d allowed myself to get caught up in the cycle again and I’ve managed to recover most of the lost money by things going back. She wanted to keep one thing and I told her she sells something to the value of it which she’s made moved towards. I’m taking every card she has but one to my office to lock away today. I get it’s not the life she wanted to live but I can’t let this !!!!!! with my head any longer lot people worse off than I am. 

Todays cal is ‘show an active interest by asking questions when talking to others’ already put that one into action with son this morning he was droning on and on and !!!!!! on to his mate, was told to remember what the calendar said and he actually engaged in conversation with the other kid tbh was nice to see. Anyway need to stop droning on myself now ha.

poppy811

Massive passive progress, well done you.

poppy811

sorry, meant to say massive positive progress NOT passive!

maddiemay

Well done @alt80 Have a great week.

katsu

Congratulations on working through your feelings and staying strong in your recovery. You deserve that. 

I'm so very pleased that your wife has had her own light bulb moment. As you say, hopefully you can both support each other as you both tackle the issues in your thinking and feelings of inadequacy. 

I'm really so over the moon that she's realising how unhelpful and unhealthy her thinking is; it's her own light bulb moment. Just as you've been working through yours, and you've hopefully seen some others here, it seems her light bulb is coming on that she's been stuck in a strange loop of thinking that this expensive stuff is appropriate/a necessary level of spending and that this unlikely footballer scenario has been such a big part of her mind for so long.

You know how much better you feel now for seeing how life can be different for you and your family, and the example you are setting for your son. It seems that now your wife is at the start of that road too.  

You and Mrs Alt can do this! 

SusieT

Very well done for having the tough love talk to your wife and to her for seeing that she needs help. I know you posted about feeling rubbish about doing it, but it is probably milder than some of the tough love you have had from posters on here - and you have done an absolutely amazing job with the help of it. You are possibly finally starting to realise that you really are worth more and are giving your family a damned good quality of living and deserve to have that appreciated.