First Steps to Solvency

Humdinger1

@alt80 so glad to see you again! The pros must have seen this very often; remember how well you are doing.  Recovery isn't always linear but you're still going in the right direction love Humdinger xx 

Judes123

Was worried about you….you have come so far…in awe of your achievements. There will be good times and down times..keep on keeping on!

Purplelady65

Sorry to hear you’ve been struggling with your mental health. If you can get through the bad days hopefully the good days will soon return. I think the lighter and warmer days often help people feel a bit more positive and they will be here soon. Hopefully distracting yourself with activities out of work and keeping busy will help as well. 

Amber1980

Really sorry you’re struggling,just do whatever you need to do at the moment to get feeling better.
You are a better and stronger person than you realise,but depression/low mood etc make everything feel hopeless.
It will get better,you are doing great.
 I had a terrible bout of depression (I had come off my meds and wasn’t looking after myself properly)in November and December and had Covid too and it was the worst I’ve ever felt in my life,now I feel pretty great again most of the time and you will too.
All the very best.😊😊

maggiem

Very pleased to see you posting again Alt80 but sorry to hear you are struggling at the moment with your MH. Keep going, be kind to yourself and please value the amazing achievements you have made over these last few months. 

mark55man

keep going mate - its a long old slog that is for sure.  Everyone needs a break now and again, as long as you get back on before too much water has gone under the bridge

alt80

Thanks all, yesterday wasn’t a bad one tbf with six nations and homemade pizza. 

This past week I’ve purposely kept away from tech tbh knew I have been on the edge of making a complete !!!!!! up and doing what I know I’d massively regret. No phones/ laptops etc and no going out of my house - no potential to !!!!!! up but not much of a life. Today is the first day I think I’m starting to get to the other side of thinking about it and have actually been out. Looking forward to getting to the office tomorrow.

After the latest regrets about not finding a footballer I massively lost it. Today I’m quite glad I did; no uncertainty about I’m not going back to !!!!!! my finances up for the lifestyle. Actually sent her the reads re footballers and had two days of her crying now agreed to see the pros with me and told me she does know things ‘could be worse’ (financially). Managed to undo a fair bit of the latest !!!!!! stupid spend and latest IG delete see how long it lasts but try to be hopeful idk had to support me with my problem for long enough. 

enthusiasticsaver

Sounds like you did what you needed to do to stay on the straight and narrow and glad you can see the other side.  I think it is helpful your wife agreeing to see the pros as I think she needs help too. I don't think you should regret losing it and kicking back.   She needs a massive reality check as to what life is like for many people and then maybe she will see how good she has it.  This entitled attitude needs to change or your son will grow up similar. 

RelievedSheff

Alt, I'm glad to see that you have finally stood up and put your point across as well. It will in the long run do you both the world of good.

I'm also glad to see that your wife has agreed that she needs some help as well. Hopefully she will stick to that.

I'm sure together you can get through this rough patch.

ladyholly

Congratulations on recognising the dangers and dealing with it also on telling your wife how ridiculous she has been re footllers. 
I am glad she has agreed to seek help and hope she goes through with it.
You are doing incredibly well and hopefully she can as well. 
Not wishing to be rude but it is time she grew up joined the real world.