First Steps to Solvency

alt80

@lady1964 thanks I have booked to go next weekend.

@Sun_Addict thanks I'm doing ok. 

@theoretica yeah !!!!!! scary thought there lol lot of reason I didn't want to have kids tbh knew I'd be a !!!!!! dad. Didn't want that. All I want is the best for him and tbt I think he'd be better with just his mum and Grandparents they are the pros at family time and I think are better influences. Everyone on here and pros are saying a lot of the same stuff re being there even if not best in the business. I don't want to be an absent father tbh, that's not what I was ever saying but I do want him to have the absolute best in life. Last thing I want for him is to struggle so I just want to surround him with people who are the best in the business in the hope that'll give him the best chance possible in life I don't see what's wrong with that tbh.

@RelievedSheff yeah been a good one thanks. Hope you had a nice one out in the van?

enthusiasticsaver

There is no such thing as a "best" parent. The best thing you can do for your son is to not be absent or disinterested in him. Your wife and PIL can be good influences but you still have to man up and be a dad to him. Failure to work on a relationship with him is not giving him the best start in life

alt80

Day 11, not had the worlds best nights sleep but trying to keep in the right mindset. Have checked my reminders of things I need to do. Into second week of having very little access to money - it was fine when I wasn’t leaving the house but do find it awkward when I’m out. Not really paid for things in cash generally before now. That’s probably why and having to think about everything I spend but embarrassing in a way lol. Hoping it will make me stop when I inevitably get the extended thoughts about participating in my vices rather than getting creative ha. Idk don’t think it’s a long term solution tbh as I’ve said before can’t even fill my car up know I’ve got about 2 days worth of fuel in the Range Rover and about a weeks worth in the BMW just something I’m thinking about more often so I can ask the wife to go to the petrol station. Bit odd really I know.

Some staff going out for England v Scotland on Friday. I’ve been told by my senior guy to watch it with my family. Son’s prediction for that one is utterly ridiculous too England going to win 6-1 apparently and were just getting warmed up with Croatia both wife and I think it’s !!!!!! hilarious. 

Anyhow busy day today. Lot of work planned and dinner I should have done Saturday to cook. Fml plenty to keep me out of trouble. Hope I’ll get all these jobs done and be in bed for 10/11pm try to get a better nights sleep. 

alt80

@enthusiasticsaver yeah lot of pressure to get it right I know. Maybe overthink it too much or something know plenty of people with kids who don’t seem to really be bothered about the kind of thing I am idk probably me who’s got it wrong again.

RelievedSheff

I think your senior guy is right. Your son will love to watch the football with you and your wife. Not so sure about 6-1 though

Glad you had a good weekend and well done on getting to Day 11. 

alt80

@RelievedSheff  thanks. 

He’s def right the last place I need to be going into is a pub in town. The ones who are going are predictable so I already know what sort of time they’ll be having haha.

Lol 6-1 would be a !!!!!! miracle from above. I’m going to be optimistic say 2–1. Wife reckons 3-2. Idk made those predictions and will probably lose to Scotland now. France v Germany game before then anyway. 

getmore4less

RelievedSheff said:

I think your senior guy is right. Your son will love to watch the football with you and your wife. Not so sure about 6-1 though

Glad you had a good weekend and well done on getting to Day 11. 

worrying thing about that predicted score is Alt's delusions are already rubbing off on his son .

RelievedSheff

getmore4less said:

RelievedSheff said:

I think your senior guy is right. Your son will love to watch the football with you and your wife. Not so sure about 6-1 though

Glad you had a good weekend and well done on getting to Day 11. 

worrying thing about that predicted score is Alt's delusions are already rubbing off on his son .

   

Everyone loves an optimist.

alt80

@getmore4less ha fml it’s a good job I can laugh at myself mate. Tbh he’s just excited, I remember when I was not much older than son I’d reckoned for weeks on end Gazza was going to score a hat trick in the Italia 90 final bring it home haha fml well that all ended in tears lol.

Humdinger1

@alt80 you are doing brilliantly.  One thing: you are already in your son's life. If you leave, you're setting him up for a lifetime of pain and therapy.   Is that what you want? If not, keep doing what you're doing: spending normal time with him and appreciating the everyday.  It's not about point-scoring or some impossible standard of perfection which no parent or human being can achieve.   He wants you there and no one else will do.  Forget all this guff about your ILs being better.  There is no substitute for your dad.  You and your wife have sound attitudes now and you just need to build your self-esteem to realise that good parenting isn't about money.  Humdinger