First Steps to Solvency

RelievedSheff

enthusiasticsaver said:

Why are you still answering phone calls from druggie Guy who sponges off his parents? Sounds like a wasted evening for you. 

Fully agree with this. Block his number if needs be.

ladyholly

I had a very quick look at the canni cross site and I cant see a group in nottingham but as I dont know that area at all it would be worth you looking as I think it would benefit you wife (when her foot is right) and the dog and give her some new friends. There may also be a way for you and your son to become involved as well. I know you said you are not a runner but going with your mutt might make it a little more appealing.

alt80

Wife dragged me up for breakfast and workout this morning. 😆 Definitely could have stayed in bed. She’s decided if I get up I’ll 100 go bed at a better time after a few days. Feel ok now but not sure I’ll be thanking her later.

@enthusiasticsaver he’s a mate and I’m concerned about him. Definitely goes through some bad phases with it. Hear you re wasted evening. Agree tbh.

Only mate I have who doesn’t touch the stuff and isn’t my wife, works for me or my mentor in business is the one with the MG. Trying to avoid him tbt keep away from cars.

My wife is propping me up tbh really looking after me. Lucky to have her still I know. Going to make her a three course dinner valentines night, get some fresh flowers, make an effort and light the candles haha. She likes that stuff tbh nothing wrong with making an effort really hoping she enjoys it something for her to smile about in lockdown.

@RelievedSheff I know where you’re coming from re blocking easier said than done when concerned about someone imo.

alt80

@ladyholly thanks. Dog is starting to be a tiny bit less of a nightmare lol. I’ll run about 5km enjoy a short run tbh just don’t really care for the distance running.

RelievedSheff

alt80 said:

Wife dragged me up for breakfast and workout this morning. 😆 Definitely could have stayed in bed. She’s decided if I get up I’ll 100 go bed at a better time after a few days. Feel ok now but not sure I’ll be thanking her later.

@enthusiasticsaver he’s a mate and I’m concerned about him. Definitely goes through some bad phases with it. Hear you re wasted evening. Agree tbh.

Only mate I have who doesn’t touch the stuff and isn’t my wife, works for me or my mentor in business is the one with the MG. Trying to avoid him tbt keep away from cars.

My wife is propping me up tbh really looking after me. Lucky to have her still I know. Going to make her a three course dinner valentines night, get some fresh flowers, make an effort and light the candles haha. She likes that stuff tbh nothing wrong with making an effort really hoping she enjoys it something for her to smile about in lockdown.

@RelievedSheff I know where you’re coming from re blocking easier said than done when concerned about someone imo.

Being concerned for someone doesn't mean that you have to be at their beck and call 24/7.

He was out of order ringing you three times and disturbing your evening with the family. If you are going to stay in touch with him (which I personally think is a big mistake) then you are going to have to set some ground rules around when and where he can contact you.

getmore4less

3 weeks in and the positive difference is shining through.
I understand your concerns over mate and it's good that you recognise the dangers. 

One thing I notice in life is sometimes you have to segregate. 

It is clear you need to manage mate(and similar) away from other parts of your life starting with family. 

You don't need those influences around your son. 

Total block may be hard but for now definitely needs to be kept at a distance, can you catch him when he is more sensible to chat about things rather than waiting for him to call you when wasted? 
Try to transfer all the business stuff to your employee, if he asks can you do the I don't know talk to.... 

If you look back you can see how the substances have been a significant part of your social development as you allowed it to far into your life. 

I see a date night in your future, max it out with a family day as well. 

alt80

Today must be the day for kids going mad ha son wanted to get out lunch time so took him to maccys for lunch shared a chicken select meal wife knows all counted lol !!!!!! obsessed with no one getting fat. As I left she said she doesn’t want me ‘turning into a fat slob’ FML. Son loved it he’d never been through a drive thru before lockdown not something I did either - sit in or don’t bother but he !!!!!! loves going round there in the car haha. I’ve not had a maccys in a long time and back when I used to have the odd one would have rather admitted I’d been on the chang to wife than ate a maccys haha she hates me eating junk lol. 

Been thinking about weekend plan. 

Saturday - big walk will be about 7/8 miles total with wife, son and dog pick coffee up on way home will be Costa but don’t mind their flat white. I’m 100 a sad act, been looking up routes round the park I plan to walk to - 3 mile walk to park, various park routes and 3 miles back. That should take up the morning. 

England match in the afternoon. 

Dinner and watch a film. 

Sunday - no morning plans but cooking going to take a lot of my time. Spoke to my dad and got some recipes. Going to give a bit of bread baking a go too. Said to wife will do the baking with son - her response you’re brave mate ha. Yeah not sure how that’s going to go tbh could be !!!!!! carnage tbf. 

I’m such a sad act that I’m really looking forward to this like a !!!!!! holiday haha. Also planned tv viewing for evenings this week around son’s bedtime/ dog walk - keep away from answering the phone. Realised I don’t really do that much productive in the office at night if not talking to my mate well mainly listening ha or reports that admin should be typing anyway, it’s obsessive looking at figures and doing stupid !!!!!! like changing the colour scheme of a spreadsheet lol. Definitely nothing worth sniffing the stuff to get me through the night. Realising how much time I’ve lost to drugs tbh !!!!!! ridiculous really.

RelievedSheff

I think your weekend plan sounds great. I'm sure your son is going to love baking bread with you.

Willowtree222

The weekend plans sound great x

FootyFanDan

Weekend plans sound top notch tbf mate.