Do you understand your partner?

ElephantBoy57

pollyanna_26 said:

I may be wrong but your comment about her saying what is a relationship and her seeming to lack emotion may point to her being on the spectrum.

You have got me thinking there.

I was looking on the net - "From what I noticed, most AS seem to want/need a lot of space at times to unplug from stress and recharge. My bf has expressed to me several times he does NOT care for emotional/clingy/needy people and most of the people he's dated has be SUPER low maintenance and don't expect him to do anything."

That is her exactly.

ThunderHoof

ElephantBoy57 said:

I haven't held hands or touched my girlfriend since April. Not sure if lockdown is being used as an excuse, as I believe the government now allow couples to be 'together'. I believe she genuinely does worry about COVID. We go for a walk once per week, or less. A relative was telling me how she didn't feel close to her BF, so she walked away.

Maybe it's a thing that older people do, I am 59

She does have commitment issues. Talks about previous disasters with men. But I am struggling with the lack of closeness. We were intimate last year and early this year.

I do get stressed, but I want to keep trying to make it work.

Hate to be blunt but she isn't your partner. I mean you haven't held hands in over 6 months?!

ElephantBoy57

ThunderHoof said:

Hate to be blunt but she isn't your partner. I mean you haven't held hands in over 6 months?!

Sometimes blunt is good, I have enjoyed our relationship.

But now is a bad time to move on, but it looks like that will happen. I still have good memories.

It would have been better if she could have been more honest.

Edit, She seems to genuinely to want a friendship, doesnt seem to understand that we had something much closer. Not sure how it will end up.