Benefits for 15 year old who moved out

Kim2224

My 15 year old daughter has decided to move in to her friends house. I have asked her to come home and she's refusing. She has been round to my house demanding money off me. I have spoken to a social worker and they told me to stop give her money to encourage her to come home and not to stop her benefits till we find out if she's coming back. I have a appointment with a social worker next week to do a assessment and will visit her at friends and then decides where she's stays. I spoke to her this morning and she just said she wanted money and told me to f**k off. Question is do I wait till after the social to visit before I stop claiming her benefits. Its going to be a change of circumstances so will be throw on uc which don't want and I she's not here and I don't give her or the family she with any money will I end up owing them.

Any advice
Kym

kazwookie

I would do nothing until you have had the meeting and take advise from that.

Keep any money to do get paid to one side, if you have to pay it back / or give it to your daughter you have it ready, pay any money by traceable means ie bank transfer making sure in the reference box you make a note of who the money is going to, in case of any problem is the future..

Kim2224

I think I will its only a week then if she's not coming home I will have to get ready for the uc claim. 

Kym

calcotti

Kim2224 said: Its going to be a change of circumstances so will be throw on uc which don't want 

I don't follow this. You will stop receiving money for your daughter but any other benefits you are claiming can probably continue. You are only forced to claim UC if you would need to make a new claim for an old type of benefit which is no longer available so I don't see that you necessarily need to change to UC. You can probably just report the change of circumstances and have your existing benefits recalculated.

What are you currently claiming?

mrschaucer

Kim2224 said:

 and I she's not here and I don't give her or the family she with any money will I end up owing them.

Have the family asked for money from you for your daughter's keep or is it just your daughter demanding it?

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Demand that her "friends" parents throw her out, she will coming running home than fgs she's 15 she doesn't have a choice. You're the parent here !

Kim2224

I am claiming esa and I have 2 other children who I claim ctc form and child benefit. Apparently she has a choice now her friends mother has rung social services yesterday asking for money they told her if she was there for more then 28 days they could do private foster with agreement of parents which I have said no. So that why social are coming I have been told they will decided. But I don't think its right that if she misses school or gets in trouble it will be what has to pay fines when she isn't living here.

Thanks
Kym

calcotti

If your daughter moves out you will simply have to tell Tax Credits and Child Benefit. The amounts you receive will change. Your ESA is not affected.
Do you also claim Housing Benefit and Council Tax Reduction? If so you should tell the local authority benefits team. Your Housing Benefit will change if her departure means you are entitled to one less bedroom.
I see nothing that would prompt a need to claim UC.

Kim2224

Happy about that don't really want to swap to uc. I have a 2 bedroom house so don't think it will change for housing cost. Been trying to get a bigger house for years.
Its all a bit upsetting but don't think she will be coming back so trying to prepare for it.

Thank you 
Kym

MalMonroe

This is tragic. I'd be heartbroken if my daughter did that. Your child's only 15. Can't you have a talk with her at all? Why is she so angry with you? Surely you can't expect her friend's parents to raise your child? You'll have to pay them something for her keep. What an awfully sad tale. 

John_

What’s the back story here, has this just come out if the blue?

You and her father need to have a talk with the couple with whom she’s staying and find what on Earth they think that they are playing at; that shouldn’t be putting up your child unless there’s something going on here that you prefer not to share.