How much my partner should pay to live in my house

Welshman5566

Hi all just after some independent advice here.
Me and my partner have been together about 9 months and she will be moving in with me soon.
This is where we have hit a massive problem in what she pays to live in my house.
I only brought the house a year ago so I pay a mortgage on it which is mine and I dont want any contribution towards.
I worked out that the basic utility bills for the 2 of us would be about £300 a month so £150 each.
She has said that its my house so everything in it is mine and she has/wants no responsibility for it meaning if we needed a new fridge/washing machine/sofa/repairs etc that all would fall on me which is fair enough.
Because of this I suggested £250 a month which would include all bills and pay something towards the upkeep of the house and all the furnishings she would have full use of (decreasing their life span as they will be used a lot more)
This is where we hit the problem as she refuses and is adamant she should just pay £150 for the utilities that she uses.
I dont think it is fair she expects to live for free in my house while expecting me to be responsible 100% for the general upkeep which will obviously be more with two people living in it than one.
I also thought i was being really nice by saying only £250 but she does not see it like that
What she wants to pay would actually make me worse off and she would have her entire housing costs for £150 a month and be far better off.
Would love to hear your thoughts on this.
Thanks

SpiderLegs

This relationship is doomed. 

sonyarita

 My thoughts are 250 is a great deal! I think she is being a tad unreasonable and extremely tight to only want to pay 150.
Is your partner in employment?

[Deleted User]

I hope you haven't deleted your Tinder and other dating accounts 
£150 is absolutely outrageous ! 

Its bye bye new ggggggold digger.....I mean girlfriend ! 

KatrinaWaves

Yeah it’s always a great sign of a fantastic relationship when she won’t pay to help you if the fridge you’re both using conks out and you want to charge her for the wear and tear of her !!!!!! on your sofa... 

comeandgo

so her living costs will greatly reduce and yours will increase as now double the shower use, washing machine use, dishwasher etc.  She sounds a great catch.  

davidmcn

Welshman5566 said:

she will be moving in with me soon.

Doesn't sound like it.

Socajam

I agree with all the others, do not let her move in, she is not a reasonable person and things could only get worse.
I agree with you not charging her rent because as you can see, is he is this unreasonable now, just think if things go south, she would demand a 50/50 split on the rent payments made.
Do a search on the forum and you will see the number of people who have encountered this problem.
Your girlfriend have showed you this side of her, let this be a warning because I would hate to see you back on here, a couple of years down the line asking a different question - is my girlfriend entitled to 50% of my house that she was paying rent on?

steve866

How much would the property rent for? Either way your offer of £250 is very reasonable. If she is asking to split the bills only she is asking to live rent free.

Morbier

From the information given, it seems neither of you are thinking of this as a long-term relationship, otherwise you'd be adding her to the mortgage and splitting costs accordingly.  I would endorse previous comments and say that if you can't agree terms, then don't do it!

greatcrested

How much is she paying where she is now?

How much could/would you charge a lodger if you advertised for one?

I agree with others - the fact you've hit an issue before she even moves in is not a good sign.

Re-think your relationship. It's not ready for cohabitting yet.