Moved house, regretting it

onwards&upwards

Honestly?  You sound depressed, and as though you are focusing on blaming the house when maybe there is more to it. 

The house sounds fine, yes hard work but you've got loads done already so you're clearly capable of doing it! 

Speak to your GP, have a phone appointment if that's what they're doing, and tell them about the feeling in the pit of your stomach every morning. 

amandacat

I didn't like my house after moving in 10 years ago. Loved it when viewing but after moving in I started to feel the lounge was not cosy enough, the kitchen was dark, the garden was bland, the bedroom not inviting etc and it didn't feel like home. 
Also it's a semi and the neighbours were noisy and do a lot of DIY. It wasn't until it was decorated for a second time, changed furniture, the plants I added to the garden started maturing and next doors teenagers flew the nest that I really started to appreciate it.
My house also became my home and started  to be familiar but it takes time.
I'm moving in the near future to relocate and I'm gutted to be leaving my home and having to adapt to somewhere new. 

diggingdude

in time you may grow to love it.  I was quite dissappointed with what I bought as I could have afforded alot more and maybe one in better shape.  I did nothing but paint for ages.  Today i did a partial rewire on new smoke detectors and loved the changed just something like that has made.  12 months ago i didn't care enough to bother.  you will get there 

Scotbot

I  don't  like my house, I didn't  like it when I bought it and I still don't  like it 3 years later.  It was a "head house" bought because of location,  small therefore  economical to run,  the fact it was cheaper for me to buy than rent, there was little stock on the market and I didn't really like any houses I saw. There is no point me doing work to it as I will inherit a house within the next few years that I will renovate and move into.

I  look at properties regularly and thought about moving but the costs of doing so stop me as I am looking at 20 k minimum. 

Have you sat down and costed how much a move would be? Including fees stamp duty etc it will be thousands and if you sell for 20% less tens of thousands. Think what that money could buy you and work out how to spend it on something you enjoy.

RelievedSheff

I would give the house a little more time, give yourself time to try and get your head around living there. After six months if you still hate it then perhaps it is for the best if you sell it.

We part exchanged our old house against a new build and it was the best thing we have done. We got 90% of it's open market value but more importantly for us it meant that we could move into the completed property just 3 and a half weeks after reserving it. We also got decent incentives with £10k deposit contributions, stamp duty paid, legal fees paid, moving cost contribution and of course no estate agents fees to pay and a quick move.

We love our new build house. We have been in here for a little over a year now and it feels so much more like a home then any of our previous houses have.

You have to give your current home a chance first though. You may grow to like it over time.

Madmel

Something that might help is getting one room as you would really like it.  Then retreat to that when you need to, as a kind of sanctuary.  As other posters have said, you have crammed an awful lot of stressful things into a very short space of time, and with the pandemic and lockdown going on too.  That's a huge amount to deal with.  Be kind to yourself.

I second the suggestions to visit your GP and also to make a list of things to do.  Have you taken photos of your work?  It might be therapeutic to make a blog of your progress so you can look back in the future and see just how far you have come.

DCFC79

Scottish_guy90 said:

sharpe106 said:

Scottish_guy90 said:

i love the area and neighbours are great, wife loves the house and area but it’s me that just doesn’t like the house.

any advice?

Your wife loves the house your opinion now no longer matters. Make the best of it.

Making her/ keeping her happy is my priority but it’s so hard to pretend I’m happy just now and spending any more money feels like a waste at the moment

Have you told her how you feel, maybe she feels the same as you but is putting on a happy face about the house.

boxer234

Is it the work that needs doing ? When I bought my first house with my ex he insisted upon ripping everything out and doing loads of work at once.  It was exhausting and stressful like you I longed for a new build or newly renovated.  

I hated that house it never felt like home.  Next time I buy it will not need so much work some folk love it but not me. 

Soot2006

It's a tricky one. You certainly sound down, and also quite tired. Stress from the moving and all associated anticipations, lockdown, and you've actually done a LOT to your house in 5 weeks ... making it feel like a chore. Can you take a month away from upgrading the house/working on it, and just live in it a bit?  Our "new" (august 2019) house needs a lot of work still and it often worries me, but during the lockdown months when everything ground to a halt I started to see things differently, and actually feel like it's my home and - yes it needs work - but it will be nice in the end ...  I think sometimes when we're rushing about trying to make things feel right and perfect, we almost can't stop to get to know a place.  Good luck with your decision, either way. Make sure you engage your wife in all discussion and decisions x

wesleyad

Also remember the quick buyer companies love to drop the offer just before exchange knowing that most people will fold. So your 25K loss might be even more. Add that to the stamp duty loss, moving costs, solicitors. You could be talking 40k. Now imagine what 40k could do to your house. You could move out for a month, get all the contractors in and really make it spectacular.
Worth thinking about