Moved house, regretting it

Scottish_guy90

cooltt said:

Scottish_guy90 said:

I moved house 5 weeks ago, done a bit to it full re-wire, decor, took down on conservatory but I can’t shake off a feeling that I don’t like the house.

i love the area and neighbours are great, wife loves the house and area but it’s me that just doesn’t like the house.

I just want to sell and buy a new build, I’ve been told about a 6 month rule for people getting a mortgage If I were to sell, new builds are 8 to 9 months from completion so I’m thinking about selling to a quick house sale company and renting until the new build is built.

i don’t feel myself and I don’t want to spend more money in the house with the way I’m feeling.

any advice?

What your feeling is normal and pretty common to be fair. It does take time to get used to a new home i don't think anyone feels that "yes this is where i feel at home" straight away, even if it did tick all the boxes. I'd give it a few weeks at least, it's not going to make much difference if you still want to move.

Of course there's always the possibility it's haunted and they want you out. Classic signs are "Get Out" scrawled in the steam of the bathroom mirror, funny noises when your home alone or the cat / dog freaking out at shadows in the kitchen. 

Hahaha 

Scottish_guy90

AdrianC said:

Scottish_guy90 said:

I had one pop round, the value offered was 80% at first I was saying no way but now I’ve had enough and think it might be a good option

How much is that 20% in £,000?

And that's before they reduce the offer at the last minute. Remember, they have to make a profit after all their costs, selling at or near the price you paid...

£25k under value although the house will sell very well, the houses round here sell within a week and are cheap enough

Splatfoot

It does sound as though your mind is heavy. If there is nothing inherently wrong with the house, I do think that feeling will go once you have settled and perhaps been to talk to someone, you sound very low, I second the other posters advice about visiting the doctor. I hope you feel better about things soon. 

Scottish_guy90

Splatfoot said:

It does sound as though your mind is heavy. If there is nothing inherently wrong with the house, I do think that feeling will go once you have settled and perhaps been to talk to someone, you sound very low, I second the other posters advice about visiting the doctor. I hope you feel better about things soon. 

Thanks Splatfoot

i don’t want to make any irrational life changing decisions but my unhappiness is rubbing off in my wife. I’ll call the Doctors tomorrow as I just don’t feel right 

Drawingaline

I think of it a little like having a baby. The anticipation, all the planning, stress levels etc. It finally happens. Some people take one looks and fall in love, cope brilliantly and sail through it all. Others struggle a little, take a while to find their feet and find coping with complex emotions difficult. Others don't cope at all and need outside help. 

Buying a house is a huge deal. Postpone any more non essential work, take some time to settle. Talk to your wife, and from the anxiety and low mood you have suggested, I would definitely visit your GP. 

We are not in normal times, give a deadline of next spring. Maybe do some light decorating if possible. Re-evaluate early next year. 

sharpe106

Scottish_guy90 said:

I had one pop round, the value offered was 80% at first I was saying no way but now I’ve had enough and think it might be a good option

I wake up every day and have an awful feeling in the pit of my stomach, I can’t explain it better than that. 

Thanks for your advice I have been thinking about visiting the doctor 

If you are actually feeling like that have you talked to your wife about it?

stingey

Moving house is stressful, then on top of that you have been right in to some major works.  Conservatory, full re-wire, boiler etc, Everything has been stuffed into a very small timeframe.  Your life has literally revolved around a building site, no wonder you haven't enjoyed it. Is there really anything in the house that needs done urgently now?  If not give yourself a break away from it and just enjoy the house as it is.  Also let the wife know how your feeling.  It's good to share.

Scottish_guy90

sharpe106 said:

Scottish_guy90 said:

I had one pop round, the value offered was 80% at first I was saying no way but now I’ve had enough and think it might be a good option

I wake up every day and have an awful feeling in the pit of my stomach, I can’t explain it better than that. 

Thanks for your advice I have been thinking about visiting the doctor 

If you are actually feeling like that have you talked to your wife about it?

Yeah she knows how I feel but is trying to reassure me that everything ok and how much she loves the house and how much money we save being here....all the things she knows will settle me

Scottish_guy90

stingey said:

Moving house is stressful, then on top of that you have been right in to some major works.  Conservatory, full re-wire, boiler etc, Everything has been stuffed into a very small timeframe.  Your life has literally revolved around a building site, no wonder you haven't enjoyed it. Is there really anything in the house that needs done urgently now?  If not give yourself a break away from it and just enjoy the house as it is.  Also let the wife know how your feeling.  It's good to share.

Need the livingroom plastered and the hall ceiling as there is holes due to the re-wire then I think I will leave it for a few weeks.

i wish I could turn back the clock 

UnderOffer

I feel it can take up to 12 months to really feel settled in a new home. It’s all the build up, stress, not trying to get emotionally involved in case the sale falls through, then exchange & completion happens and you just don’t have time to think, because you are busy organising everything to do with the move.

After the first night, you then wake up in chaos, boxes everywhere, your mind spinning with what needs doing and difficulty prioritising things plus trying to familiarise yourself with your new home when everything feels so odd. 

Take your time, write a list of everything you’d like doing then order it in priority, selecting things you think will make you feel happier, not just because it’s essential, sometimes the simplest improvement can help, for me it was as simple as getting some plant pots out the front to make it look orderly and smart, despite indoors being chaotic and boxed up still. 

Good luck, give yourself time.