Furloughed - Partner in retail - no childcare

bradders1983

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ljm2105

Grumpy_chap said:

gettingtheresometime said:

ljm2105 said:

I don’t understand why other employees are being resentful in some cases to those who are furloughed, it’s not like it’s through choice, what do they want parents with young children to do under the current circumstances, take them to work with them?!! 

Seriously ? You really don't understand why someone would be upset at being told that they had to go into work, potentially using public transport or paying extortionate car parking fees, when Joanna Bloggs was able to be at home & getting 80% of her pay ?

The only way this could be evened up is if those people who had to go into work had first dibs on Christmas and Summer holidays.

I think the way this will be evened up in many places is those that were keen to work and managed their own affairs so they could work will be the most secure when the eventual round of redundancies come.  Those that found every reason and first call to be at home on 80% because of their 'special circumstances' and every reason not to go back to work will be the first to receive their P45.  This is not a comment to those on furlough and pushing to return, but those objecting to return (which there seem to be many such threads in this forum).

Not objecting to return but UNABLE to return, of course why don’t I just I take my three children to work with me because apparently that seems to be what everyone expects parents to do seem as they have no other option for childcare! 

ljm2105

Here was me thinking this forum was for support for those actually struggling with this situation, how wrong was I?!
I’m so sorry I made the selfish decision to have children and obviously I should have predicted that a global pandemic would leave me unable to work and taken this into consideration 🙄
I have worked since I was 15, returned to work after every one of my children yet here I am getting slated because due to circumstances beyond my control I am unable to work because I have no one to look after them at this moment in time. 

Thrugelmir

ljm2105 said:

Yes seriously! It’s not through choice we are having to be off ! Next you’re going say well it is because we chose to have children so it’s our problem, but we didn’t choose for there to be a global pandemic did we! Obviously they have to choose those without dependants to continue working if there is only work for so many because THERE IS NO OPTION FOR CHILDCARE AT THE MINUTE!!  What exactly do you expect those of us with young children to do for childcare so we can go into work?? Family can’t come round to look after them, schools and nursery’s are closed so shall I just leave them home alone to fend for themselves, or maybe I should take them to work with me?? 

And just for the record I have worked Christmas and Boxing Day in the past even though I have children so I’m not one who expects everything to work around me because I’m a parent. 

Many of us have faced similar challenges in the past. No paternity leave, far less maternity leave. No grandparents. Travelling for work. We just got on with it. As difficult as it was. Changing job if necessary. As yes work unfortunately comes first. 

ljm2105

Thrugelmir said:

ljm2105 said:

Yes seriously! It’s not through choice we are having to be off ! Next you’re going say well it is because we chose to have children so it’s our problem, but we didn’t choose for there to be a global pandemic did we! Obviously they have to choose those without dependants to continue working if there is only work for so many because THERE IS NO OPTION FOR CHILDCARE AT THE MINUTE!!  What exactly do you expect those of us with young children to do for childcare so we can go into work?? Family can’t come round to look after them, schools and nursery’s are closed so shall I just leave them home alone to fend for themselves, or maybe I should take them to work with me?? 

And just for the record I have worked Christmas and Boxing Day in the past even though I have children so I’m not one who expects everything to work around me because I’m a parent. 

Many of us have faced similar challenges in the past. No paternity leave, far less maternity leave. No grandparents. Travelling for work. We just got on with it. As difficult as it was. Changing job if necessary. As yes work unfortunately comes first. 

I’m pretty sure no one alive now has faced a situation like this? When was the last pandemic that you lived through?
When you say you got on with it, what did you do with your children (genuinely want to know)?
Maybe for you work comes first but for me my children come before anything, but anyway this is nothing to do with what is more important it’s to do with the fact there is no where they can go for me to be able to work? In all seriousness what do you suggest I do?
Of course why don’t I change jobs? What would that achieve, different job still no childcare??

LilElvis

As your husband is a keyworker then your children already qualify for childcare - schools and nurseries have been open for them since day 1.

Grumpy_chap

ljm2105 said:

 why don’t I just I take my three children to work with me because apparently that seems to be what everyone expects parents to do seem as they have no other option for childcare! 

You also stated that your husband is a key worker so will be entitled to childcare throughout.  Why is that not an option?

ljm2105

I know they can go to school but it’s only open until 3, my husband works until 4.30 me until 6.30 so I still have no one to pick them up, unless schools are offering extended times for key workers but I'm not aware that they are.  And before anyone says anything I have offered to go to work on reduced hours to work around school if I could sort something for my youngest but they declined because they need me for my full hours. My youngest has never been to a nursery, I’m not sure if private nurseries are taking in new children for key workers maybe have to be something I look into. 

bradders1983

Yes they are. Ring around.

Grumpy_chap

ljm2105 said:

unless schools are offering extended times for key workers but I'm not aware that they are.  

They are where I live - it might depend on your local authority.