I'm so lost, the pain is unbearable!!!
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Yes, guilt is a natural part of grief and it is common to wonder 'what if?'. Try to remember that you did your very best for your lovely girl and performed one last act of love when you let her go, even though it caused you so much pain.It's not difficult!
'Wander' - to walk or move in a leisurely manner.
'Wonder' - to feel curious.1 -
So sorry for your loss. It's totally heartbreaking to lose your much loved companion.1
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Loads of hugs and sympathy
Losing a pet can be unbearably painful
our little cat has developed kidney problems recently. She has had a check up and blood tests to confirm it. We are starting her on a special diet which is expensive but if it means she will be with us for longer then we’d go hungry ourselves. She is 17/18 now and otherwise fit and healthy. That’s her on my avatar.
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Aww, bless you and good luck with your cat. I know what you mean about going hungry yourselves, we would have done exactly the same. Regards taking over a bit, you haven't I promise, I understand you and getting the news only 2 hours ago, take your time, time definitely helps, what I would say is enjoy her for as long as she's with you and hopefully that's a good bit longer. 17/18 seems a good age for a cat (I'm not familiar with cats) and when you eventually have to say goodbye which of course we all have to, then I hope you take comfort in that great age.
We're just coming up to 3 weeks (3 weeks this Monday coming) now without our little pooch and whilst it still hurts, the tears are less, the house still seems a bit quiet, I'm not looking round as much for her and she's not the first thing on my mind when I wake up, we still think of her regular but the good memories are building and the sadness is lessening a little day by day.
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Im so sorry for your loss. We have a spaniel and I dread the day anything happens to him. When we got our little Charlie we got him from a lady who had totally underestimated the time and work involved and wanted to rehome him because she could not manage. He was 14 months old when we got him and every Christmas (he is 5 now) we send her a current photo and a card written as if Charlie has written it telling her how he is and what he enjoys doing. She always sends a little letter back and in one letter she wrote 'Thank you for giving him the life he deserves'. I think you should think about those words and remember, your little girl wanted to be with you at the end so clearly was devoted to you so you must have given her the life she deserved and you can do no more than that. You will always remember the happy times but it must be very hard at the moment.2
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Thank you so much for your kind words. Yes we still think about how she managed to climb the stairs to wake us, where she got the strength from? but she did and that's what counts. Having spoken to friends and family who have lost dogs we realise how lucky we were to have her at home when she went. I don't know how people get over that dreaded last visit to the vet and the putting a pet to sleep and so we're grateful to our Coco for saving us from that. 5 is a nice age for your Spaniel, is he a King Charles?0
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No, ours is a Cocker. Nutty as a fruit cake but so full of character with communication skills second to none! Its so very sad when you lose a pet and I think those who don't have experience of owning a pet fully understand. I think its especially true of dogs as they really interact to the point of being a 'little person' in the family. We used to live next door to a couple with little black terrier and every morning they would let him out into the back garden and he would return to the back door and bark to say he wanted to come back in the house. One morning he didn't come back to the door and we all went in search, looking in all the gardens and under bushes. Sadly we never found him and they never got to know where he went as he could not have wandered into the road and could have only got into one the gardens or under one of the sheds but even though we searched for hours we found nothing. He was only a tiny dog and he was 15 years old. The vet said that dogs often know when they are dying and very often they take themselves off somewhere to die alone which was extremely upsetting for them.
You will always treasure her memory and those last few minutes she so desperately wanted to spend with you. Take care. x
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Ah right nice, I like all Spaniels to be fair they really are lovely dogs, yes I'm not sure people who don't have pets fully understand but the majority are sympathetic, you'd have to have a heart of stone to not feel something for a defenceless animal. Dogs are so faithful and give unconditional love, are always happy to see you, don't ask for anything apart from food, water and a stroke or three. I think that's why it hurts when they go because we're never happy to see them go, well I've never yet met anyone that was happy to see their pet go.
What a terribly sad tale with your neighbours, I certainly wouldn't have wanted our dog to go that way, interesting what the Vet said I can sort of believe it, after all animals do have much stronger senses than ours. Yep the memories are strong, thank you again and take care.
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I am so sorry for your loss of your beloved furry family member.
It’s never easy is it, no matter how many pets you have over the years, they all have different characters and their own traits and habits.
Take care.The person who says it can’t be done, should not interrupt the person who is doing it.1 -
Omg that actually made me cry. And I don't cry easily.1
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