£20k for a wedding?

pollypenny

Surely, the point is to spend what you can afford. And prioritise. 

If someone has only focused on a big, bells and whistles wedding they can't complain if they are unable to put a deposit on a home. 

fred246

Before I retired I used to have discussions of finance with younger professionals. I used to say if you want to get on the property ladder you probably have to reduce your spending somehow. He was saying the stag parties were a nightmare. Would you like to come on my stag weekend? I'd better say yes. It would be horrible to refuse. A couple of weeks later. Could you please transfer £1K into my bank account for the stag weekend. I did sympathize with him. I suppose with social media you are in contact with more people than you would be previously. So a stag or hen party is much bigger and you have more of them. I only remember it because I wondered what I would do in his situation.

SteveVy

Not sure if anyone mentioned it here yet but its pretty normal for asian weddings to cost £100K plus....

I can provide a break down of a typical asian wedding if someone wants to see costs...

Pollycat

SteveVy said:

Not sure if anyone mentioned it here yet but its pretty normal for asian weddings to cost £100K plus....

I can provide a break down of a typical asian wedding if someone wants to see costs...

As long as nobody is expecting me to contribute towards a wedding, I'm not bothered how much it costs.

And if I'm not contributing, I don't think it's any of my business how much it costs.

caprikid1

Personally I would rather spend £20K on a wedding than £30K on a big diesel exec car that would be currently sat on my drive depreciating like a stone. I even see the point of this thread personally, crazy to get in unmanaged debt for a wedding but appart from that it's surely no one else's business and on the whole jealousy from some that people can spend 20K on something they consider friavilous. Personally I had the choice between the money and the wedding. We went for the wedding and were together 20 years, no regrets. We had no money then we separate with enough money to make the large sum spent on the wedding insignificant. Our friends talk about the day still, it was amazing.

Pollycat

caprikid1 said:

Personally I would rather spend £20K on a wedding than £30K on a big diesel exec car that would be currently sat on my drive depreciating like a stone. I even see the point of this thread personally, crazy to get in unmanaged debt for a wedding but appart from that it's surely no one else's business and on the whole jealousy from some that people can spend 20K on something they consider friavilous. Personally I had the choice between the money and the wedding. We went for the wedding and were together 20 years, no regrets. We had no money then we separate with enough money to make the large sum spent on the wedding insignificant. Our friends talk about the day still, it was amazing.

The original BBC article didn't say any of the couple's they featured had funded their weddings through debt.

I think I was the one to first say that I thought it was silly to get into debt for a wedding.